[lizbeth4]

Thanks P for your post! OMG, today was a hard day. My Daughter and her business partner are calling it quits already and the shop hasn’t even opened. They are not agreeing on anything and the stress and tension has been mounting. The business partner has been shady in some of the things she has been doing and my Daughter wants out. So, her partner is buying her out. She is getting out of the lease (building), but it will take some time for her partner to repay her. What a mess! The sad part is that a friendship is over. My Daughter was feeling relieved today and less stressed about the situation. Better now than down the road when more money and time has been invested. Now my Daughter and Grandson aren’t moving here. But I am staying here as this is now my new home and I am comfortable here. I am only 1 1/2 hours from them. I will still go to the city for 2 days every week to help with my Grandson till school is out. On a happy note, it is snowing here. I love it!! My Grandson, Daughter, and I put up the Christmas tree and decorations today before they went home. We are celebrating Christmas here for my Grandson next Sunday as he is leaving on the 19th for Hawaii. Oh, I went to a estate sale the other day. I was coming home from Walmart and spotted the sign and went to check it out. I spent $18 and bought a cool serving bowl, and a old chair for my bedroom. I was thrilled with my finds. I plan on doing some Christmas shopping tomorrow if the weather permits. I hope everyone had a great gamble free day!!

[lizbeth4]

Hi Cat! Thanks for your post. I did ban myself from the casino last week. Yeah!!! I went to probate court this morning (a friend went with me for support.) Everything went fine and I was appointed personal representative of my Husband’s estate. This paves the way for me to sell the condo. His Daughter hasn’t been found but I was reminded by the Judge that I will have to protect her assets from the selling of the condo. It’s all good and I feel like much was accomplished today. I went by the condo and picked up some stray mail and turned in the cable boxes and had the service turned off. I am here in the city till Friday afternoon, then back home. Cat, I don’t have a white picket fence around my home but it is so perfect for me!!! Take care everyone and have a great gamble free day.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Cat! I thought of you today and since I haven’t been posting very much lately, I wanted to see how you are doing? I am excited for you in seeing your Grandchildren. I only have the one but he is my everything!! He has helped me get through the last 8 months and kept me grounded. I get very overwhelmed also when I have a lot to do. I found that if I just take one thing at a time and accomplish that task, I have the energy to complete everything else! Have a great Xmas and have fun with the Grandkids!!!

[lizbeth4]

I made it to the store and picked up the bike for my Daughter to give to my Grandson for Xmas. I had a rebate debit card from my new cell phone provider so I used that to pay for 1/2 of the cost of the bike. I am sitting here with the doors open enjoying the breeze and sunlight. The handyman/neighbor is putting new motion lights up in my backyard and he cut back the shrub in my front yard earlier. He is going to clean out the gutters today also. Tomorrow I go back to the city till Friday. I need to pack a light bag latter. I would never go back there if it weren’t for my kids and grandson and of course court and the selling of the condo. It is so peaceful here and it suits me just fine. But I need to tie up the legal issues and selling the condo and I want to help with my Grandson. He didn’t want to leave yesterday. It was a tearful event even though I will see him on Tuesday. He says the new place feels like his home!!! I feel the same way.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, I am sorry that you are dealing with insomnia. I still have nights where I don’t sleep well. I can’t live on the sleeping pills but it is hard to have a clear head and function when you are sleep deprived. You don’t have any control over anyone but yourself. It is too bad that your grandson’s father won’t let him go to Disneyland. I’ve had a few gambling thoughts also but not strong urges and I don’t want to go there either. Stay strong. Isn’t that irritating, no one can tell you about your last pay check. I dealt with a lot of crap getting my Husband’s benefits, ect… in order and it is so frustrating. You might have to go to your employer in person to straighten it out. Take care and try to relax today.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, I didn’t take the memorial bush with me as it would die here with the colder weather. I wanted to take the butterfly bush also as my Husband and 2 Daughters planted it 8 years ago to replace a bush that died, but it thrives in the heat. So, I left them both. I have so many rose bushes and trees (1 peach tree) and other plants, plus a lot of wild strawberries in my yard. Maybe this spring we can plant a new memorial bush for my Husband. My Mom and I went to the Art and Craft show. I bought myself a turquoise necklace and a new scarf (purple). We went to a upscale shop here and I bought a new pair of dress pants and a blouse for court on Wednesday. We picked my Grandson up from the shop and he and I had lunch and are playing computer games and talking. They are going home in a few hours but I will come to Phoenix a day earlier (Tuesday) and spend 3 days with them before I come home, going to court and helping with my Grandson. I need to put my Christmas tree up this next weekend as we will celebrate Christmas early as my Grandson and his Dad and his other Grandmother leave for Hawaii on the 19th of this month. I will pick up his new bike tomorrow for my Daughter and I ordered his new Ipod and it will be here next week. We decided to get him big gifts and not a lot of little things. He will celebrate Christmas in Hawaii with his Dad’s family. His birthday is in the first half of January, so more presents!!! The court date is almost here and I am ready to get it over with. I haven’t done much around the new home the last 4 days as I have had my Grandson with me most of the time. So, this next weekend I need to unpack some more boxes. I am down to 10, and I want to do some more yard work. Carole, it is beautiful here!!!! I love it and my new home. I will go to the condo while I am in the city and see if there is any mail in the box and check out the condo. It seems like I am real busy all the time!!!!!!

[lizbeth4]

Today was another peaceful, content day! I went to Home Depot with my handyman/neighbor and picked up the rest of the stuff for the little fixes at my new home. He fixed everything inside and is going to clean the gutters and trim some huge bushes in my front yard. I took my Mom to the dollar store and picked my Grandson up from his Mom’s boutique. We have been playing games and are getting ready for dinner soon. Some glitches in the building of the clothes racks and dressing rooms are being figured out today and hopefully they will be finished by tomorrow evening as my Daughter, Grandson, and the people who are helping her have to leave to go home and back to work on Monday. Starting a new business can be stressful and challenging but my Daughter is hanging in there. A flock of ducks just flew past my house, amazing!! I hear the geese again. Tomorrow my Mom, Grandson, and I are going to a art and craft show. It sounds like fun!!! P, this is the happiest I have truly felt in a long time! My Grandson had a crying session last night about his Papa! I just held him tight and let him cry and I cried with him. He is missed so much!!! But I truly believe that he is watching over us and is happy with the choices that I have made.

[lizbeth4]

Thanksgiving was awesome! I baked my first turkey as I always brought the ham to dinner. It was so moist and delicious. My ex-son-in-law came up and he is staying here helping my Daughter with her new shop. He is building 3 dressing rooms for her this long weekend. My Grandson and I are hanging out playing games, ect… My ex-son-in-law is a electrician and he fixed my electrical problem. Now my shed has electricity and I have outside lights in the backyard. It took him about 5 mins. to figure it out. I have enough left overs to feed a army so I told my Daughter and friends at her shop to come by and eat whenever they are hungry this weekend. Life is good and I am happy!!! Hope all of you had a great Thanksgiving!!!!

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, Hang in there and don’t get discouraged. I think going to Disneyland and away from your environment is a great idea. Have fun watching the Grandkid’s excited little faces. I am glad that you quit your job as it sounds like a very negative place. Stay strong and positive as a new job will come your way which is more suited for you, then everything will fall into place. Take care.

[lizbeth4]

Thanks for the post Carole. I don’t mind doing yard work, it is therapeutic for me. I would love a dog but I don’t think I am getting a cat. Only one pet for me. I can always find something to do here or the surrounding areas. I am going to join a gym, get my house and yard in shape, maybe volunteer, the museums here are asking for volunteers as is the animal shelter and help my Daughter with my Grandson and at the shop when she needs me. Right now my Daughter isn’t doing any online selling. Maybe she will when her boutique is up and running and is stable. My Aunt in California is fine but her Husband was in the hospital for 1 week. He had to have his lung drained and the doctor punctured it. He is home now and doing alright. My Cousin (their oldest Daughter) lives with them and takes care of them or they would be living in a assisted living home. I made deviled eggs, pumpkin bread, and have everything ready for dinner tomorrow. I want to wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving. Have a great day.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole I think that you are a amazing woman. Moving, being on your own and going back into the work force. Moving was a lot easier for me than I originally thought it would be. I am getting settled in my new home and surroundings. I hate it when I go to the city 2 days a week to take care of my Grandson. Not that I don’t love being with him. I am getting used to the small town feel of things. I will be glad when they move here in June. Give yourself some credit as you have really accomplished a lot!! Take care.

[lizbeth4]

Thanks Carole for the post! I liked things about my condo but it didn’t feel like my home anymore without my Husband there. It was time for me to move on!! I am going to get a dog sometime next year, probably when my Daughter and Grandson move here in June. It will be a commitment and a lot of work but I love animals. I am thinking of a Golden Retriever. I am looking forward to getting the court thing (Dec. 4th) over with and selling the condo. I am going to find a gym here to join after Thanksgiving. There are 4 to choose from, so I need to see which one will fit me the best. I took a little walk today as it is beautiful here. My oldest Daughter (who is opening the shop here) and I are getting along so well and our relationship has never been better. I think we both have done some changing for the good. My Mom and I are trying. So, I feel positive about that. Our family will never be perfect, who’s is? Thanks Carol for your encouraging words. Looking back to January of this year when we found out my Husband had terminal cancer and his death till now, it blows my mind that I made it through all of that without totally losing it!! I pulled a lot of my strength from my friend’s support. So, thank you all who always were there and send me your prayers and support!! This move and my new home was one of the best decisions that I have made for myself. It’s lovely here and though I have to do yard work now, LOL, it is so peaceful and relaxing here. I found HOME!!

[lizbeth4]

Hi Kathryn, I was glad to see your post. Do we ever have enough time for ourselves? I think that we just need to allot the time and take it!!! It sounds like you are doing well. I am sorry that your Mom is having bad days. I moved right down the street from my Mom (about 1/2 a mile). Even though she is alright, mentally and physically, I like the idea of being close in case she needs me! I guess it just gives me peace of mind. Remember to take some time for you!!! Take care!!

[lizbeth4]

Hi Cat and P! I came home this afternoon. It is raining and is supposed to be for the next 3 days. It was quite foggy once I was up in the mountains. My Mom and I went grocery shopping for Thanksgiving which will be at my new home. She was sweet and had made stew and cornbread for our dinner. My Daughter and Grandson are coming up tomorrow after his championship play off baseball game. I was there Thursday to go to his game. His team is undefeated!!! I assured him this morning when I took him to school that we would see each other tomorrow. He said it was more fun when I was around. It was raining when I took him to school and he thanked me for getting him new sweat pants and socks. He is a character!!! I am happy with my new place though I need to do some small fixes. I am going to contact a handyman this week. Thank you all for your support. I went by the condo on my way home to get my patio plants and I was emotional at all. The next big hurdle is my hearing to be personal representative of my husband’s estate on Dec. 4th and then to sell the condo. I think it will go fast. It needs some cosmetic work but I think if I price it right it won’t be on the market long. God has heard my prayers and has guided me to where I am today. I feel like everything with the condo is going to be okay. Take care everyone!!

[lizbeth4]

Hi Cat, it is always a pleasure to have a post from you. I do feel more content these days. I took my Grandson to school this morning and I will pick him up this afternoon. He has a baseball game this evening and Saturday is their last. They are undefeated!! I slept with him last night and he told me that he didn’t want me to go home on Friday. It feels good to have someone love you that much! I am doing some laundry and straightening up my Daughter’s apartment for her today. Her store is going to open in December. She was aiming for the day after Thanksgiving, the 29th of this month but it’s not going to happen. I didn’t get that emotional when I left the condo as I feel like my new home is really home to me!! Friday when I leave to go home, I need to swing by the condo to pick up my outdoor patio plants. I won’t go back to the condo until the later part of December so I can clean before it goes on the market. My days are busy but that keeps me out of trouble, gambling!! I am going to join a gym and look into volunteering once a week somewhere after the holidays. Take care everyone and have a awesome day.

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