[lizbeth4]

I went to credit counseling and found a company who condensed all of our bills into one monthly payment. They stopped the interest and any other fees. I paid for 2 years till everything was paid off. Now I have a automatic withdrawal from my checking account into my savings account every month. I don’t miss the money and it adds up fast and makes more interest. My new goal for 2014 is to put more money into my saving!

[lizbeth4]

Hi P, I am sending you hugs)))) I am sorry that you have no support from your family. I have felt that way also and it hurts. Just recently I have been able to build a relationship with my Daughter and my Mother. I know you must feel lonely and sad about the situation but you have a lot friends and support here at GT. I know it is different since you can’t see us but just remember us when you are down, we are here for you. You and others here were in my corner when I my Husband died and honestly it was my friends who helped me through the hard times not my family. P, family doesn’t have to be blood. I feel closer to my friends than most of my family members. Take care and stay strong.

[lizbeth4]

I am back home! The jewelry party was fun. It was held at Mexican food restaurant..so I got to pig out and shop at the same time!! LOL!!! I bought 2 necklaces and a ring! If I was still gambling, I wouldn’t be able to do that. It feels good to treat myself once in awhile. My Daughter was less stressed when I left. She thanked me over and over for helping her with my Grandson and giving her some TLC. Face it, we all need some TLC sometimes. One of my Cousins is coming here to visit for a few days. She is staying with my Mom. I haven’t seen her for a few years. She is only 3 years older than me but she has severe health issues. It will be good to see her. We are having dinner together tomorrow night. I am home for 4 days so I am going to tackle my storage shed and get it organized as I have just thrown things it there. All and all, I am happy at the progress I have made getting things organized since I have only been here a little over 2 months. I like everything in it’s place. Just one of my pet peeves. I helped my Daughter take a few loads of stuff to her storage unit this morning as she is moving the end of July. She sub-leased the apartment from a friend who lost their job and was stuck in the lease. I am not sure if my Daughter is going to rent or buy a place. But we are going to start packing stuff up and get ready for the move. Usually the first day that I am home, I need to unwind and just spend the day relaxing. It seems like I am always on the go. I am busy also faxing things back to the title company handling the sell of the condo. It is a hassle sometimes but it will be good to get that over with and move on. Oh, the man who lives across the street from me came over the other day. He hands out food samples for companies at one of the grocery stores here in town. He said he would bring left over samples to me if I wanted them. Very nice of him. My next door neighbor is 93 years old and a sweetie. The other side neighbor’s children are selling the place as their Mom died right before Xmas. They are really nice. There are other siblings and they have to sell everything and split the money. It’s kind of sad as her Daughter lived with her and now has to move. Well, so much for my rambling. Life is good ! Take care everyone!

[lizbeth4]

Being with my Daughter and Grandson
Having a nice cup of tea to start the day
Feeling grateful for all I have in my life!

[lizbeth4]

I arrived in the city yesterday. My Daughter was happy to see me. She hasn’t been able to get much sleep due to my Grandson still trying to get over his cold. His coughing at night kept them up the last 2 nights before I got here. She is also having a lot of stress at her new job, the one she loves. A new manager was hired and he asked her to do something which she found unethical. She went to the CEO and discussed it with him and he agreed with her and pulled the manager in his office for a talk. She is apprehensive as what will happen now with the manager and his treatment of her. Having little sleep only intensifies the stress. After dinner I sent her off to bed and made some hot tea for her. She relaxed and watched her favorite TV show and fell asleep. My Grandson and I played and read and I gave him some cough syrup and we went to bed. Everyone is still sleeping as I have my tea this morning. It is another early out day for my Grandson. We are tying to figure out what we are going to do this evening as Mom has a date she is going on. I am staying part of Saturday to attend a jewelry party hosted by one of my Daughter’s friends and then off to my new place. It feels good to be needed. Our relationship has progresses so much the last 10 months. It makes me happy!!

[lizbeth4]

Carole, I am thinking of you and your Mother. Take care.

[lizbeth4]

Thanks P for the post. I am feeling much better now. I rested and drank plenty of hot green tea and that seemed to do the trick. I had a crappy day. My bank alerted me that someone was trying to use my Visa/ATM card as somehow they had the number. Since it looked suspicious they shut down the card and called me. Someone almost had themselves a nice vacation package and some sports equipment. I had to go to the bank and get a temporary card and they ordered me a new card. Thank goodness that the banks are on the look out for fraudulent activity. I had used the card to purchase a few things online, maybe that is were it was breached. I guess this type of thing happens a lot according to the person who helped me at the bank. I am grateful as they could of caused a lot of damage. I did manage to clean my house today as I am going to they city soon for a few days. Going to the gym with my Mom tomorrow morning. Nothing else going on. I feel kind of drained (emotionally). Take care everyone.

[lizbeth4]

Okay this is the 3rd time I have tried to post. Somehow I keep deleting it! Let’s try again. I am at home now for a few days. It feels good to be home. I woke this morning with a sore throat as I obviously caught what everyone else had at my Daughter’s home. I am taking some cold medicine and drinking hot green tea. I am going to rest today as I want to go to the gym tomorrow morning and I am taking my Mom to a eye appointment tomorrow afternoon. My youngest Daughter said good bye to the condo Friday evening. It was emotional for her as we had a lot of memories there. I told her that we would carry those memories with us and that we could make new memories at my new home. I never felt the same about the condo after my Husband died. I didn’t want to live there anymore. I feel comfortable in my new home and since I am starting a new life it felt like the right thing to do. Life does go on! I have had some challenging times and it has been real sad and hard to be without my Husband but the grief has lessen. I am putting myself out there more and I am meeting new people in my community and I am up to try new things and activities. I am not one for crowds, ect.. so this is new for me. One step at a time! The geese are out and about this morning! They are just fun to watch! I had a close friend of mine, we knew each other but didn’t become good friends till my Husband became ill, tell me that having me as a friend made her a better person. Oh, that is what life is all about. Not material things but the people that you have in your life who love you for yourself. I feel the same about her as she was my rock and helped me through the early dark times and helped me to stay strong. Enough of my rambling. Have a great gamble free day everyone.

[lizbeth4]

Even though it is the start of my day:
I am enjoying my tea
I’ve posted on some of the threads here on GT
I am thankful and grateful that I am here and healthy
I am spending the day with my sick Grandson (cold)
relieved that the condo has sold!!
living life one day at a time and enjoying my journey

[lizbeth4]

Welcome to GT! You’ve made the first step coming here and recognizing that you have a problem. I knew I had a gambling problem but I didn’t want to deal with it until I just had enough. There are reasons why we gamble and that is the painful part of recovery, dealing with the demons that make us want to escape our lives. Gambling is just a quick fix not the solution. Can you join GA and get support? GA did help me immensely. Keep posting here because we have all been there and you will receive great advise and support. I still think back on the times that gambling took me away from my family time. Time I can not replace. But we have to forgive ourselves and learn to live a healthy gamble free life. Stay strong and take it one day at a time.

[lizbeth4]

I am here in the city. My Daughter has left for work and my Grandson is still sleeping. He has a nasty cold as do his parents. I am taking airborne and crossing my fingers that I don’t catch it! I bought Lysol wipes and have wiped down door knobs, countertops, any thing that I can. I had to change plans and my youngest Daughter and I are meeting at the condo this evening after my other Daughter gets home from work. I really dislike the city now and it is hard traveling back and forth. Next week my Grandson has 2 early release days from school so I will need to be here. I did sleep well last night as I think I was exhausted. Nothing else really going on. Take care everyone and have a great gamble free day!

[lizbeth4]

Cat would you please give Carole this message when you talk to her? I am thinking of her and her Mother. My thoughts and prayers are with her. If there is anything that I can do just tell me. Take care of yourself.

[lizbeth4]

Cat, as always it is good to hear from you. I am glad that my posts have a upbeat feel to them. From the death of my Husband, I have learned that we only have one life to live and that we should make the best of it! I do put a lot into the hands of God such as the condo. I started stressing about it and I gave it over to God. I was at peace with it and I knew the outcome would be good. I don’t know why my Husband had to die but I want good things to come out of his death. He would want me to live a good life and to be happy. I am waiting for my realtor then off to the city. My Daughter called and my Grandsons cold got worse during the night. He is coughing a lot. His parents have been taking alternate days off of work to stay home with him. They both have deadlines to make tomorrow. I might stay through the weekend if needed. I am stopping by the store on the way out and picking up some airborne to start taking. LOL!!!! Cat, thanks for your support during my Husband’s illness and death. It meant so much to me and helped me cope with everything.

[lizbeth4]

Thanks P for the encouraging post. I do see the strength in myself. Sometimes I am surprise by it. I think that I am growing as I am willing to make changes even if they are difficult ones. I am trying to make my life better. I have awesome news! I have a great offer on the condo, just under my asking price. My realtor is coming by tomorrow morning with paperwork for me to sign. This is just another step in my process of moving forward in my life. My Grandson is feeling much better as kids rebound so fast. His Dad decided to pick him up from school the next 2 days. I am still going to the city on Friday and meeting my youngest Daughter at the condo. She wants to see it for the last time. She said she was going to miss it. Maybe we will do lunch and then I am coming back home. My Mom didn’t have her eye surgery today as he wants to do it outpatient (hospital) instead of his office. So he scheduled it for the 27th of this month. We had dinner together and she came over to my house for awhile. Everything is good and I feel less stress in my life. P, I worked out this morning and my thighs and butt muscles were hurting all day!!!! They have water aerobics also. Maybe I will try it out!!! I had bake salmon and salad and veggies for dinner. I am trying to get back to a healthy lifestyle. There are a lot of hiking trails around here that I would like to hike but not in the shape I am in now. One day at a time, one step at a time!!

[lizbeth4]

I made a big commitment today. I joined a gym. It is owned by the Native American Tribe here. I went to all 3 gyms today and toured them. This one had more to offer and was the cheapest. It also has a heated into pool and all the extra classes, yoga, ect.. are included in the monthly fee. Also, my Grandson can come and enjoy the pool for a small fee!! There are also basketball courts we can use. I am excited as I am doing my first workout tomorrow. I need to remember to take it slow and build up my stamina. Tomorrow afternoon, I am taking my Mother to the eye doctors again as the growth on her eyelid has come back. This will be the 3rd surgery. I hope this is the last one. After I get her home, I am going to the city for 2 days. My Daughter called me today and my Grandson is sick, probably a virus. She is working from home tomorrow and taking him to the Doctors. I have more interested buyers and we are just waiting for their offers. Hopefully we will have a solid offer soon! I posted on Kathryn’s thread and what she going through is probably what I will be going through at some time. My Mother is really slowing down physically and mentally. I am so glad that I moved closer to her as my Sister has a full time job and can’t be here as much. I watched my Mother take care of both of my Grandma’s, her Mother and her Mother in law. It is a hard job. My Mother told me today that when the time comes that she wants to go to a assisted living place. Even though those are her wishes, it will be hard to do. I will deal with that when the time comes.

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