[lizbeth4]

This morning I signed the final paper to close on the condo. That part of my journey is over with. I have a friend who lives in the condos and with whom I have lunch with every month, so I will still be able to see the community. The city isn’t for me anymore. Too much traffic and people rushing about. Today after school, my Grandson and I will be going to my place for the weekend as my Daughter is working on a big project for work. In the aftermath of reducing the workforce and cutting hours at her employment, she has landed 2 huge accounts for the company and is working her butt off. She was drained by the time I got here yesterday. I took over so she could get some sleep and re-group as she was stressing out (stomach problems). She was in a much better mood this morning. I am doing some laundry, ect…so she doesn’t have to deal with that and she can concentrate on her work business. The woman at the title company was very nice and personable. She lost her Father last year to cancer and she talked to me about it and I talked to her about losing my Husband. It is good to be able to talk about it now without falling to pieces. I am looking into things for us to do in Sante Fe. They have a huge Folklore Museum and Children’s Museum that I think that we would all enjoy. There is a lot to experience there. I asked my Daughter and Grandson to come with me as we all need to just get away and de-stress and explore some place new!!! I am excited! I am going to be able to tuck away my proceeds from the sell of the condo and not touch it. If I was gambling and had that money it would be a disaster!!! I respect my money now and I realize how my Husband had to work hard for everything that he left me. Taking trips, ect…is something that I will have memories of not blowing it at a casino!!! I was pleasantly surprised yesterday when my Daughter commented on how I look like I have lost some weight. I think it is more that I have lost a few inches around my waist area. I am working hard on it and this time I feel like I have really mentally committed myself on exercising and eating right. Just another page of my journey! Sometimes it takes me awhile to get it right!!!! Have a great day everyone!!

[lizbeth4]

Thanks Peacegirl and P for your posts!! Peacegirl, you have gone through a lot with the death of your Brother and Sister in law and your Father’s health issues. I am glad that you are here. You will find a lot of support!! Stay with us and keep posting. P, you are always so sweet. I hope to have a good weekend with my Grandson. I love Mexican food, it is my downfall. LOL!!! I am in the city for 2 days. I signed a 7 day extension yesterday for the close on the condo but received a call from the title company later saying that we are going to close this Friday. Yea!!! When I arrived today, I went by the lawyer’s office and picked up the new personal representative papers I need for closing, went by the condo to leave the mailbox keys and to say good bye for the last time. I am going to the title company tomorrow after I drop my Grandson off at school to sign the final papers on the condo. It was sad to say the final goodbye but like I have said before, my new home feels like home now. After school is out, we are going to my place for the weekend. We are expecting rain all weekend, if not, we will be going on walks and enjoying the outdoors. I am planning a trip to Sante Fe, New Mexico for my Daughter, Grandson, and I next month. It is so beautiful there. (It is spring break for my Grandson) Just a little trip to get away for a few days.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Peacegirl, Thank you for posting on my thread. Welcome to GT! I am sorry that you have gone through so much pain this last year, losing your Brother and Sister in law and dealing with your Father’s health issues. As you read on my thread, I lost my Husband almost 1 year ago. The pain is always there, but it does get easier to deal with. I am glad that you have put barriers in place. I banned myself and went to GA meetings. Do what you have to do to make it harder to gamble and get all the support you can, here and GA meetings. Why do I gamble?? For me it is a escape mechanism, to not have to deal with painful issues in my life. It is hard to confront the issues and it has taken me a long time to work on these issues, but I am doing that. Life becomes more enjoyable when you don’t gamble and you will find yourself growing and changing. Keep posting!! We are all here to support you. Take care.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, you are probably right about letting it go and saying no to any further requests. I know you are looking for a job and your life is hectic right now, but you are always welcomed to my new home!!! I received a heart felt apology from my insurance agent so I am not going to go to his superiors and complain. I am letting it go, but I am changing my car insurance once the condo closes. I signed the extension papers today and we are to close by March 7th, probably before. That’s fine. What is one more week? Take care Carole!!!!

[lizbeth4]

Carole, You are welcomed at my place anytime! I worked out this morning and the realtor came by for me sign the extension paper. So, we will close by the 7th of March maybe sooner. I went to a clothing store with my Mom and bought 2 shirts. We went and had a salad for lunch. I received a email from my insurance agent apologizing to me. It seemed heartfelt so I calmed down. I am still changing insurances after the condo closes. Yes, it is going to take me time to get my home (inside) and the outside looking the way I want. I have been working on the storage/workshop shed. Just a little more to do. Tomorrow I am going to the city for 2 days. The new personal representative letters are back and waiting for me at the lawyer’s office. I will swing by there tomorrow and pick them up. My Grandson is coming home with me for the weekend. We will leave Friday after school is out. I went to the store and picked up the things he likes to eat. It is supposed to rain all weekend, but if it doesn’t we will spend some time outdoors. Take care everyone!

[lizbeth4]

I am getting ready to go to the gym. My realtor is coming over today with the 7 day extension paper for me to sign. I received a email from my insurance (car and condo) agent last night directed towards my Husband and asking for information that I have provided to them on several occasions. The insurance is supposed to be in my name as I faxed a paper to change it to them 2 weeks ago. I responded to the email stating I am confused to why they want to keep directing questions to a deceased person and why they want information that has been given to them several times. I told the agent that it is painful for them to keep asking to talk to my Husband when they have been supplied with a death certificate. I have even gone to the office in the city and been face to face with this person. Once the condo is sold and I stop the insurance, I will find new car insurance also. I have been with the same company for years but since my Husband’s death it has just been a circus!!! I don’t understand. It is rude and disrespectful.

[lizbeth4]

Carole, I agree with Vera. You should take it to a higher level. Why weren’t you given all the information up front so you could make a informed decision? That is not right!!!

[lizbeth4]

Thanks for the post Carole! I worked out this morning and my muscles are feeling it. I didn’t eat healthy or exercise regularly last year so it’s time to start. I am just doing the treadmill for 30 mins and the bike for 20 mins. Once I get acclimated to that, I want to use the weight room. It is hard once you past 50 years of age to get your metabolism going again and lose weight. I did gain weight after my Husband’s death. When I am in the city, I walk around the park that is close to my Daughter’s apartment for exercise. I am working on it!!! I had my taxes done today and I have to pay both the federal and state. It wasn’t as bad as I thought. Just another thing to cross off my list for another year. My Mother and Sister did a puzzle (last weekend when she was here) that I had bought my Mother sometime ago. I love it, so we transferred it to a piece of cardboard and I used puzzle glue hold it all together. I bought a frame for it and I am hanging it in my spare bedroom. It is going to look great there!!! Nothing else going on in my life right now. I have 2 more boxes in my Grandson’s room to unpack. I am going to tackle my storage/work shed tomorrow after the gym. I kind of just threw things in there and I need to organize it. I want to buy a chest freezer to put in there as my refrigerator freezer is so small. Also, I can blanch fresh vegetables when they are on sale and store them there. My new place is coming together although there are a lot of things I want to do. I need to repaint the bedrooms and patch nail holes where pictures were hung. They didn’t do a great job on painting, but it isn’t a big deal. I just talked to my realtor and the buyer asked for a extension of 7 days to close. They are waiting for all of the documents to come in for the loan. I told her no problem. I will have to be in the city to sign all the paperwork at the title company when everything is ready. I will probably have to make a extra trip but that’s ok, it will all be over with and I will have a check in hand. Yeah!!! Plus, I will be able to save the money spent on the condo monthly. I am determined to put that into savings. That is my goal!!!!

[lizbeth4]

Cat, Thanks for this thread. I haven’t gambled this month although I did have some urges. I like being in a positive mood as it just puts everything into prospective for me. I have a problem with not giving myself enough self praise and I feel uncomfortable when someone praises me. That is something else that I am working on. I am thankful that I am not gambling and that I am treating my money with respect.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, I am glad that you are feeling better. You are taking steps to have control over your life. We don’t have control over anyone but ourselves as I am learning. You have a lot going on right now and that can be very overwhelming. But you are taking steps to be able to stay in city where you are happier. You were there for me during my Husband’s illness and death and you helped me to keep going on. If there is anything that I can do to help please tell me. I am here for you!!!! You are a strong woman and I know that you will be alright!!! Stay strong.

[lizbeth4]

I worked out this morning and my muscles are still screaming!!!
It’s a beautiful day here and I am enjoying the weather!!
I didn’t gamble today!!

[lizbeth4]

Carole, I do think that I have dealt well considering that my Husband’s death but there were many days that I laid in bed right after his death and I couldn’t get myself to get up. If I hadn’t had the support of my friends, you in particular, I don’t know what I would have done. Suicide, did cross my mind a few times in the beginning because life was just too painful. Now, I would never think of that. I am being blunt and honest and I hope that I am not offending anyone. I have had several slips with gambling and have moved forward. You have been busy taking care of your Mother and saving a life by donating your stem cells. You will get back on track. I am here for you!!! I worked out this morning and my butt and thigh muscles are screaming!! LOL!!! I ate healthy today also. I am getting my taxes done tomorrow and I have everything I need in a folder. I am thinking that I will probably have to pay taxes. It is what it is!!! I haven’t heard from my realtor or the title company, just waiting for all the loan documents to come in. The 27th of this month was just a rough estimate. We might close a few days later. Just one more thing to cross off my list of things to do. It has been windy all day here. It looks like we might have rain this weekend which is a good things as we have been rain free for 60 days and didn’t have a lot of snow this winter. The main concern is that this town is surrounded by forests and we have a lot of lightning strikes during the summer which cause 90% of our wildfires. I have a emergency bag packed with important documents, medicines, ect.. in case we ever have to evacuate in a hurry. Hopefully that will never happen. Well, I am tired as I didn’t sleep well last night. It is going to be a early night. Take care everyone.

[lizbeth4]

Hi P, I misread your post to me. You didn’t say that we would never meet. Anyways, I hope one of these days we have the opportunity to meet. That would be awesome!!!

[lizbeth4]

P, I feel like we are friends also. I would love to meet everyone with whom I have connected to here on GT. Maybe one day we will meet. My Mom called after my Sister left to go home. She asked me to come over and spend some time with her as she missed me. Part of me is always on alert with her as I don’t know which way she will turn. I am reading a awesome book that my Daughter gave to me on meditating and cleansing your mind of past hurts, ect… I spent 2 hours with her this afternoon and there were a couple of times where she went on about my Sister and she was trying to ruffle me and be hurtful. I took it in, let it go, and didn’t react and I turned the conversation around. It worked!!! She let it go and was pleasant. I am learning!!!

[lizbeth4]

Hi P, keep doing what you are doing. When we stop working on ourselves then we have a problem. I feel like I am changing everyday and it is freeing. Change is usually good. Our blood families might not be what we want them to be but we have the control to choose not to be around toxic people and to realize that some family members are never going to be what we want them to be. I feel closer to you and others on GT then I do to certain family members. You said in your post to me that we will never meet. Never say never. We might one of these days, you never know. Do things for yourself also!! When I work-out that is something I do especially for myself. I am glad that you are reaching out to others when you feel that you need help. I am a very stubborn person and that takes a lot to be able to release that and ask for help. You are growing and changing. I am proud of you!!! Take care.

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