[lizbeth4]

Carole, P, and Vera, thanks for your posts. Carole, stress can do a number on our bodies. You should always go to the ER if you feel like something is wrong. Remember, I arrived at the ER withing 20 mins of my heart attack and I have no heart damage. Vera, I am a lucky person as my Husband provided for me. I am by no means rich but I am comfortable. He always worried that I would have to struggle if he died and made sure that I didn’t have to. Have a great vacation and congrads on the gamble free time. P, the visit with my Sister was good. She left for the city today but she is coming back in August. I have forgiven her for the past but I haven’t forgotten. I think that we can move on and have a relationship. I am going to the city to get my Grandson in 2 hours. I missed the little guy but I did get some sleep and adult time with my Mom and Sister. I am thinking about how busy the next month or more will be. Packing up my Daughter and Grandson and looking for a new home. Carole, I think that a home would be awesome for my Grandson. It will be his home and some place he can grow up in and not have to move. I think it will be a good thing. School starts the first week in August and hopefully they will be settled in the new house and then I can come home and relax. There are quite a few projects that I want to do here at my house. All in time! I hope everyone had a great gamble free weekend.

[lizbeth4]

I spend a enjoyable day with my Mother and Sister. My Sister was happy to see me and we did have some deep conversations. We went looking at properties today as she would like to move here after she retires (4 years from now). She said she would like to be closer to our Mother and me. She said she would like to help take care of our Mother when the time came as she didn’t want me to have to do it by myself. I was really shocked hearing this from her but it was good. She came over to see my home and loved it. It was a good day. I am picking my Grandson up tomorrow in the late afternoon. My Daughter is emailing me awesome pictures of Peru and her adventure. She will be gone for another 9 days. Everything is going well with my Grandson as he is being kept busy. Going to bed, I am exhasted.

[lizbeth4]

Today was hectic! I took my Grandson to the city this afternoon to stay the weekend with his Dad and turned around and drove back home. I went to my Mom’s and saw my Sister for the first time in 14 months. It went pretty well. She hugged me and we talked for awhile. We never talked about the arguement which caused her not to speak to me for 14 months. It was mostly small talk. Tomorrow we are going to the farmer’s market and out for breakfast. I keep telling myself to have no expectations from my Sister as I don’t want to be let down and hurt again. So, even though I don’t feel close to her anymore, I am going to accept the relationship for what it is. She is my Sister and I do love her. I am missing my Grandson but I do need a few days to regroup. He is a lot of fun but it takes a lot of energy to keep up with him. I will be seeing him Sunday afternoon.

[lizbeth4]

Carole, If you feel like it was the right thing to tell your friend of her husband’s escapades then it was the right thing to do. It seems like she would have been the last one to know. He is scum and the sooner she know the better so she can move on with her life. It is good to hear that your Mom will be moving to her new place soon. It’s always good to get away from our lives even if it is only for a few days. Take care.

[lizbeth4]

Thanks P for your sweet post. My Grandson is still sleeping so I have a few moments for myself. We are going swimming again today. Yesterday evening we planted some petunias, white and purple. We will be going to the city tomorrow afternoon so my Grandson can spend the weekend with his Dad. His Dad has lived at the same place for the last 3 years and my Grandson has quite a few kids to play with. I will pick him up on Sunday afternoon. It will give me some time to see my Sister on Saturday and have a little me time. Nothing else happing here!!!! Have a great gamble free day everyone.

[lizbeth4]

Yesterday evening my Daughter called and my Grandson was happy to hear his Mommy’s voice. She is having a great time. The tour guide and people in the group she is traveling with are awesome. My realtor called this morning and she is going to show me houses in the city. So, we have the weekend after my Daughter gets home designated as our first house looking day. I know the area well and she is going to email me houses so I can pick the ones we will look at. It’s exciting but at the same time a lot of work. I know the end result will be awesome for my Daughter and Grandson and me as well. I can use the house when filing taxes and it will be a investment for me as the housing market here is making a come back. We have plans on swimming today. Nothing else is going on. I don’t know why but I am getting up real early in the morning. It is like I have a built in alarm clock going off. Take care everyone and have a great gamble free day!

[lizbeth4]

OMG!!! We had so much fun swimming today. My Grandson made some swimming buddies and he had a blast!!! I had so much fun seeing him so happy. He must have jumped off the diving board at least 50 times. He is going swimming with his friends tomorrow. Time is going by so fast and he is growing and changing. I feel so previlaged to watch this. I am glad that I am now in the present and not escaping to the casino. We missed a call from my Daughter while swimming. I know he is missing his Mom. Hopefully she can call back soon.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Bettie. Sorry that the job is so hectic and at the expectations that are set are so unreasonable. Remember to take care of your health. Try not to stress too much. I know easier said than done. I would be heartbroken if one of my daughter’s were to move out state so I don’t know what to say. I guess the Times you both see each other will be cherished. Give yourself credit for your gamble free time and for coping with the job changes. You are dealing with a lot now. Take care.

[lizbeth4]

Thanks Charles for your post!! We are heading out soon to go swimming. We are having fun and I am trying to keep my Grandson occupied. Friday afternoon, I am taking him to the city to spend the weekend with his Dad and I am picking him up on Sunday. He has kids to play with at the apartment complex his Dad lives in. My Sister is coming to my Mom’s on Friday thru Sunday. I didn’t get to see her last time she was here because my Grandson was sick. It will be strange at first because I haven’t seen her since my Husband died and we got into a disagreement. I am not putting a lot of expectations on the visit. I reached out to her and I am doing what I feel that I should be doing. We will see how it unfolds. Have a good gambling free day everyone!!

[lizbeth4]

Carole, I could see myself volunteering at the hospital here. This small town has a lot of places to volunteer. I would love to make a quilt. After the summer is over and things settle down. With having my Grandson and looking for and buying a house, my plate is full right now. I know there is a lot out there for me. Take care.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, It was good to see you post! I get lonely also, but I have gone to a luncheon hosted by my realtor and I have attended church a few times. I have a new neighbor and my Grandson and I met him last night while I was watering. He seems like a real nice person. I used to close myself off from everyone and never wanted to participate in anything but family stuff. Now, I am putting my self out there and I am willing to meet new people and be out of my comfort zone. I have heard that the bond you have with your first grandchild is special. I am finding that my grandson is real busy during the school year with extra activities and that as he gets older, my time with him will lessen. That will be a hard one for me. I would love to turn my extra bedroom into a craft room but I am not very talented when it comes to stuff like that. LOL!!! Volunteering at the ER would be a fulfilling job to do. I could see you doing that. You have a lot to offer. Take care.

[lizbeth4]

Yesterday was awesome! My Grandson and I went on our day trip and it ended at the deer farm. There were a lot of animals there. We feed the deer and my Grandson said it was one of the best places he’d ever been to. We made it home before dark. It was a awesome day and so much fun. We passed 2 casinos on our trip and all I could think of was how out of place they looked as we were in a forest, mountain area. I also thought of how many people were gambling and ruining their lives. It is strange how I look at things now concerning gambling. I also thought of how happy I was that I don’t need to gamble and how happy I am with my life now!!! Life does get better without gambling.

[lizbeth4]

Vera, one of things I love about my oldest Daughter is her sense of adventure. They are going do some mountain climbing in Peru. She has been training for months. They made it to the second leg of the trip after a detour. She text me to say they were finally on the last plane headed Peru. Yeah!! I have her detailed itenirary, so I know where the group will be everyday. I still do worry as she is in another country, far from home. We went swimming today and the pool was nice. Tomorrow my Grandson and I are going on a little adventure of our own. A small day trip about 2 hours north of here. We have our cooler out so we n pack a picnic lunch. Sounds like fun!! We are chillin now, swimming makes me tired. Lol!!

[lizbeth4]

PS My Daughter finally made it to the first leg of her trip. She had to go on another airlines. She and her best friend are together so I am not so worried.

[lizbeth4]

Well, I had a good nights sleep. Swimming is on our agenda for today. Yesterday evening we took a nice walk up to my Mothers to bring her some watermelon. I was thinking how thankful I am that I came to GT for help years ago. I have met many wonderful people here and was given alot of great advice which I took to heart and that has helped in my recovery. I have had slips along the way but have been able to return here and continue my recovery. This site has changed my life and saved it. I have learned so much from GT and the support I have received here has forever change my life. I now have money in the bank and a nice home to live in and I am making wise decisions regarding my future. I am living in the now and not gambling with my assets. I am still learning things about myself and dealing with difficult family members, but now I am healthy (mentally) and I am still growing and learning. I like myself and I am finally standing up for myself and not giving control of my feelings to others. That is a big accomplishment for me. It is hard to unlearn something that you have done since childhood. I have made a lot of big steps and I hope to continue doing so. Thank you all for being there for me.

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