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Have a great vacation!

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Hi Bettie, Thank you for your recent post on my thread. Have fun with Deb!! I would like to acknowledge your brother’s death also. I would be documenting every violation at work. I filed many grieviences with the union when I was working. There were so many violations and the management would keep doing them till they were forced to stop!! A lot of people wouldn’t file anything in fear of retaliation. My Husband was a union steward for many years and so I knew the labor laws. I never backed down from doing what was right for the employees. You have to take care of your health. No one wants confrontation but some people will take advantage of their workers. Take of you!!!

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Well I am in the city. I just had my blood work done (routine). The Realtor emailed a list of 7 homes to see tomorrow and I looked online and 3 are off the market. I have provided her with 3 more to take their place. I am familiar with the area as I lived in it for a long time. I compiled a list of 25 homes to see and half of them have been sold already. Kind of frustrating!! Yesterday was a bad day!! My Daughter and I were arguing via texts. Yes, the one who I am helping buy the home for. We haven’t even been house hunting and we are already arguing. She thinks she knows everything or more than me. I have bought and sold many more homes than she ever has. I just don’t care for that attitude!! I am hoping and keeping my fingers crossed that we can be on the same page tomorrow when we house hunt. I’ve been thinking lately about what the purpose of my life really is. I have always been a wife, mother, and grandmother. A lot of people know what they want to do with their lives and go for it. I know there is something out there for me. I guess I haven’t figured what and what path I need to go on to find it. I have been feeling restless lately and maybe that is why I am questioning my future. A lot to think about!!!

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Hi Carole, I hope the colonoscopy went well. I have had 2, so I know that it isn’t fun!! Wow, that was unkind of Danny to eat in front of you. Take it easy. Talk soon.

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Bettie, It’s harder when our parent’s get older too. I try to be a good daughter but I don’t quit measure up in her eyes. My Sister is talking of moving here in 4 years when she retires to help in taking care of our Mother. I know I couldn’t do it by myself. She has even said she could live with her. More power to her!!! You have health issues and you need to take care of yourself first. Just my opinion.

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Hi ICAN, I know it is hard to feel unsure of things in your life. I have been there and it is overwhelming. I hope you find peace. One day at a time! It will be alright. We all have each other’s support. Stay strong!!

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Thanks Bettie for your post. I think some of it has to do with her gambling but some of it is how much of a unhappy person she is. She won’t deal with it, like counseling, and emotionally she checked out along time ago. She talks bad about all of her neighbors and gripes about them continually. It is just sad. I do take it personally as she is never there for me lately. I listen to her and her problems and I try to help her anyway I can. She doesn’t have any empathy in her. It does hurt!! We all want out Mother’s to show they care. I know that Mother/Daughter relationships are hard. I have had my share of difficulties with my Daughters but I try to work through them. I probably over compensate with my Daughter’s as I want them to know how much they are loved by me. Some of the time I can handle her actions but sometimes it just gets to me. I know she gets depressed a lot. But when I suggested counseling years ago, she became very mad at me. I don’t know what the answer is as she isn’t going to change. I need to change, accept her, and set the boundaries with her again. I am going to get a mani/pedi later today. I am worth it!!!

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A lot of misspellings using my kindle

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Oh my this afternoon was trying. My mother didn’t answer her phone. I left a message, but after 3 hours I became concerned. I drove to her place and her truck was gone. I decided to go to the store and then stop back by to see if she was home. On the main guest I saw her heading home. So I stopped back by her place. She had been to the casino. Everything was doom and gloom. She complained about everything and everyone. Omg!! I listened to her and when I starts liking she got up and went to the other room and ignored me. Really? How rude and mean. I went home. She asked what was wrong. Really? I don’t have to explain it to her. She knows what she did. I don’t understand what I have done for her to hate me. Oh, she did talk about my sister, nothing bad. She treats my sister the way she treats me and she will stop talking to her again The last time it lasted 2 years. It is ridiculous. I try to have a relationship with her and she is so cold and uncaring. It is like she has checked out.

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I am back at my home. My Daughter came home around 1 am. She is really sick and went to the urgent care. The DR said it was a virus and there is nothing they can do. She flew on 9 planes during a 3 week period of time. No wonder she is sick!! I dropped my Grandson off at karate camp and I went to the doctor’s for a checkup. Everything is fine. I only have to have blood work done. I came home and took a nap. I will be returning to the city on Friday afternoon and will be house hunting on Saturday. At least I will have a few days to relax before then. Glad to be home.

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Hi Cat, I am glad that you and Carole were able to spend time together. Her Granddaughter’s are adorable!!! You have come along way with the basement renovation. Good for you!! I hope you are having a awesome day. Take care!

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Hi Carole, I am glad that neither one of us gambled!!! It’s good that you and Cat were able to spend some time together. It is hard being around negative people, especially family member, but you were there for a reason and even if your Mother isn’t appreciative, you helped her and did what you felt was right. I know, it is hard sometimes but I think it shows what a good person you are. Some people always focus on the negatives and can’t be positive. How very sad that is!! Your Granddaughter’s are adorable!!! The youngest one looks a lot like you. I am hoping to get back to my life and plans soon. House hunting starts this Saturday. I touched base with my Realtor today and it’s a go!!! It will be good for my Daughter and Grandson and a good investment for me also. I just wish it wasn’t so darn hot here!!! LOL!!! Looking forward to our trip in September. Hopefully, she will be moved by then. Take care. Talk soon.

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I know Carole, I was so glad that I controlled myself and didn’t gamble. It would have been 100’s of dollars and I would have felt so bad afterwards. I am glad that you didn’t gamble either. I am looking forward to our trip in September also. I will be ready for one by then. I have gotten tired watching my Grandson but I have been able to revive myself as his Dad had him for 2 weekends. But I still had to drive him down and pick him up as he has a old truck. He has money to buy a newer one but he is tight with his money!! It all worked out!! I took my Grandson to karate camp this morning and he was glad to see his friends. Some of my Daughter’s friends children go there also and they have know each other all their lives. I meet my Sister for breakfast and then we went shopping. She is going on a work related trip in a few weeks and needed a few things. Okay, I bought 2 blouses, 2 pair of shorts for my Grandson, a purse and a nightstand for my spare bedroom. So, it was a good day!!! I had fun with my Sister and we are getting together on Sunday. My Daughter is in Florida and had a 18 hour layover, next it will be Texas, then home. (sometime around midnight) They wanted to save money on the flight hence all the stops. I called the realtor so we would be on the same page Saturday. (house hunting) I emailed her a list of the homes I want to see as I know the area well and she is from my small town not the city. I am hoping to go home for a couple days are relax before coming back to house hunt. My Grandson gave me instructions not to pick him up till 5pm. LOL!!!! So I am doing some laundry and making lasagna for dinner (his favorite). I am hoping to get back to my life as soon as we find a home and I help them move. I brought all my packing boxes, tape, ect… to her apartment. I am going to help pack her up. I am pretty good at it!! Really keeping busy is the best thing for me and I am excited about getting a home as it will be good for my Daughter and Grandson and a good investment (tax wise) for me.

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Well, I am back in the city. I cleaned out the fridge and did some grocery shopping so my Daughter doesn’t have to run to the store when she gets home. My Daughter isn’t the best housekeeper and she is really unorganized. I cleaned a little and did some laundry before my ex-son-in-law brought my Grandson home. Anyways, we are watching TV and going to bed a little earlier tonight as karate camp starts at 8:30 am. Then I am meeting my Sister for breakfast. I had thoughts of gambling on my way down to the city. I passed the casino in my town with no problem but when I got into the city and passed the next casino, I almost turned into the parking lot. I didn’t though and went straight to my Daughter’s apartment. I am over it now!! I told myself that I would only spend $100 and leave, I was playing mind games with myself. I don’t know where the urges came from but they left once I drove past the casino. I can’t relapse as I need to watch my money with the soon to be purchase of a home. I don’t want to get back into that vicious cycle again. One day at a time!!

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Hi Bettie, Glad that your knee is feeling better! Yeah, the assistant probably got reamed for saying the things she did to you. Sure, they are going to honor your accomodations or you could file suit against them and they know that!!! Have a good road trip and enjoy yourself.

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