[lizbeth4]

Hi Donutd, Welcome. I don’t really know what to say. What can you do differently to stop gambling than you did the last time you were here? Have you tried GA, banning, blocking the oneline gambling sites, and giving financial control over to your wife? Keep posting your thoughts and reading other’s threads. That’s what helped me decide to get serious about not gambling. Take care.

[lizbeth4]

Hello everyone, I worked in my backyard (weeding) for 3 hours this morning. I kind of let it get out of control, so I will be working on it this weekend. I have had a emotional day. I belong to a grief support group (online) and I hadn’t been on the site lately. I went on and read some threads and posted. I got teary eyed and real emotional. I miss my Husband and I feel lonely today. I try to keep busy but it doesn’t make up for the hugs and closeness we had. We always had each other to talk to and he was my friend. It just sucks not having him here. I am moving on with my life but it is hard to let go him. Thankfully, I haven’t been having urges. It would be a great excuse to gamble but it wouldn’t fix anything. I guess I am still grieving. If I wasn’t feeling this pain, then there would be a problem. I just need to let it out and feel it.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Sue, I am sorry that you are going through so much right now in your life. Gambling wouldn’t help anything!! We have a lot in common. My youngest Daughter is a drug addict. She has no children and I suspect that she can’t conceive as the drug use has messed her body up. She was pregnant about 5 years ago but had a miscarriage. We know that we can’t stop their addiction, they have to want to get help and stop. I raised my Grandson for the first few years of his life but his parents finally got it together and have been clean for awhile now and are great parents! My late Husband had a drinking problem, so I dealt with that also. I thought I could help him change early in our marriage but learned that it was up to him to change. I am sorry to hear about your Father-in-law. You can only do your best in taking care of him and if it gets to be too much you may have to place him in a facility. My family tries to take of their own, elderly, but sometimes it is out of our hands and impossible. Remember to take care of yourself, mentally and physically. Sometimes it is hard when everything is on your shoulders. I agree with giving it over to God. Do what you can!! Sometimes everything can feel so overwhelming.. Find so way to have some time just for yourself. Take care!!

[lizbeth4]

Why do things have to be so difficult? Maybe it is just me and I feel like I am at the end of my rope with this new house deal! The appraiser wants the patio roof checked out as it had been leaking but the roof was replaced over 2 weeks ago in that area. There was some water damage to the underside of the roof. So, I had to call the inspection company again and they are going out there tomorrow afternoon to see if there is any leakage and will be emailing me a letter stating what they find. They were awesome as they aren’t charging me anything as he will be in that area tomorrow. I guess I am just ready to get this over with!! I had to close my Husband’s Facebook page down today. My Husband befriended a man who leased the condo next to us. They would sit on the patio and drink beer together after my Husband came home from work. Everyone here knows that my Husband was a functioning alcoholic. This man didn’t work (don’t know where he got his money to live) as he was a full blown alcoholic. Well, he started posting on my Husband’s Facebook when he was obviously drunk and would go on and on with nonsense. Everything he was posting was going to my Husband’s friend list. I messaged him and asked him to stop as he was saying some very strange and I felt insulting things. He messaged me back saying that he wasn’t going to stop so I had to have my Husband’s page removed. He thought that he was doing nothing wrong. But now I don’t have to deal with his postings anymore!!!! It was sad as I liked to go on his page sometimes but I have all of the pictures that were posted there. I guess you have to do what you have to do!!!

[lizbeth4]

Hi everyone!! What a difference a day makes! I had a real yucky day yesterday and I was real crabby!! Doing much better today. I came home yesterday morning from the city and was besieged with requests from the mortgage company, title company, ect.. to sign and return paperwork to them. I guess I just wasn’t in the mood but knew it had to be done. Oh, one good thing about yesterday is that I figured out how to scan and email attachments. I have been paying to fax paperwork to the mortgage company, ect.. Sometimes it takes me awhile to figure things out, but I do! LOL!!! The appraisal came in today and the home appraised at $10,000 more than I am paying for it. Good news!!! It is raining here today and has cooled off a lot. I have my doors opened and it is wonderful. Nothing planned today. I think it is a good day to veg and relax as I deserve it!!!!

[lizbeth4]

Hi Danielle, Welcomed to Gambling Therapy. When I found this site I felt like I couldn’t go on living this way. I had been gambling for 10 years and I had gone through all of my savings and was lying to everyone I loved about my problem. Coming here is the first step. I will tell you what has worked for me and you can take from it what you need. Support-from this site. You will meet a lot of awesome people here that know exactly what you are experiencing and will give you tons of support. Please confide with someone close to you as they can help hold you accountable. Barriers-ask someone you trust to hold your debit/credit cards and live off a preset amount of money weekly. Limit you access to cash. Meetings- GA meetings, they are everywhere and if you can go to many different ones and see where you feel comfortable. People there are very supportive and it helps talking to other’s who are going through the same things and can share their thoughts and views. Keep posting here and reading other’s threads. It helps you immensely!!! Take care. One day at a time.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, How exciting, a helicopter ride!!!! That must have been strange to see it land in your yard!!! The gambling study you are talking about sounds interesting. Before I came to this site, I thought if I only gambled once a week that it was more acceptable and that I was doing better with my problem. I think I was just making up excuses!!! You sound happier and more content. Take care.

[lizbeth4]

Thanks Sad for your post! I am busy but that’s the way I like it. I have learned a lot from my Husband’s illness and death. I am learning to live in the present. I want to make a effort to mend any relationship I can as I we don’t know what life has in store for us. I feel like it is the right thing to do. I may not agree with what other’s do but that is alright, everyone need to live their lives how they see fit. I am still learning about putting up my boundaries as I don’t want to feed into bad behavior or argue over things that are not of importance to my life. I am learning that I can’t make everyone happy and that it isn’t my job to. (people pleaser) Everyone is in charge of their own lives and happiness. It is hard to unlearn the way you have thought since childhood but it a much healthier life I live now. My Grandson and I saw Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles last night and of course he loved the movie. On the way home he talked about his Papa and cried. He misses him so much. I miss him to but I can usually go to fond memories and think of the good times. It is so hard for a child to comprehend. But it is healthy that he can talk about it and it is healthy to cry. He will always be in our memories. We are heading back to the city this afternoon. I will probably spend the night. Oh, just heard from the Realtor this morning and the owners are going to do all the fixes I requested. The appraisal is on Wednesday. We are almost done!!! Yeah!! I am going to work on my backyard this week as the rain has caused a lot of weeds. Hope everyone is having a great weekend!

[lizbeth4]

Well, my Grandson and I made it back to my house. The rodeo is here this weekend so there was a lot of traffic on the way home. We might see a movie tomorrow. Otherwise, we are going to hang out at home. It is 30 degrees cooler than it was in the city. I am tired but my cold is almost gone. Hoping to sleep well tonight. Have a great weekend everyone!!

[lizbeth4]

ICAN, How is your back??? I loved your post as I can relate so much to it. When we gamble we do give up our dreams, goals, and ambitions. It is hard to get all of these back but we can!!! Keep focusing on these things like you are instead of gambling. Anything is possible!!! Take care.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Bettie, I am sorry that your Mom made you feel sadand defeated. Been there and done that!!! It doesn’t get any easier with emotions but it has been easier for me to get up and leave. Remember, we can’t make people change and our Mom’s aren’t going to change at this point in their lives. We just can’t let them drag us down. I think that we have to take care of ourselves physically and emotionally. I know that you must be missing Jen a lot! It is healthy that we aren’t treating our children the same way as our Mom’s treat us. Hang in there with your work situation. I know it must be hard to not lose it! You are a strong woman.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, I am glad that you didn’t gamble!!! I think that it was awesome that you cared enough to talk to your renter about his drinking. I agree with what Bettie said, I could have been a alcoholic, drug addict, but chose gambling as my escape.

[lizbeth4]

I didn’t do much today. My Mom and I went to the grocery store and I spent some time with her. I am going to the city tomorrow to pick my Grandson up from school so he can spend the weekend with me. My cold isn’t any worse. I am going to have some soup and then just rest for the remainder of the day!! Hope everyone is having a awesome day!!

[lizbeth4]

Yeah Kathryn!! Way to go!!!!

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole, Thank you for your post. I am glad that you had a good birthday. I will never forget the birthday that I spent with you!! I am ready for the house deal to close soon and for my Daughter and Grandson to get moved in to the new home so I can resume my life!!! I am glad that you are getting out with friends for lunches and suppers as I found that it is not good just to sit home. Then everyday seems like the last and they just run into each other. It sounds like you have been busy with the Grandkids! I haven’t had much time to work in my yard. LOL!!! It’s been raining her a lot and the weeds are popping up. I keep spraying them with killer!! Yes, to tell the truth, I am looking forward to winter as this town becomes quiet as no one travels through it to go camping. Hopefully, I will get MY LIFE back soon as there are many things I would like to do. Take care of yourself.

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