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Hi Vera! The gambling thoughts went in out of my brain. I won’t be going there. I did think I was having urges as I deserved a break from all of this work. I know in reality that gambling isn’t the answer to any problems. That doesn’t stop the urges from popping up. I can finally see the fireplace in the family room as most of the boxes have been unpacked. Only 75 more boxes to go! How can one person have so much stuff? Grandsons belongings fit into 8 boxes. Time for her to purge. All is well and we are getting along. I am helping her without trying to take over. Trying to find my boundaries with her. Well, I am going to get back to unpacking. Have a great day everyone.

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Change of plans. Taking my Grandson home with me Friday after school for the weekend. Coming back to stay for another week. My daughter has landed 2 large accounts for the company she works for. Which means a lot of work at home Next week is a short week for my Grandson at school and his Dad is working out of town. I took a break today from unpacking and spent part of it with my youngest Daughter. It was good to see her. I picked up my Grandson from school and took him to get a haircut. School pictures are on Friday. I thought about gambling today as I am surrounded by casinos. Why, I don’t know. The thought came and went. I am tired but the end result is well worth it. The landscapers were here and the front and back yards look awesome. Feeling a little overwhelmed as so much is going on but I am hanging in there. My Daughter told me again this morning that she couldn’t have done the move without me and how she appreciated all my hard work. Its nice to hear

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Hi P , thanks for your post. This weekend was just crazy. Saturday was real busy with the move. All went well. It was just a long day! Besides moving the apartment stuff, my Daughter had 2 storage units that the movers packed up and brought here. It was a little overwhelming. The family room is full of boxes and the overflow is on the back patio. Although I have been unpacking for hours, it seems like there is only a small dent made. Also, my Daughter bought a new bedroom set delivered today. The house is awesome and well worth the work. Tomorrow the landscaper is coming to do the front, back, and side yards. The pool guy is coming back to put some more chemicals in the pool. Oh, and new mattresses are being delivered. I am tired already just thinking about it. My Daughter is going back to work and my Grandson back to school. I will be plugging away unpacking and organizing. I am going home on Saturday. My Grandson and Daughter are so grateful and happy. I am happy just seeing them happy. Thank goodness that I have been gamble free and was able to help with the house and was present to experience the joy it brought. I feel blessed.

[lizbeth4]

Hi Carole. I am sure you have been busy with the wedding, etc… I just wanted to say hi and that I have been thinking of you. Take care.

[lizbeth4]

Happy birthday! Hang in there and stay strong. I know how hard it is to not give into the casino. Ban yourself asap from the casino. Do everything you can to give yourself a chance to be free. Hold onto your possessions as I regret losing some precious items to the pawn shop. They also gain from people’s despair and helplessness. Keep positive. One day at a time!

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Cat, I am so happy to hear about your leg. It is awesome that your Hubby isn’t drinking. Now you can have a new life together. It will be great when you both retire and can have good, quality time together. I am glad that all is well with you. Good for not gambling !

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Thanks C and P for your posts!! My Grandson’s arm is doing well. He’s just waiting for the day when the cast comes off. P, I am going to do something just for me soon!!!! We closed on the home yesterday. Yeah!! We hit a little snag when we went over with a load of fragile things last night. Only half of the electric was working in the home, no air conditioning. My ex son in law is a electrician and he came right over and found the problem. The electric companies wiring from their transformer to the house is bad. The came out at 10 pm and hooked a temporary transformer to the house to restore all of the electric. So, they are coming back soon to replace the wiring. I have taken 1 load over to the new home this morning and cleaned all the carpeting in the 4 bedrooms and cleaned the pool. I am back at the apartment taking a break and having lunch. I am going to make at least 1 more trip with lamps, ect… back to the new house. The movers are coming tomorrow morning at 7 am. The guy that my Daughter has been subleasing the apartment from isn’t taking back possession till Tuesday so that gives us time to come back and clean. I think I am staying most of next week to help and be at the house when the cable guy, ect… come as my Daughter has to work. So exciting and the house is perfect for them!!!! No gambling thoughts, too busy to go there!!! Take care everyone!

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Waiting to hear from the title company so I can close on the new home!! I will probably sign the papers on Thursday or Friday. I went this morning and had a mani/pedi. It feels good to indulge on myself once in awhile. It rained here again last night. My rose bushes are blooming. I have almost every color known. I am just relaxing as I will be real busy while in the city helping my Daughter and Grandson move. Life is good! I kept waking during the night as I was having a lot of dreams about my Husband. I think that he would be happy knowing that I was helping my Daughter get a home. He loved them so much. Also, when I was in the city, my Grandson talked about how he almost drowned in the ocean 1 year ago. A current pulled him under and took him out to sea. He was only up to his knees in the water. If it wasn’t for my Daughter’s friend and the lifeguard he would have drowned. My Grandson believes that his Papa was there with him, helping him to get to the surface so he could get some air before he was taken under again. I believe he was!!! Just a thought!

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HI C, Wow, you should be so proud of yourself. It is hard to come clean to our family members. I am happy that they are all supportive of you and your desire to be gamble free. GA meetings are awesome but it took me going to a few different places to find the right fit for myself. It helps to have barriers and accountability as I learned from other’s here when I first came aboard. Keep doing what your doing. Stay strong!!

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P, Thank you for your post. I am living my life very differently since the death of my Husband. I always thought that I could change someone and that I could fix people and situations. That goes back to my childhood and my role as a people pleaser. But I finally realize (after many years) that I can only change myself and how I react to bad situations and bad behaviors. It has been a long process but I am finally getting it. GOOD NEWS!! I am closing on the house either on Tuesday or Wednesday. Wow, it is almost over!!! We had the walk through on Saturday and everything was great!! We are all in love with this home!! I asked that the pool equiptment leaks be fixed and the seller’s had a new sand filter system put in and new pvc pipes. It is all brand new!!! I came home yesterday afternoon after the walk though. I needed to touch base and be home for a few days. It is good to sleep in my own bed. My Cousin came up to stay a few days at my Mom’s, so we visted today. I am doing laundry, ect… so I can re-pack for when I come to the city to sign the closing papers on the house. I am planning to stay for about 1 week so I can help my Daughter move some fragile items and be there for when the movers move her and my Grandson to their new HOME!!! It’s a exciting time for them!!! I am glad to be a part of it!

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Hi Cat! I am so happy that you had a good visit with the Grandkids!!! That is awesome that your Husband hasn’t drank since his health problems. Maybe this is the wake up call for him! Please keep us informed on your biopsy results. I know that I have contributed towards my health issues. I know when I go to the gym, I feel so much better both physically and mentally. Just take it a little bit at a time. Walking is one of the best forms of exercising. Your life sounds real busy. Take time for you!!! Take care.

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Hi Carole! You are one busy lady! I am glad that everything is calm on the gambling front for you. I can’t even think of vacation right now!! Things will settle for me too once we have closed on this home and my Daughter and Grandson are moved in. Weddings are awesome but a lot of work and preparation. It will be good when your life settles down also. I like being busy but I like things being calm also!! Take care!! PS I love golden labs!! I think that I am almost ready to get a dog!!

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Hi Carole!! No, I changed my medications to mail order so I have no standing prescriptions in the pharmacy anymore. That’s alright!! I will go home after the walk through tomorrow and check on my Mother and my home and hang out till I get the call to go and sign the closing paperwork. I am tired, mostly mentally with this home deal but I am hanging in there. My Daughter and I had a few words yesterday as she needs to get it together with the packing. It wasn’t a big deal and she did pack up most of her bedroom. I am going to do the linen closet and bathroom today. I had dinner with my Sister last night as she is renting a condo from a friend and doesn’t live too far from my Daughter’s apartment. It was good!! We talked and went out for a salad! She gave me a nice antique nightstand as she thinks it will look good with one of my bedroom sets. Things have changed a lot for us in the last few months. She and my oldest Daughter are still not talking and I am going to let them work it out for themselves. My Daughter was a little mad or hurt with me when I came back from dinner because my Sister is a sore spot for her. She was fine this morning. Carol, your right, the Oregon coast will be too cold!! Honestly, I can’t even think about vacation right now!!! Well, I need to get to packing. Have a great gamble free day everyone!!

[lizbeth4]

I had a rough day!! I am not feeling well. My allergies are terrible and the medicine I take for relief makes me sleep. I just feel miserable. I was hoping to have this house deal closed sooner but now I will have to go home after the walk through on Saturday as I will be out of my heart medication. This afternoon I lost it with the lender. I have no printer where I am staying and I told the loan processor that and she emailed me something to print out, sign and return. Of course, when I called her back, she wasn’t there and I talked to her assistant who was very rude. I was rude right back. Really out of character for me but I had had it. I emailed the head processor and complained but haven’t heard back from him. They are making this much more complicated than it has to be. I downloaded the email to my Daughter’s computer and she is going to print it out for me tomorrow at work and then I can sign it and she can fax it for me the next day. You would have thought that the lender could have done that for me and I could have gone to their office and sign it. Just a thought!!! Very disappointing!!! No gambling urge though!!!

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Thanks P for your post!! Yesterday, I did spend a nice afternoon with my youngest Daughter. It is hard to watch her suffer with the drug addiction but it was good to be with her. She is so thin and frail. She seems to thrive in the drama surrounding her but I think that she has become used to living that way. I can only tell her how much I love her and pray that she is able to want to change her life. My oldest Daughter, Grandson and I did go out for pizza yesterday. We had a good time. I have been packing up my Grandson’s bedroom. I am starting to fizzle out , so I am taking a little break from it. The underwriter came back with a few more requests today. I had to have another 3 way call with a creditor that never reported that my debt had been paid. So, we had to clear it. Also, they wanted to know why I wanted a second home. According to my Realtor these are common questions. So, it is back to the underwriter again. P, this waiting and being in limbo is exhausting. Also, I am still having allergy issues. Still hanging in there and not gambling.

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