[Lamann]

Well, I just found out that his mom has been sending him money because she thinks he is living on his own in sober living. She’s been an enabler all of his life and constantly gives him money. She lives in Ohio so she doesn’t know what he’s really up to. She and I broke off communication about a year ago after I disagreed about helping him after he continued to gamble and use.
My question is should I tell her that the money she’s sending him (almost 4K in just over a month) is going to his gambling and not anything that he says it’s going to? He’s told her has has to pay rent, insurance. All things I am paying for! Advice please.

[Lamann]

I just stumbled on this site and am so relieved to have an outlet to say what I am ashamed to share. My husband is a gambling and drug addict that has tried to stay clean and stop gambling but cannot stop.
I’ve been with him for over 8 years and after realizing that I’ve enabled him, have gotten the courage to make him leave our house when he doesn’t come home at night after spending all of his paycheck in the casinos. I have made him leave too many times to ***** and now I have given him an ultimatum to live in a half way house for 60 days if he wants to come home.
He’s trying to make me cave by telling me he has no food, gas and is living in his car. It pains me to hear this but I can only remind myself that I’ve bailed him out too many times only to have him be in the same or worse situation.
Now he’s telling me that he wants to get a storage unit to move his stuff out. I am sharing all of this because he’s supposed to come to the house tonight to get some of his things. I know he’ll be remorseful and want me to feel sorry for him enough until I let him stay home.
I am asking for strength from all of you to help me stand firm.

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