[Ky.dunn]

Thanks for your message Meghna, very thought provoking points.
I am feeling better about myself everyday, and also about the longer term outlook.

Starting to see the benefits of my time being put to better use as well. Both at work and at home. Spending more time doing things I enjoy, as well as those tasks which have been neglected in recent months.

Just need to keep plugging away.

[Ky.dunn]

Going quite well so far. No mad urge to gamble despite having money available (though not by any stretch disposable income!). Doing a lot of reading on this forum, which in some way is helping my worry over longer term finances to subside.

Keep reminding myself that – as I said in my original post – I am in a better position now than I have been in the past, as I have money to tide me over in the short term. I am lucky that I had the sense to reduce credit card limits to a very small amount, and both have no balance. On the back of that, all my lending is in one place which I know I can easily manage. In the past it has caused me a lot of worry trying to balance bank loan, family loans, credit cards and an overdraft.

I have a quiet weekend ahead with nothing planned, other than keeping myself busy with jobs that have been neglected around the house, and gardening if the weather allows!

So far, so good.

[Ky.dunn]

Hi Steev,

First of all, thanks for your response and you make some very fair comments! I’ll try to answer them in order…

I think I am a problem gambler, yes. Not sure on compulsive, but I probably am at times. RE ruining your life, not entirely. I think I am definitely capable of ruining my life through gambling, which is probably my main worry! 

The 6 months was without any gambling at all. It has crossed my mind that the addiction could easily be shifted to a different form of gambling, but think I struggle with handing over money in cash, whereas online it is all too easy to add a zero or two and click deposit. 

“What would your girlfriend say if she finds out you are in debt from gambling and are still gambling?” Very good point. She is very black or white in her viewpoint on most matters, and absolutely would not understand it, nor see any difference. 

Your point about giving up the idea of the ‘big win’ was actually something that helped me hugely when I stopped before. The goal has always been to win big, but I asked myself the following – “If you haven’t won big in the last ten years of trying, why would you manage it this time?”

Thanks again Steev.  

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