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Party ON!!!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY to your Grandson! Hope he has a wonderful day and so do all the kids:)

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Loving this post! You really are killing it:)

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Stay warm on that crane! Glad you are hanging in. Gambling is a fool’s game. You are no fool!

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When I was trying to quit, I would pay all my bills up front. Then we would go to the casino and because they had not cleared yet, we would spend it all and watch as the rest of the week the bills I had paid would bounce like rubber balls. Fees and bounced checks were why I would usually go two weeks between the trips. As soon as the damage was slightly repaired, I would do it again.
I am now only two weeks behind in my mortgage where in October I was almost two months. It is getting better. It is just so slow.
Patience isn’t come by easily in a CG. Hang on tight and don’t give in!

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It’s Friday night and I have no plans! I am thrilled by the thought of just relaxing. My husband has been a bear the last few days. He has been dealing with an abcessed tooth. I have had to really dig deep for my compassion. I guess it is something in nurses, I just have no patience for my family when they are ill. I KNOW he has been in agony, what is wrong with me? He mmade it to the dentist today and that will be a nice chunk of change (root canals aree not cheap) this makes two in the last 4 months! One ffor the daughter and one for the hb. Our son just broke off a filiing 2weeks ago, so if I don’t want 3, he has to go soon for a repair. I think of all the money lost in the last 5 years and think how easily I could have afforded the preventative care (had I not been gambling) as compared to the major expenses now. Ahhh, the aftermath of gambling continues to haunt!
I have a roast in the crockpot and my feet up, my hb is medicated and I may even get to watch what I want on TV tonight:)
Life is somewhat tangled, but blessings really do abound here. Just have to keep naming them one by one.

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Every marriage is different, just like everyone’s recovery is different. You know in your heart the best way to keep your marriage stable and healthy. There are a lot of modern, so called “civilized” thoughts as to how a marriage should be. Just because the majority may think something is so, doesn’t mean it is truth. You keep doing what your heart tells you to do. Lying is never right, but protecting the ones we love is something that comes from the heart. Make sure you are protecting her for the right reasons and whatever you decide in the course of your recovery will most likely be just the perfect thing.

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I think you are very wise to leave before the sleepover!
I work in homecare and I see it a lot that older adults have money and yet will absolutely refuse to spend it. Or…the children think they have money only to find that it has been used up without any real accounting of where it went.
It makes me wonder, with all the buses that will pick up seniors and take them to the casinos if we as a society are not encouraging gambling amongst the elderly.
My mother just recently got a parttime job. She sent me a beautiful text today. I am hoping that the job will help her stop being so angry. She is a CG and is always in trouble with my Dad. Everyday she is at work is a day she is not gambling. I hope this doesn’t continue into her senior years. She is only 63!!!

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Dear Malcolm,
There is nothing I can type that will solve this problem. I just want you to know, that I hear you. I cannot imagine your pain, but I am reading. Losing a child, not knowing if they are safe, is unimageanable to me. You are a very strong man. To live with this each day is a heavy burden. Please be kind to yourself. If he ever reaches out to you, I know you want him to see you in the best light possible. Keep doing the work, keep away from gambling and alcohol. Build the life you want him to see. You are amazing! You are an overcomer!!!

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The commitment to change your circumstances is a great thing to read. I have to keep from hiding my head in the sand regarding my debts. I sometimes let out a groan or a maybe a growl and my hb will say what’s wrong. I have to answer, Money! I am worried about one debt in paticular. I have to pay this soon, or else they could probably go after us legally. I have been in a constant state of procrastination regarding this bill. I can’t just send them a little. It is so old, they want big bucks to get me back on track. Maybe the cash will fall from heaven….one thing I am sure of, I won’t be trying to get it paid by gambling. That is why I haven’t been able to pay it to begin with.
Hard work is the only true way out of either of our situations.
Let’s both work hard and put these worries to rest for good!

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Thank you Vera, John, and Lizbeth, I love all your comments!
Parenting my daughter was easy, however she is 21 now and has a lot to learn about life. She is not currently in college, works part time and needs us to help pay some of her bills. She has taken several courses at the State college her, but has a terrible time with finals. She has the worst test anxiety I have ever seen. Her future is a bit worrisome. I couldn’t ask for a sweeter, kinder daughter, but I have no idea how she will support herself. She was engaged and was supposed to get married last October, but they broke up not long before the nuptials. They had dated 3 years. It was probably a good thing. He had a problem with lying over the silliest things. He always wanted everyone to think the best of him, even if it wasn’t true. I am glad they are not together, but I know my daughter is still grieving the loss of that dream.
My son, well he is agenius. He sings, he has his teacher’s wrapped around his fingers. He is so charming and handsome, he is also a know it all, smart mouth. He is such a wonderful kid to everyone but us. I think he really believes that we don’t understand him. We are so proud of him, but have to reign him in constantly. He made some of the best test scores in the state, brilliant! I adore him, but I can’t hardly talk to him lately without wanting to strangle him. His behavior made me call up my own Mother and apologize. He is just like me!
As far as giving money to people on the street……….
I laughed at your comment Vera, we gave that to a very old man and a what appeared to be a mentally challenged young man who was with him. (They may have been addicts, but they were so pitiful). I told my kids that we gave them enough for a pint and a meal!!!
Later that same evening we were approached in a parking lot by a guy on a bike who was asking us for money, Now that guy was on drugs! No doubt he was tweeking (my 16 year old’s term). Eyes huge, pressured speechl the whole bit. We did not give him money. I guess I try to use judgement. I don’t really have money to give away. I have debts that I have not addressed in months. I have Big debt. But I remember a preacher when I was a teenager and he said this about giving money away. “It is up to the person you give it to, it is up to them what they do with it. If your heart is right when you give them a dollar and they use it
for drugs, that’s not your problem. That’s their problem.
God saw your heart and he will bless the giver.”
There are too many people here that live on the streets. People come to Florida in the winter because most nights they won’t freeze if they can’t find shelter. It is unbelievable the sheer number of homeless we have here.

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I got chillbumps up my arms when I read this. Thank you Vera for the perspective, this is a beautiful poem and a hopeful look towards the future. I don’t know what the future holds, but I know Who holds the future.
Lovely, lovely poem.

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I got chillbumps up my arms when I read this. Thank you Vera for the perspective, this is a beautiful poem and a hopeful look towards the future. I don’t know what the future holds, but I know Who holds the future.
Lovely, lovely poem.

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J'ai eu des frissons dans les bras en lisant ça. Merci Vera pour la perspective, c'est un beau poème et un regard plein d'espoir vers l'avenir. Je ne sais pas ce que l'avenir nous réserve, mais je sais qui détient l'avenir. Joli, joli poème.

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Meus braços ficaram arrepiados quando li isso. Obrigada Vera pela perspectiva, este é um belo poema e um olhar esperançoso para o futuro. Não sei o que o futuro reserva, mas sei Quem guarda o futuro. Poema adorável, adorável.

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So glad to read you are feeling better. Wonderful news here from your evaluation to your daughter’s new job. Things look brighter. All good things come from the Lord and He is worthy of our praise!
Have a great day:)

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