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Ačiū, kad pasidalinai

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साझा करने के लिए धन्यवाद

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Дякую, що поділився

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Σε ευχαριστώ που μοιράστηκες

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Спасибо, что поделились

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Hvala što si podijelio

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Thank you for sharing

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Hi Jen

When I feel the disadvantages of stopping gambling and what gambling can do for me. These are warning and danger signs!!! They promote gambling in us and keep us addicted. They are a powerful relapse trigger!

I need to attack these lies to counter the ideas and Re-Focus to bring in other thoughts that are consistent with our recovery, values, and freedom from addiction.

We need a written list to help us remember what gambling can do to us and what are the advantage of stopping gambling.

We cannot control ourselves not to have certain thoughts or feelings but we can learn how to recognize those thoughts that are actually driving our urges and how we can refuse to go along with them. We can learn to DISARM them.

Smart Recovery – Disarm

D – Destructive

I – Images &

S – Self-talk

A – Awareness &

R – Refusal

M – Method

I read about them last week, hope you find these information useful.

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agrees with Monica and Steev

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Hi Monica,

Slowly and carefully, you have soldier on. You show us how it was done over time and how our life can improve. One baby step at a time, each of us have a lifetime to do this.

Thank you for sharing your recovery here.

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Just woke up after a good sleep and it is 3.10 pm here.

Gone are the days where I can go without sleep and still can function normally. When I am feeling tired, weak, and exhausted at age 53, it is common for me to have gambling thoughts.

After working the grave yard shift, I need to let myself sleep otherwise the harm and damage done is great.

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I have just finished another grave yard shift at work. I am now physically and mentally exhausted. Compare to last week this day, I knew I was stronger today. Last Sunday, I remember having gambling thought.

Somehow the written exercise I did in the week has given me a clear mind and awareness to made the right choice.

1. What can gambling do for me?

2. What can gambling do to me?

3. What is the advantage of stopping gambling?

4. What is the disadvantages of stopping gambling?

I can feel the big difference, I was more firm, decisive and quicker in choosing to be gamble free.

My blind spots for many years has been not remembering what is the disadvantages of stopping gambling and what gambling can do to me in critical moment.

One remind me of the trigger and always to be “alert, ready and prepared what to do” while the other remind me of the heavy consequences and not to do it. Remembering both gave me the ability to stay stop. 

This is so important to me when my mind get hijack. I can experience a euphoric recall and slip into a mental relapse mode. I will go into a automatic mode, I can only recall the disadvantages of staying stop and what gambling can do for me.

These thoughts promote gambling and keep me addicted to gambling. My thought get distorted and I lose my discipline and self control.

What I did was to revisit the questions and read my answers again. It helps to strengthen my fading memory. I did that a few times this week.

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When under high stress, many recovering people begin to have difficulty thinking clearly, managing feelings and emotions, and remembering things.
One of the main culprits leading to these problems appears to be a tendency to OVER REACT to stress. . . .
Eventually the ability to sleep and rest is disrupted. This heightens stress and fatigue to the point where people become accident-prone / prone to relapse.

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I answer all the 4 questions and wrote it down this week and it kept me strong and safe for a few days but I can feel that it is fading now…

I am slipping into the old ways where I can remember only these 2 questions about what can gambling do for me? and what is the disadvantages of stopping gambling? 

I have forgotten completely about what can gambling do to me? and what is the advantages of stopping gambling?

Recovery can be likened to walking up a down escalator. Every child knows the trick to walking up one is to climb faster than the escalator is pulling you back. You could climb so far up the escalator, but the moment your climbing effort is less than the downward pull of the escalator, you begin moving back towards that bottom. That’s what relapse is like.

Relapse is a process, not an event. The last thing that happens in a relapse process is gambling. Depending on the effort you made to progress up the escalator of recovery, your relapse process could take a longer time to happen.

This can be a message of hope and not hopelessness. If your relapse process takes months or years to lead you back to active gambling, then you have months or even years to recognize the problem and prevent it from getting any worse.

I feel lazy and tired, but have gratitude contentment today. 

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These questions highlighted all our skill deficits,

It show that either we have never learn this thing

or

we need to relearn these things.

If I use gambling to relief stress, I will need to learn new stress reduction techniques

If I use gambling to socialize, I will need to learn to socialize without the gambling.

If I use gambling to alleviate boredom, I will need to find other things to deal with my time.

If I use gambling to made money, I will need to learn other way to made money without gambling.

If I use gambling, alcohol, drug, food and sex for pleasure, I will need to do other things to find pleasure for example – movie, music, art, photography, computer games

If I gamble when I was upset, or angry, I will need to do other things without gambling when I am upset and angry

If I gamble when money is not enough and a dateline for full repayment is near. I must stay calm and be patient, I can choose to take a longer time to service those debt and loans without gambling. 

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