[kin]

H risingphoenix,

Thank you for showing us how you stick to the plan all the way to the end.

[kin]

hi sarah,

Thank you for your sharing.

One of my biggest character defect was having an unhealthy ego.
– blind me to my faults and responsibilities
– making me resistant to change and new ideas / becoming stuck in my own ways.
– created many problems

[kin]

Hi marcus,

Thank you for your post today.

You have help me to remember that staying gamble free gives me the freedom to do whatever I like but I need to be extra cautious and careful.

-freedom to do whatever I like does not include compulsive eating, drinking, gambling, sex and drug.

-freedom to do whatever I like does not include giving up doing the things that has help me to stay stop in gambling.

Be kind and humble always.

[kin]

Hi gustav,

Thank you for your post.

When we are in recovery, we need all the support we can get.
We need to connect to a community of recovery people who help one another to stay clean and sober.

Sobriety takes a village. Without support, we risk the painful reality of a relapse.
Striking out on our own can send us down the road to relapse.

Having a good support and accountability system increase our chances.
It takes a village to help us recover.

[kin]

I focus on the problem that has cause me to gamble.

Overthinking involves thinking about a certain thing or situation excessively, analyzing it for long periods of time. When you overthink, you have a hard time getting your mind to focus on anything else. Overthinking becomes consumed by the one thing you are thinking about. It is a big distraction and disruption to daily living.

Overthinking can be a hard habit to break.

1. Change the way you talk to yourself
Over thinkers always say negative things to themselves.

2. Let go of the past
– Over thinkers keep thinking “I should have done this” “I should not have done that.”
– You cannot change the past.

3. Live in the present moment.
– Learn the lessons from your past and make sure you do not repeat the same mistake again.
– Overthinkers find it hard to live in the present moment. Past or future is always on their mind
– focus on the current moment

4. Challenge your thoughts
– Over thinkers get lost in their thoughts, it need not always be past or future.
– if you find a thought that is unwanted passing by inside your head, immediately write it down in your journal and get it out of your system.

5. Focus on what you can control
– Over thinkers always worry about the things that is not in their control.
– Focus on the positive things you can do.
– Take one small baby step forward at a time.
– Seek progress, not perfection.
– Take one day at a time.

6. Identify Your fears
– Over thinkers have irrational fears; they are not logical and not reasonable.
– you tend to suffer from imagination of “what if” than in reality.
– Take action! The moment you take action is the moment you win a battle with your overthinking.

7. Write down solutions
– Over thinkers keep thinking only of their problems
– Divert your thinking towards the solutions.
– Write down the problems and the solution for each problem in your journal.
– This way, your brain shifts its attention towards the solution.

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[kin]

Hi marcus,

Thank you for your post.

You have help me to remember that staying gamble free gives me the freedom to do whatever I like but I need to be extra cautious and careful.

-freedom to do whatever I like does not include compulsive eating, drinking, gambling, sex and drug.

-freedom to do whatever I like does not include giving up doing the things that has help me to stay stop in gambling.

Be kind and humble always.

[kin]

Hi gustav,

Thank you for your post.

When we are in recovery, we need all the support we can get.
We need to connect to a community of recovery people who help one another to stay safe.

Sobriety takes a village. Without support, we risk the painful reality of a relapse.
Striking out on our own can send us down the road to relapse.

Having a good support and accountability system increases our chances.
It takes a village to help us recover.

[kin]

I focus on the problem that has cause me to gamble

Today I remind myself to:

1. shower more to cool down from the heat.
2. sleep first after a long day at work; I must not choose to do other things.

Both exhaustion or tiredness from work and hotter weather can stress me
Stress can trigger gambling thought inside me.

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[kin]

I focus on the problem that has cause me to gamble

I stop trying to explain myself to people after trying to get an understanding from them that never came.
I start to turn to other recovery people who do not need me to explain why I was behaving this way and start healing.

I needed support and help from a village of recovery people.
They help me when I fall and help me to bounce back
They help me to stay stop today.

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[kin]

I focus on the problem that has cause me to gamble.

I received my salary today.

1. What has change?

My priority has change; many things has come first and become more important than my gambling.

2. What have I learnt? Charles from GT was always telling me.

I need to be honest to myself. I must not leave any loopholes for me to gamble.

3. What did I do?

First thing first, I have made my monthly contribution to the family; paid all my bill and commitment for the month; handover my excess money to someone for safekeeping. Last thing on the list was leaving enough money for me to function properly daily.

I am not going to set myself up to fail in the month of March by holding on to this sum of money.

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[kin]

Today I focus on the problem that has cause me to gamble.

Stress is a sign that I have lost the present moment.
I can choose to re-enter the present moment.

Part of living in the present moment is taking the time to be grateful for what I have now (not in the past or future).

If I am constantly focused on the things that I do not have, then I am not taking the time to appreciate what I have right now at this moment.

I asked myself a question:
if today is my last day alive,
is sports betting that important to me?

It is definitely not important; it is really a waste of time and money.
I will not gamble on sports today

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[kin]

Hi Cruising,

Thank you for the updates.

[kin]

Hi jvr3419,

Thank you for your sharing.

[kin]

Today I focus on the problem that has cause me to gamble.

If I think that I am not greedy, then I should really consider whether I still enjoy doing those activity if there were no real money involved.

I would not be interested in the slot machine, casino table card game, roulette, lottery and horse racing if no real money was involved.

But I still loves watching sports for its entertainment if no real money is involved but there is no more enjoyment and entertainment for me once I become tired. I will not be interested.

However, when real money was involved, I can gamble on sports for many hours even when I am tired. “The love of money is the root of all kinds of evil” due to greed.

How many times have I gamble after I experience financial hardship and job insecurity, relationship and family problem, dissatisfaction and discontentment with my life and greed for more money.

I have actually gamble to find escape and relief from the real world; escape from the painful reality that I am broke, insecure, lonely, and miserable.

Sport punting gave me false hope of success, happy feeling and quick fix to settle financial tight spots.

Today I do not want to live in denial. It was true and I never forget that I have make many winning bets but I still lost all the money in the end; it was also true I have lost more money than I win in sports.

Now I have begun to stop listening and following what my head tells me to do but I still need to be watchful – Once I cannot find the strength to resist, I will not be able to stop myself from doing something I should not be doing. I need to be stronger than my strongest excuse.

The physical barriers have stop me from gambling at the moment. It has not stopped the intention, motive and plan to gamble in my mind.

I have stop slot machine and alcohol successfully. If quitting sports punting is exactly the same, I would need to stay stop for a longer period of time before I can achieve the same.

I am still a work in progress and under construction.

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[kin]

Hi Gustav,

Thank you for your sharing.

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