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How fortunate we are to have a support system like GT!
You are right, we are all here trying to overcome, and that in itself deserves a pat on the back.
Life isn’t perfect, but being gamble free makes things a whole lot easier to deal with. Having a clear mind gives us the clarity to make decisions that will help, not harm.
I wish you all the best for the coming year.
Love K xxxWelcome! I’m glad you have found this site.
Slots are my poison also.
Can you put a blocker on your phone and computers? Betfilter is a good one for example. You won’t be able to access gambling sites.
Finding this site is a great step towards a life free from gambling. Is there gamblers anonymous in NZ ( I’m in Aus)
Might be worth a look!
Seems like you have done well at such a young age, don’t let gambling take it all from you. You can overcome, barriers are a great help, posting and reading here will give you some tools to put in place.
Well done on taking the leap, I look forward to hearing more from you.
Love K xxHow was your Christmas?
I hope it was a happy, gamble free one!
Just thought I’d check in on you.
Take care,
Love K xxYou’re right, 2018 is going to be a great year!
You are sounding a lot more positive and I think getting your life organised, even if it is frozen meals is a great start!
There’s always a sense of anticipation when a new year begins.
I don’t make resolutions, I never keep them !
I would like this year to be better than last year, not sure how it possibly can be but I’ll give it my best shot!!!
Lots to look forward to, small things they may be but gambling will play no part for me. I am going to appreciate each and every day!
Take care my beautiful friend,
Love K xxxGreat to read of your gamble free time!
Seems like you are filling your time with good old fashioned fresh air, food for the body and the mind.
I hope Work was kind to you today, my work closes for 2 weeks over Christmas, I have 5 days left before I go back (who’s counting!!) but it’s going to be bedlam…ugh.
Anyway, well done again, look forward to reading your updates.
Love K xxI just read Jonny’s post to you. I have to disagree. It’s not easy to not gamble. Not when suffering the addiction to do so. If it was that easy we wouldn’t be here would we? There would be no need for GT or GH.
Anyway, moving on….. how was Christmas? I’ve read through from my last post to you and didn’t feel you gave much away?
I’ve always liked you Mav, I think it’s because your name appealed to me from the start…(Top Gun…lol, I loved Tom Cruise before he went a little wierd!!)
Mav, I do wish I could say something to you that would make you ‘click’.
I don’t know why I clicked when I did, I’m grateful that it happened, although by then I was in a world of crap.
Do we need to be truly ready? There’s always going to be something to trigger an urge. I guess when I stopped gambling I started trying to deal with the trigger in a different way. Then the urges started to ease. Does that make sense?
There’s no easy out.
It’s hard work.
I so want you to get better Mav, you’ve been through enough.
Take care my friend, you are in my thoughts.
Love K xxxxI hope you are over your flu.
I just wanted to wish you a happy holidays. Not sure if you celebrate Christmas as such.
Exercise is a great stress reliever, it also releases the endorphins that make us feel good. Dieting isn’t easy! this time of year makes it even worse!!!!
Take care Kin,
Love K xxI hope you are over your flu.
I just wanted to wish you a happy holidays. Not sure if you celebrate Christmas as such.
Exercise is a great stress reliever, it also releases the endorphins that make us feel good. Dieting isn’t easy! this time of year makes it even worse!!!!
Take care Kin,
Love K xxOh boy. Why do we self sabotage? It’s the million dollar question. Is it the added stress? Is it needing to escape the pressure? I don’t know the answer but I’m pretty sure many of us have been there, I know I certainly have!
You are not, or will ever be one of the worst people in the world. I’m not having that!!!!
Look, just do what you can for now.
I can only imagine what’s going on in your head.
You can only do what you can do. Don’t make that hole any bigger Mav.
I’m sorry this has happened to you. This addiction is relentless. I don’t have any words of wisdom, all you can do is get up in the morning and not gamble today.
Thinking of you dear friend,
Love KI don’t know if it’s because it’s christmas and I always get a bit emotional but I read your post to me out loud to my husband just now. We never really talk about my gambling anymore, and as I read it to him I started to cry.
I told him that sometimes I feel like I don’t have very much to say or give to people, that I feel like I’m just rubbishing on as it has been a long while since my last bet and I’m out of touch.
Your post has given me hope that what I write could be helping someone just a little bit.
Thank you, I don’t know that you will ever realise what those words meant to me.
I’m happy you are organised for Christmas, i think it’s such a stressful time, even without gambling! So you enjoy it!
You are in my thoughts today, you have lifted me up!
Merry Christmas!!!
Love K xxxAs idi said, don’t feel you can’t post if you slip up, we have all been there!
We are here to support you through thick or thin, no judgement. None of us are perfect, it’s when we are slipping that we need others around to keep us steady. Don’t beat yourself up, learn from it and move on.
As for the venues, it’s been 8.5 years since I first found GT and did my first self exclusion. I still find it uncomfortable going to my old ‘haunt’. It’s a golf club and very occasionally we have been out there for dinner with family or friends.
One time (I’m a smoker) I had to walk through the gaming area as the other access was locked and I didn’t want to make a scene finding and asking someone to unlock it ( I do my exclusions there, and I have since pointed this out to the club)
It was a 15 step walk through, and I was sick the whole time! This was about 4 years ago, I avoid that place as much as I can, even though I am excluded from gambling there. It’s not a place of joy for me, quite the opposite! It’s not just you!
So, in signing off, you have done amazingly well, look at how much you have achieved in such a short time. Remember that my friend, the addiction will try and pull you back in, keep doing what you’re doing, it’s working!!!
With love and my best Christmas wishes,
Kathryn xxI always become a bit nostalgic this time of year.
You’re right, no looking back! We can’t change the past, when I think about where I was 8 years ago, and my life now, thank god i stopped when I did.
It wasn’t without loss. I will never own a house, it took me a long time to get over losing my home and the realisation that I will never have another one was hard to bear.
In saying that, I’ve learnt to come to terms with it and move forward with my life.
I have a wonderful family, my bills are paid, food on the table, and I feel happier than I’ve ever felt. No amount of money can measure up to that. My self worth is restored .
I hope you have a wonderful Christmas, and make some of those good memories !!!
Love k xxI hope you enjoyed your birthday in some small way…..cake perhaps????
I also hope you are feeling better, I feel like the colds/flu are terrible, last time I had one I was at work and had to work in surgery, my nose was like a running tap, I had to stuff a dental roll up each nostril under my mask!!! Not pretty lol
So Christmas, I do hope you have a lovely day. I tend to forget that not everyone is looking forward to it, I love it so much ( well it wasn’t great when I was gambling) but my childhood memories were just wonderful and I hang onto that every year!
My bestie is going through the most awful time at the moment, she has a 9 and 10 year old, money isn’t an issue, thankfully but I don’t know how to help her I love her like a sister and she doesn’t deserve what is happening to her, the fact that it’s christmas just makes it worse.
I’m trying to hold her up, but I don’t feel like I’m doing much of a job and we go away Christmas Day and I’m leaving her in her mess, it’s just awful.
Anyways, that was a little babble right there!!!
Again, sending you Christmas blessings my friend.
Love K xxxxxNadam se da ste na neki mali način uživali u rođendanu ….. kolač možda ???? Nadam se i da se osjećate bolje, osjećam se kao da su prehlada/gripa užasne, zadnji put sam imala jednu dok sam bila na poslu i morala sam raditi na operaciji, nos mi je bio poput slavine za tekućinu, morala sam napuniti zubnu rolu svaka nosnica pod mojom maskom !!! Nije lijepo lol Pa Božić, nadam se da ćeš imati lijep dan. Sklona sam zaboraviti da se svi ne raduju, jako mi se sviđa (pa nije bilo sjajno dok sam se kockala), ali moja sjećanja iz djetinjstva bila su jednostavno divna i držim se toga svake godine! Moja najbolja trenutno prolazi kroz najgore vrijeme, ima 9 i 10 godina, novac nije problem, srećom, ali ne znam kako joj pomoći volim je kao sestru i ne voli ' Ne zaslužujem ono što joj se događa, činjenica da je Božić samo ga pogoršava. Pokušavam je zadržati, ali ne osjećam se kao da puno radim i odlazimo na Božić, a ja je ostavljam u njenom neredu, to je užasno. U svakom slučaju, tu je bilo malo brbljanja !!! Opet ti šaljem božićne blagoslove prijatelju. Ljubav K xxxxx
I just read your thread from the start and wow! You sound like a different person from your first to your last post. I’m really impressed at how hard you have worked. You should be proud of yourself.
I agree, this site saved my life also. 8 and a half years ago I found GT, it was a bit different then but the concept was exactly the same, compulsive gamblers reaching out for help and support. My first self exclusion was June 16 (my daughters birthday) 2009. I have slipped up a couple of times since then, always when I let my exclusion lapse.
Each time was like I had never stopped. It was incredible. It made me physically ill.
My life….I love saying that because I didn’t have one when I was in action, is so much better. The longer I didn’t gamble the more things I filled my time with, the ‘fog’ lifted from my mind and I finally started to feel like a ‘normal’ person.
I’ve done some amazing things since starting recovery , and I am finally living.
I’m hapoy to read you are doing so well.
Keep going, gambling is soul destroying, you don’t need it Iin Your life anymore!!!
Love K x