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Sorry, tried to edit and it double posted!!!
It’s so very hard to let things go sometimes.
It’s important to look after yourself and your wellbeing.
No one likes hurting others, but if it’s for the purpose of self preservation you have done the right thing.
Pete has plenty of time to sort himself out and he will be ok..
You can then move forward with your life, I’m happy to hear your son is moving in with you, family is everything.
I wish you all the very best,
Love K xxGlad to read you have sorted those finances out! Money may be tight, but they’ll be paid!! Once it’s done it’s done!!!!
Dames has gone away for he weekend. I finished work early and dropped in to see Brea and Tex. it was lovely!
I’ve had a nice hot shower, scrubbed my hair and have a new nightgown on that Brea bought me for Christmas.
It’s almost my bed time. I’m working all day tomorrow with Jode, we are cleaning. A big day but one spent with my best friend.
Have a good weekend,
You’re doing great! Enjoy the chow!!! Yummmm!!!
Love K xxxxSending some AWESOME your way!
Wonderful post, full of possibilities and hope!
I have been writing on this forum for over 8 years.
I have been through stuff, unrelated to gambling that has been treated with respect and a support I could never have imagined.
This site is a gamblers help site. I think though, it’s also a life during and after gambling site. We are only a day away from our next bet. Staying connected, for me has seen me through some hard times. The friends I have made here are close to my heart.
I have dropped off a few times over the years, but always find myself comingback . I am totally me on this site, not wife, Mum, daughter etc.
anyway, just wanted you to know that I really enjoyed reading your post before I head off to work. Put a smile on my face!
Take care, love K xxxMadness is the word! I remember after I stopped gambling thinking, how on earth did I find the time to do it?
Keep living your best life, it’s too good to waste!!!!
Take care, love K xxxI’ll take a boring life anyday!
Glad you are feeling better!
Sounds like you had a great time with your grand daughter!
Happy to read you’re being accountable to your daughter. It really eases some stress, pressure and temptation.
I’m having a tight month too! If I didn’t have so much on it wouldn’t be a problem.
Enjoy your peaceful day,
Love K xxxSorry you’re having a few rough days,
It must be so frustrating not being able to do what you want to do. I’m sitting here with my heat pad on as the first day back at work almost killed me. I’m bent in half!
So, cricket…. have you ever seen it?
Bat, ball, wickets, men in tight pants, who could ask for more?
It’s bearable for a little while, but in MY house it’s a continuous stream of games and I am just about to lose it!!!
Don’t let hubby watch it if he loves sport, they get obsessed! I know what I’d like to do with that cricket bat!!! Lol
I’m working every day this week and next which means 50+ hour weeks for me. While the pay will be nice I’m used to a 4 day week ! I’m also cleaning with Jode all day Saturday, I actually think I might die from exhaustion!! We are putting the money into our savings. Not sure when or where the next trip is but we are starting at least to fund it!
Well , I’m going to bed shortly, hope I put a tiny smile on your face!!!
Love ya girl, K xxxWow, amazing how life works. Something so simple gave your daughter so much joy, and it seems by your post it gave you some too!!!
It’s hard to dwell on money and time lost, I lost my house due to my gambling. I had to accept it otherwise I would never have been able to move forward.
Feel it, then let it go. It is what it is.
Hope you got your housework done. Back to work for me today and my body is feeling it, on my feet for almost 10 hours…ugh!!! Time for the hot pack, wish I could have a bath but we don’t have one!!!!
Hope your day was as lovely as your post!
Love K xxI’m just about to head to bed but saw your post and wanted to let you know that you’re not alone.
There are some things you can do today to start the road to recovery.
So you said your husband knows…..use that! Ask him to take over the finances , give yourself a small allowance every day for coffee etc, hand over your cards, give yourself no access to money. No money = no gambling.
Exclude from the casinos in your area. I found self exclusion to be a huge barrier for me.
Contact GA. There should be a meeting in your area. You may get some extra much needed support.
Read and post here. This forum is brilliant, you just need to use it. The helpline is amazing, it’s closed on the weekends but there are some wonderful people there who can help you.
Now is the time Hunter, while you are feeling low to put things in place to keep you safe for when the gambling hangover has gone.
You can have a life free from gambling.
You can be present for your family.
You can feel ‘normal’ again, not continually worrying about how you are going to pay the bills.
You can be happy again.
I know it’s overwhelming, not to mention scary. But you’ve got this!!!
I look forward to hearing more from you,
Love K xxxJust wanted to let you know that I had a really good visit with Mum today, I showed her some photos of my kids (and tex of course) and she said are they yours? Yes I replied, then she said well you’re mine! I don’t know if she had a fleeting moment of recognition but I don’t care, it was just lovely.
We also had a few laughs and she told me she loved me and how beautiful I am… no glasses naturally!! Lol!
Seriously though, my spirits were high when I left, as usual I was worried for nothing. I always always tell her that she is the best Mum in the world and how much I love her. She turned 87 last month so you never know when your last visit will really be your last and it makes me feel that if she did go she knows how I feel. She was truly an amazing mother to me, how lucky I am.
Glad you sold some stuff! Woohoo!!! The wonders of the internet. I’ve bought all Harry’s school books for this year that way and saved a fortune!
I’m glad you have made peace with your mother, no regrets Lizbeth, those things can send you crazy!!
Hope you enjoy your Sunday!
Back to work for me tomorrow….ugh! In saying that I’ll be glad to have some away time from Dames, we niggle at each other when we have been together too long…looks like I’m never retiring!!! Lol!!!
Take care, love K xxxThank you so much for your post.
This flu has really grabbed you. I hope you are feeling a bit better today.
Grandkids, are they amazing or what?
Your granddaughter sounds like a doll!!!
I’m going to see my mum today. I kind of dread it now as I don’t know how she will be. I feel terrible saying that as she was the mother of all mothers and now I don’t want to go for fear of it making me feel depressed when I leave. In saying that, she does have good days. Hopefully today will be one of them.
The cool change came through last night, so yesterday I was wearing shorts and a tee and today I’ll be in a jumper and pants. That’s Victoria in Australia for you! 4 seasons in a day!!!
Keep looking for that light, it’s always there, just sometimes a little smaller than usual.
Love K xxxWell done on seeking help, it’s one of the hardest things to do.
I’m so happy to read that your husband is on board with you on this, support at home is sooo important.
You’ve got some barriers up and that is brilliant, barriers have saved me from a life of misery.
Your life WILL get better. Sure, there’s still stuff, and you sound super busy with 3 little ones as it is!
But being there for them, in the moment, being able to be present in their little lives is something you will be so grateful for.
Gambling can never ever give you that!
Try and find some new coping strategies for your stress, a walk, a coffee with a friend, a bath with no interruptions (hopefully!!)
You are doing everything you can to stop gambling and start living.
That is something to be proud of!
Look forward to hearing more from you,
Love K xxxOh gosh I’m so sorry for what you are going through.
Gambling will only make things worse for you.
I know it’s an extremely stressful time.
This addiction feeds on stress, worry and misery.
Of course, it causes all those things so it’s a viscous cycle.
Keep reading and posting here, try and keep busy, you will get through it,
As Johnny said, easier said than done.
I wish you the very best in a very difficult time.
Love K xxI don’t pop into f and f very often, but thought I’d have a look tonight and read your posts.
I was so happy to read your first update.
I’m so sorry things haven’t worked out for you.
I think you would proboably know or suspect if he was gambling again. Women’s gut feelings are usually right.
I guess I just wanted to say that my heart is heavy for you, you have been through a lot, and become stronger.
That strength will get you through whatever is going to come, and I wish you all the very best in your journey.
Love K xxxxHope things have calmed down with hubby. Dames and I don’t fight….we snipe and then don’t speak. The longest I went was 3 days. How ridiculous!!! when we were driving home from camping we went past an adult shop. The front windows were filled with mannequins in lingere. He says to me, we should go in for a look, I said, I don’t think so, I don’t have the figure for that stuff…he says, well there’s other stuff in there. Now, most people wouldn’t blink. In my head, he’s saying you’re fat, and yes, you don’t have the figure for that stuff!!! I huffed all the way home!!!!
Ridiculous!!!! Why do I do that???? Sometimes it’s the things he doesn’t say, the things that wouldn’t even enter his mind to say that makes me wild! Even as I type that I know how bloody stupid it sounds. Lol!!!!!
Anyway, how are you feeling after your fall?
Awful thing, falling.
I think for me the fright is worse than the actual fall!
Well I should go have a shower, going to see Brea and Tex this morning, then planning to clean out my linen and Tupperware cupboards this afternoon, jobs I’m determined to get done this week before I go back to work.
Take care my beautiful friend,
Love K xxx