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Happy to read you are in a good place right now.
I’ve had a massive weekend, work wise. Saving for my next trip with my bestie.
I did a trip to Darwin for 2 weeks a few weeks ago, beautiful weather and a great catch up with my sister and niece which I badly needed after mums death. It’s been 4 months now and I’m constantly looking at her photo and shaking my head. Still so hard to process. Not sure that I’ll ever get used to living without her.
Lisbeth, it’s my anniversary today, 9 years. Yep, a couple of slips in that time but geez, I find it unbelievable. The time has flown really and so much has happened. I’m no longer that frightened, anxiety ridden, sad person. I lost so much due to my addiction, things I can never get back.
In saying that, I am so so proud of myself. I did this. Me.
I am living.
I think of you often, and still check in every day. Don’t lose that positivity my friend, love K xxxYou have no idea how happy I am to read that your wife is recovering.
And how wierd is this world of ours….in your darkest hours you had to pull yourself together for your beautiful kids. And from what I’m reading your relationships have grown from strength to strength , talk about a positive from a negative if ever I’ve read one!
You always find out who you can rely on in a crisis.
I’ve stepped back from the forum.
I feel it’s not worth going into detail, and to be honest it’s not something I think about anymore. There’s bigger stuff going on in my world and I won’t waste my energy, or time for that
matter.
So…..I’m ok, and I still pop in and read.
You sir, have always been a wonderful support to me, thank you for asking after me.
I’ve just worked a 12 hour day and am doing the same tomorrow, I’m toooo old for this crap!!! I need to hit the hay!!
I’ll keep tabs on you Mav,
Take care my friend, love K xxxWhile I am so relieved you are ok ( I thought something terrible had happened to you) what a horrific time for you and your family.
I hope your wife is on the mend, and feeling somewhat better.
As lizbeth said, not gambling means you are present, the alternative is too horrendous to think about.
You’re in my thoughts old friend.
Love K xxxxxxxThank you!
I’m still following you, reading your posts, cheering you on!
Keep believing in yourself, you are so worth it my friend!
I’m ok, still in a bit of shock I think, my mum was my world and I’m having a hard time adjusting to this world without her.
I look at her picture every morning and shake my head in disbelief.
I have just had a beautiful week away camping which I really needed. To just ‘be’ was a lovely feeling.
Even though I’m not around, I’m following one thread….yours.
So know that while I may not be posting, I’m checking in on you, often.
Stay strong, stay positive, and if you need me, post it and I’ll be here.
Love K xxxxxxxxTake it easy my friend, this is the most important time.
I’m happy that the surgery went well,
Hopefully you will be up and dancing in no time!
I’m sorry I haven’t posted sooner, been a bit crazy in my world.
Talk soon, love K xxxYou are going through huge stress at the moment.
Don’t let this set you back.
It’s a slip.
Nothing more.
Gambling hangovers are awful!
Just keep swimming my friend.
Velvet is right, the addiction will rear its ugly head when we are at our weakest.
I need to keep that in mind myself.
Love K xxThere’s plenty more jobs in the sea!
No use being totally miserable!
At least you know you can get a job, I’m sorry it didn’t work out for you though.
Onwards and upwards!!!
Love K xxxYou do seem very hard on yourself, I hope you have some room in you life for a little fun, a few laughs and time with friends and family.
Weight loss is hard, it lowers our self esteem when we don’t get the results we want.
Unfortunately, like anything, hard work is what it takes.
You have been through a lot of hardships Kin, and come through them.
You are right, we are only human, and can only do the best we can.
Keep doing your best Kin, and you will be ok!
Love K xWow, you’ve done a great job in excluding, and your family obviously love you and have seen the changes in your behaviour and want to help.
Is someone holding your access to cash for you?
That can also really help, I know it can feel like being treated like a baby but it’s quite the relief to know that, for now, you don’t have to worry about money.
I have personally found that this site has been amazing for me. I am also excluded and while that ensures the ‘physical’ barrier this site has let me vent, as myself, not wife, Mum etc, I can say what I need to and receive great support and advice.
8.5 yrs later and life is pretty good.
You can have a life without gambling, and it’s a great one!
Not without its challenges, but not being clouded by gambling thoughts makes getting through those times a lot easier.
You are definitely on the right path!!!
Look forward to hearing more from you!
Love K xxxIs that the GH program?
Ok so you gambled. How????
Means and opportunity !!!!
Remove 1 and you can’t gamble.
Barriers are so important, especially at the beginning because the addiction is fighting hard, it doesn’t want you to stop.
I’m not sure how this program works, I’m in Australia, but I’m sure you are not the only one who has done this.
Be accountable, tell someone, we are human after all!
You are not a bad person, you have an addiction, just like me.
It took me 15 years, I lost my home, almost lost my family and my life due to this addiction. I found this forum over 8 years ago, and my track record isn’t perfect, I’ve gambled maybe 5 Times in that 8 years. My barrier is self exclusion, and at the start I gave all control of money to my husband
The barrier ensures I cannot enter a gambling venue ( the times I gambled I let my exclusion lapse, I can only self exclude for 2 years at a time in my state)
The barrier ensures my mind can be clear and I can work on my recovery. What can you do? Do something, because this addiction will not let up, unless you remove the means or opportunity.
Start over, it’s a slip, you are not alone, the fact that you came here and posted speaks volumes.
Look forward to hearing more from you,
Love K xxxNot sure when you’re due Home from your trip but I hope you’re having a fab time! Don’t forget the sunscreen!!! Working at a dermatologist has taught me good sun care, I’d die if i had to go to work with sunburn!!!!!
Been super hot here, hotter tomorrow, over 40c….there is such a thing as too hot for sure!
Have had a lovely weekend, Australia Day yesterday, public holiday and a fantastic catch up with family today!
I’m enjoying a bourbon and coke as we speak!
Again, hope you are having a fabulous time!!!
Love K xxxxNot sure when you’re due Home from your trip but I hope you’re having a fab time! Don’t forget the sunscreen!!! Working at a dermatologist has taught me good sun care, I’d die if i had to go to work with sunburn!!!!!
Been super hot here, hotter tomorrow, over 40c….there is such a thing as too hot for sure!
Have had a lovely weekend, Australia Day yesterday, public holiday and a fantastic catch up with family today!
I’m enjoying a bourbon and coke as we speak!
Again, hope you are having a fabulous time!!!
Love K xxxxBringing you back to the top my friend.
I hope you’re ok.
I’m thinking no news is good news?
Australia Day tomorrow, long weekend for me, hope to hear from you soon.
Love K xxxx