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Welcome,
I’m glad you have found this forum.
Closing your accounts is a good step, no access to money = no gambling for starts.
Maybe its time to come clean to your partner. That money isn’t coming back.
I know that can seem daunting, its a scary thing to do.
Your partner may be able to take control of the finances for a while so you can get your bearings and start to work recovery.
As Harry said, there are blockers you can put on your computer for gambling sites. Limiting your access to any kind of gambling gives you the opportunity to clear your mind a little bit.
Are there any GA meetings in your area? That may also be a big help, sharing with others who have the same addiction and understand what you are going through?
You can live a gamble free life. It is possible. I wish I could say it was easy but if it was we wouldn’t be here.
But its worth it.
Keep reading and posting, join the groups, learn about how to manage this addiction, it all adds up.
Take care,
K xxxxxGlad to hear your meeting went well and you are doing something for you!!!!
It seems we are all in a cleaning out mode at the moment!!
Maybe its the moon cycle or something?
Brea is having her baby tomorrow. I’m DYING to know what they have named her!!!! That’s the big surprise. I’m working, so I doubt my mind will be on the job after 1pm (when shes due to go in for the c section)
Hopefully the girls at work will let me leave a little early tomorrow night, I’m with the big boss who always always runs late! I’m having Tuesday off to look after Tex so Cam (Breas hubby) can go spend some time with her and the baby. Wednesday is my normal day off so ive told him I’m available all day if he needs me for Tex.
He has 3 weeks off so I haven’t organised any time off with work until we see how Brea is going and if she will need me.
So a very short work week for me this week (woohoo)
Anyways, I will post when I know (of course)
Grocery shopping and washing for me today. All the fun stuff!!!! The sun is shining so that puts me in a good mood before I even walk out the door!
Enjoy the rest of your weekend Lizbeth, you should be so proud of yourself. Its such a hard addiction to manage, but here you are, working recovery.
Love K xxxxxxxxxxxxI read your post on IDI’s thread about weight watchers.
5 years ago I joined. I lost 20kg.
Ive kept it off.
It was one of the best things I have EVER done for myself.
I don’t follow the program as much as I used to but as soon as I see myself falling into old eating habits I’m back on the wagon.
It was one of the easiest things ive ever done. And exercise wise, all I did was walk. It really is what you put in your mouth at the end of the day. (and how much!!!)
The government are trying to push the retirement age here up to 70 (its currently 65)
And while I may be able to sustain my job for another 20 years I’m not sure my husband will. As a builder on the tools the body doesn’t recover as well as he gets older.
Hopefully we can make a plan to ensure we have enough to retire a little early. It freaks me out just talking about it! Anyway, I hope you enjoy your day and slept well in the new bedding!!!!!
Love K xxxThanks for your post on my thread, as always it is so appreciated!!!
Ive had a pretty busy day really, out this morning with Jode, went and saw Brea and Tex and heading off again in an hour to the movies.
Havent got too much done on my day off but I have made sure dinner is ready for the boys here so there will be no whinging!!!!
I did get a pay rise this week which was awesome, not huge but I am now getting the hourly rate I have always strived for.
There was also a mix up in our holidays so I have also been credited 3.5 weeks holiday which is brilliant!!!!
Means i can take a day here and there with pay!
It has been awful weather the last 2 days, sooooo windy (gale force), storms and rain. I’m grateful for a warm house and a warm work place, poor Dames and Bailey are working outside today…brrrrrr!!!!!!!
Anyways, must go get ready for the movies, i haven’t been for a couple of years, just unorganised and a bit lazy i think!!!
Nothing better than popcorn for tea!!!!
Talk soon, Love K xxxxxSo happy to read you are working your recovery.
Looking forward to reading how your GA meeting goes, and your counselling session.
Those little grandchildren don’t have to do a thing to make us happy do they? When they do, its magnified 100% I love that Tex comes to me to pick him up and I’m sure he is trying to say Granny!!!! (well, that’s what I think ! LOL)
Lucky no one was hurt in that robbery. I guarantee though, there would be many that would have been really put out by that, as they would have had to stop gambling!!! It really does warp the mind!!!
Anyway, sorry ive been a bit slack, I’ve still been reading, but have been crawling into bed early….must be getting old!!!!
Love K xxxxWelcome!
When I first found this site I pretty much was open to anything I was so desperate to stop.
Heres what I did……
I excluded from all gambling venues within a 50km radius
I told my husband….everything!
I gave control of the finances over to my husband
I attended GA ( it wasn’t for me but I gave it a good shot)
I posted on this forum and joined as many groups as I can as well as talking on the helpline.
I told my close friends and family
That was 9 years ago.
I have had 4 slips since then. And as soon as I did I was back here talking about it.
You can live a life without gambling, its something that needs to be worked on….every day. But it is so worth it.
I hope to read more from you.
Love K xxxMy sister was dying of brain cancer when I was at the height of my addiction.
In the last week of her life the family spent the week with her at home. She didn’t want to leave and fought with every breath in her body. On the day, the last day of her life, I went to see her. I spent a measly 30 minutes with her because I had been gambling beforehand and of course I didn’t want to stop. I stayed until there was nothing left and then went to see my dying biggest sister (I have 3 sisters).
I had to be home to pick up my daughter from school. It was a 30 minute drive from my sisters house to mine.
So, my sister, on her last day got 30 minutes of my time.
This is my biggest gambling regret. I cannot change what happened. It didn’t mean I didn’t love her any less. I was out of control with an addiction that was soul destroying.
I have forgiven myself. I know that if I had been ‘normal’ this wouldn’t have happened.
You can change what happens today Stephen.
You can change what happens right now.
You are not a bad person. You are not responsible for your addiction, but you are responsible for your recovery.
I wish you all the very best, You can live a life gamble free.
Love K xxHow many hours have you spent over the years gambling Lizbeth?
A 2 hour round trip for your mental health, sanity and financial freedom seems like a trip that’s worth making.
I’m not telling you what to do. There’s 168 hours in a week. Can you spare a few of those to look after you?
You’re worth it my friend.
Love K xxxSorry I missed you in chat, I just went downstairs to make a coffee! Its 8.30am here, and a cold morning at that!
What I wouldn’t give for a hot bath! We don’t have one in this house, and I’m now at the age where I am able to lay in a bath without the kids asking me 500 questions at the door.
I really miss it.
I’m sorry your trip didn’t go quite to plan, but it seems like you found a lot of good to talk about as well.
Anyways, I’m sorry I missed you, its not often I catch a group. Hope you have a great day,
Love K xxxIn chat now if you’re around!!!
Pick yourself up and dust yourself off!
Get those barriers up. NOW
The gambling hangover, I remember it like it was yesterday. Revolting! I too used to wonder why I kept doing this to myself. I still don’t know to this day.
I’m a list person.
Write a list of all the things you can do to protect yourself from this happening again and cross them off one at a time.
I agree with IDI….I think some counselling could benefit you. While I understand its difficult to find someone you bond with, like anything, things take time. Maybe attending a GA meeting and asking others if they know of anyone around you could be beneficial. I don’t know if GA still do sponsors, I haven’t attended for many many years, but it could be worth a shot.
You, Lizbeth, are worth a shot my friend!
I know this isn’t the life you want for yourself.
Your feelings of unworthiness are not warranted. You are such a good, kind person. You deserve peace.
I have today off. I am around. I will keep checking in on you throughout the day. I know your internet is limited. If you want to post here I will reply…..all day if you need me to!!!
Don’t lose hope. Its a new day.
Love K xxxxYou know I would be inclined to go and see another GP.
A second opinion never hurts and you need some help!
No wonder your BP is so high with all the pressure you have been under.
Kids are very resilient. Strong little things.
Just wanted to touch base with you Mav, thinking of you all.
Love K xxx