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So glad you made it home safe and sound!
Also glad to read that the heat has subsided for you a bit!!!
Its been so cold here, I don’t ever remember having cold like this, major storms last weekend, hail and freezing temps….ugh!
I’m sure this global warming business has something to do with it.
Hows the job hunt going?
I have the heat pack on my shoulders this morning. Ive had a sore back the last 2 days, its been twingy and I woke up this morning feeling like I have a huge weight pressing down on my shoulder blades. I haven’t done anything to cause it, at least I don’t think. I wonder if its a bit of worry about this tax debt? Hopefully after my accountant appt today it will feel a bit lighter!!!!!
Anyways, my sister in law will be here any minute, shes dropping in for a coffee and a little catch up before I head off.
As always, with love, K xxxxxxI believe our secrets keep us sick.
Being accountable is a major barrier.
Laura has given you some good advice to keep yourself safe.
This addiction will just keep growing if you let it.
I hope you find the courage to tackle it head on. It isn’t easy, but you can live a gamble free life.
Love K xxxI couldnt find a thread for you so thought id post here (sorry Trish)
Have you thought about starting your own thread? You will get some much needed support. Im a fellow Aussie, pokies are my poison too.
Im not sure which state you are in, but self exclusion is a great barrier and one that i feel has saved my life (among other things)
If its online theres a few gambling blockers you can get for your pc.
Have you got someone you can confide in? Someone that could help you, take control of your finances for a bit? I felt so relieved when i did this as i didnt have the stress, i couldnt access the money and in doing so it gave me some time to work on me.
You can live a gamble free life. Its not easy, i wont pretend theres a magic cure, its hard work but it can be done.
Have you thought about GA in your area? Theres great support there too. Every bit counts Jack.
I hope to see you around.
Love K xx
I think its difficult for people who don’t have this compulsion to truly understand the grip it takes.
In saying that, maybe your friend could be of help?
You don’t always need to ‘get it’.
Someone having the reins of your accounts for a while can be a big help. Ensuring you don’t have access to money, a small allowance every day, being accountable to someone (anyone) can give you some breathing space.
Its so hard to break this cycle. Every bit of support can help you do that.
I hope to read more from you, Love K xxxLaura and Jappy have given you some great advice.
Perhaps carrying a very small amount of cash in case of emergency would be better than your card, or open a new account with a little bit in it, one that’s not linked so you cant access your money.
I know, for me, if I didn’t have a ‘decent’ amount of money I wouldn’t bother gambling, it wasn’t worth my time. In saying that, come pay day I was jumping out of my skin!
Getting those barriers up can really help. Sure, if you really want to gamble you will find a way, but make it as difficult for yourself as possible. Try and fill your days, gambling takes us away from friends and family, re-connect and hopefully you will be so busy you will wonder where you ever found the time to gamble in the first place.
Look forward to hearing more from you.
Love K xxxxWow! So so good to hear from you!
You made my Monday morning!!!!!
The believe thread is mine, I asked for it to be removed Not so long ago which is proboably why you could see it. Up till last year I was still using it.
I’m thrilled you are living life, my faith is restored!!!!!
A little boy, congratulations, how wonderful for you!
Words can’t describe how happy I am, thank you for popping back in, and updating on your life!
Big hugs, K xxxxxI too think of P often and wonder how she is doing. So many people who have come and gone over the years, I hope they are all ok although if I’m to be real there’s a reason they aren’t here.
Sunday morning here, revolting day. Cold and miserable. I have a 1yo birthday party to attend in a couple of hours, should be nice, ill catch up with some family.
Anyways, hope your weekend is going well and you aren’t too damaged from that fall!!!
Take care my lovely friend,
Love K xxxIt doesn’t matter that you don’t have money to do something with your grandson.
I guarantee what he will remember is the time you spent together. Not where you went or what you did.
Your AC unit has turned into a bit of a drama!!!!
In saying that, try not to worry too much about what might happen. It hasn’t happened yet!!!!!
I cant remember a day as miserable as this one. Rain, hail, freezing cold. I’m still in my pj’s!!!
I dreamt of my mum last night. I didn’t see her but she was there, she taught my sister a dance. I was just walking to find her and I woke up. Not sure what that means, but it felt good knowing that she is still around.
Anyway, you have a lovely time with your grandy!!!!
Love K xxxCongrats on the job!
I also want to congratulate you on your 1 year gf!!!
Its already the 14th in Oz!!
Love K xxxIt never rains it pours!!!
More reason for you to start looking for some part time work Lizbeth!
Don’t let this break you. You have been through worse and come out the other side!!!
Will the insurance company let you do a payment plan? I know that money is already tight but $1500 is a lot to find in one hit.
Thinking of you my friend and remember, gambling will only make things worse, theres never a win big enough to satisfy us.
Love K xxxCan you see another doctor?
I’m really concerned about you!
Its very hard to pick yourself up when you are in a dark place, you really need some extra support right now.
I don’t really have any advice regarding the financial situation, Vera and Harry seem to know a lot more where that’s concerned.
Do you have anything else you could sell perhaps? Lighten the load a little and take a bit of pressure off?
Please hold on Lizbeth, I know it seems impossible right now, but things will get better.
You are not alone.
Love K xxxxxxxxxxxWelcome.
Sorry you have found yourself here but glad you have decided to reach out for help.
Telling your mum and girlfriend is a good thing. They can help you! Would either of them be willing to take control of your finances for a bit. Limiting your access to cash is a good barrier to have in place and having to be accountable to someone can make a huge difference. Perhaps having a small daily allowance and no access to your bank account will limit your ability to gamble. No money =no gambling.
Theres a few other things that may act as a barrier. Self exclusion from gaming venues and putting a blocker on your computer and phone (if you use them to gamble) are good ones.
Theres GA…..gamblers anonymous. Other gamblers who have found themselves unable to control their gambling get together for meetings to chat and support each other. Its worth a thought.
In my experience, limiting my ability to gamble was really important. It gave me time to think, and not be all consumed by the how when and where I was going to gamble. I simply couldn’t do it. The means and opportunity to gamble were removed. In time I started filling my days with other things, and my mind became clearer and clearer.
You are such a young man, the time is now Josh.
In terms of your debt, maybe the companies will let you organise a payment plan. Theres no quick fix to this I’m afraid, but you can live a gamble free life!
I wish you all the best,
K xxWhile I’m sorry you have found yourself in this situation, I’m happy you have found this forum.
Slots have always been my poison too….I loved sitting and watching the reels, zoning out, forgetting about everything..
of course until I lost everything and then would be sick with worry and stress.
So….some things that might help you…
Have you got someone you can trust, that you could ask to hang onto your debit cards and access to cash? No money = no gambling. Being accountable to someone can really help. It can also be a big relief! Giving control of your money to someone else ensures that you are spending only what you need to for the time being.
Have you thought about GA? Other compulsive gamblers helping each other. It may be worth you going to a meeting to see what its all about.
My biggest barrier was self exclusion. I first did it 9 years ago. 2 years is the max here (in Australia) and ive done it every time its due. I have slipped, but only when my exclusion has lapsed and I thought I could be ‘normal’ again. Big fat nope to that one.
Can you find other things to fill your time? Catching up with friends, family. A new hobby or volunteering?
Gambling is such a secretive addiction.
Our secrets keep us sick.
Try the help line and forum here, keep reading and posting, you will get some great tips on how to manage this addiction.
Well done on finding GT and reaching out.
Its not easy. I hope you use all the tools given to you. You can lead a gamble free life, and that life can be amazing!
I look forward to hearing more from you,
Love K xx