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  • josh
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    While we’d all love an update from Murr, it has to be on his time.

    If he has stumbled further, it doesn’t matter. We all stumble, we all lose and we all make mistakes. Murr, if you’re reading this just know we’re all pulling for you, and know deep down you’re a great guy. Someone who went 1.5 years without gambling! That proves you can do it. A recent slip doesn’t negate that fact. Try and resolve to be GF for life – one day at a time.

    God bless you Murr..

    in reply to: Je cherche ma vie #115723
    josh
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    Excellent travail jusqu'à présent ! Rassemblez-vous heureux pour vous et voulez voir cela continuer… J'éviterais TOUS les types de jeu et résisterais à la tentation de rationaliser. Une fois que vous faites cela, votre oie est cuite. TOUS les jeux de hasard sont une menace pour votre bien-être, même un pari sans valeur monétaire ! La maladie cherche une ouverture pour refaire surface et vous blesser. NE LE LAISSEZ PAS..

    in reply to: Looking for my life #75957
    josh
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    Great job so far! Rally happy for you and want to see this continue…

    I would avoid ALL types of gambling, and resist the temptation to rationalize. Once you do that, your goose is cooked. ALL gambling is a threat to your well being, even a bet with no monetary value! The disease is looking for an opening to re-surface and hurt you.

    DON’T LET IT..

    in reply to: Op zoek naar mijn leven #119986
    josh
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    Geweldig werk tot nu toe! Ik ben blij voor je en wil dit graag zien doorgaan… Ik zou ALLE vormen van gokken vermijden en de verleiding weerstaan om te rationaliseren. Zodra je dat doet, is je gans gaar. ALLE gokken is een bedreiging voor uw welzijn, zelfs een weddenschap zonder geldelijke waarde! De ziekte zoekt een opening om weer op te duiken en je pijn te doen. LAAT HET NIET..

    in reply to: Îmi caut viața #122926
    josh
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    Mare treabă până acum! Raliu fericit pentru tine și vreau să vedem asta continuând … aș evita TOATE tipurile de jocuri de noroc și aș rezista tentației de a raționaliza. Odată ce faci asta, gâsca îți este gătită. TOATE jocurile de noroc reprezintă o amenințare pentru bunăstarea ta, chiar și un pariu fără valoare monetară! Boala caută o deschidere pentru a vă reapărea și a vă răni. NU O LASA ..

    in reply to: Je cherche ma vie #115720
    josh
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    C'est grand homme ! Vous le faites… alors continuez à faire ce que vous faites !! Rester à l'écart des jeux, des amis qui veulent que vous veniez regarder, allons à Vegas pour mon anniversaire… ces tentations doivent être évitées. Je ne pense pas que vous ne puissiez pas être ami avec eux, mais s'ils sont de VRAIS amis, ils respecteront votre décision de ne pas vous mettre dans une situation tentante.

    in reply to: Looking for my life #75924
    josh
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    That’s great man! You ARE doing it…. so keep on doing what you’re doing!!

    Staying away from games, friends who want you to come over to watch, let’s go to Vegas for my Bday…. these temptations need to be avoided. I don’t think you can’t be friends with them, but if they’re REAL friends, they’ll respect your decision not to put yourself in a tempting situation.

    in reply to: Op zoek naar mijn leven #119983
    josh
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    Dat is geweldig, man! Je DOET het… dus blijf doen wat je doet!! Wegblijven van games, vrienden die willen dat je komt kijken, laten we naar Vegas gaan voor mijn verjaardag… deze verleidingen moeten worden vermeden. Ik denk niet dat je geen vrienden met ze kunt zijn, maar als het ECHTE vrienden zijn, zullen ze je beslissing respecteren om jezelf niet in een verleidelijke situatie te brengen.

    in reply to: Îmi caut viața #122923
    josh
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    E un om grozav! O faci …. deci continuă să faci ceea ce faci !! Stând departe de jocuri, prieteni care vor să vii să te uiți, hai să mergem la Vegas pentru Bday-ul meu …. aceste tentații trebuie evitate. Nu cred că nu poți fi prieten cu ei, dar dacă sunt prieteni ADEVĂRATI, îți vor respecta decizia de a nu te pune într-o situație tentantă.

    josh
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    Murr, I hope you’re OK. Just know you’re not alone, OK?

    I once worked in insurance, we had WorldCom’s disability and managed their 401k plan. I was the disability guy. One day, a woman called me (wrong area), she was crying and asking about her 401k. Before I could tell her she got the wrong guy, she relayed her tragic story – had over a million dollars in her 401k…. all in WorldCom stock. Due to rules in place then, she couldn’t sell it. Was just forced to watch it go down, down, down. After the bankruptcy, it was worth less than 5,000.

    A tragic story to be sure, but it illustrates what can happen to anyone with bad judgement. She was 67 and ready to punch out. Then, disaster struck and now she has virtually nothing. My point is, it’s not about winning or losing – life will give us plenty of both.

    It’s about playing the hand you’re dealt. You have proven you can make good choices, and we all like and believe in you here. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and realize today… is a new day!

    josh
    Participant

    Maybe you missed it.. he recently re-lapsed.

    But you know what? Like me, you came here and read his story. The ups and downs, twists and turns and it made YOU (and me!) feel good he beat it for 1.5 years. Scratch that, made me feel GREAT! And Murr, that says a LOT don’t you think? Lots of people here support you, even after many relapses. We all want to see you succeed!

    Hang on to that, and know that this recent re-lapse isn’t the end of the world. In fact, it might just be the beginning of being GF – for life. No more guilt, shame, lying etc.. No more sleeping with one eye open, no more dreadful family or GF interactions. That’s the kind of life you deserve.

    Go for it!

    in reply to: Синът навлиза в „криптовалута“ #113772
    josh
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    Не се притеснявайте Velvet, това всъщност е добър съвет. Благодаря … Аз тренирам и той, и неговият приятел (тренировка за съпротива), така че правим нещо здравословно и позитивно поне два пъти седмично. Днес ги предупредих и двамата за опасностите от хазарта, както в казиното/онлайн, така и за дневна търговия/криптовалута. Всъщност открих няколко истории, в които хората губят всичко в крипто, повече или по -малко по своя вина. Той беше доста стоичен … Както и да е, аз ще остана близо до това, което той прави, и предложих да помогна с каквото мога. Изглежда, че разбира за диверсификацията, разликата между инвестиране и хазарт и т.н. Той е МНОГО умно дете, но съм виждал някои много добре образовани, умни хора да станат жертва на тази болест и решен никога да не ме подведе. И той, и приятелят му са на 15 и тепърва научават за всичко това, така че … дано се вслушат в предупреждението ми. Трудно е да се наблюдават рецидивите тук, някои след години като GF. Но всички правим грешки, понякога болезнени отново и отново. Каквато и да е тази болест, тя има невероятен контрол върху психиката. Виждал съм термина „транс“ използван повече от веднъж и напълно го вярвам. Каквото и зло да се дебне в тази зависимост, тя е мощна и всепоглъщаща. Ще бъда нащрек и ще ви уведомя как вървят нещата. Благословете вас и всички тук със зависимости от хазарт …

    in reply to: Zoon stapt in 'cryptocurrency' #124458
    josh
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    Geen zorgen Velvet, dat is eigenlijk een goed advies. Dank je… Ik train zowel hij als zijn vriend (weerstandstraining), dus we doen minstens twee keer per week iets gezonds en positiefs. Vandaag heb ik ze allebei gewaarschuwd voor de gevaren van gokken, zowel in het casino/online als daghandel/cryptocurrency. Ik heb zelfs verschillende verhalen gevonden waarin mensen alles in crypto verloren, min of meer buiten hun schuld. Hij was nogal stoïcijns… Hoe dan ook, ik blijf dicht bij wat hij doet en bood aan om op elke mogelijke manier te helpen. Hij lijkt de diversificatie te begrijpen, het verschil tussen beleggen en gokken, enz.. Hij is een HEEL slimme jongen, maar ik heb een aantal zeer goed opgeleide, slimme mensen het slachtoffer zien worden van deze ziekte en vastbesloten om nooit op mijn hoede te zijn. Zowel hij als zijn vriend zijn 15, en leren dit nu pas… hopelijk nemen ze mijn waarschuwing ter harte. Het is moeilijk om de terugvallen hier te zien, sommigen na jaren GF te zijn geweest. Maar we maken allemaal fouten, soms pijnlijke, keer op keer. Wat deze ziekte ook is, het heeft een ongelooflijke greep op de psyche. Ik heb de term 'trance' meer dan eens zien gebruikt, en ik geloof het volledig. Wat voor kwaad er ook op de loer ligt in deze verslaving, het is krachtig en alles verslindend. Ik blijf waakzaam en laat je weten hoe het gaat. Zegen jou en iedereen hier met gokverslavingen…

    in reply to: Son getting into “cryptocurrency” #75903
    josh
    Participant

    No worries Velvet, that’s actually good advice. Thank you…

    I train both he and his friend (resistance training), so we do something healthy and positive at least twice a week. Today, I warned them both about the dangers of gambling, both in the casino/online, as well as day trading/cryptocurrency. In fact, I found several stories wherein people lost everything in crypto, more or less through no fault of their own. He was rather stoic…

    Anyway, I’m going to stay close to what he’s doing and offered to help in any way that I could. He seems to understand about diversification, the difference between investing and gambling, etc.. He’s a VERY smart kid, but I’ve seen some very well educated, smart people fall victim to this disease and determined never to let my guard down. Both he and his friend are 15, and just learning about all this so…. hopefully they heed my warning.

    It’s tough watching the relapses here, some after years of being GF. But we all make mistakes, sometimes painful ones over and over. Whatever this disease is, it has an incredible grip on the psyche. I’ve seen the term “trance” used more than once, and I fully believe it. Whatever evil lurks in this addiction, its powerful and all consuming. I will stay vigilant, and let you know of how things are going.

    Bless you and everyone here with gambling addictions…

    in reply to: Son kommer in i "kryptovaluta" #115569
    josh
    Participant

    Oroa dig inte för sammet, det är faktiskt bra råd. Tack … jag tränar både han och hans vän (motståndsträning), så vi gör något hälsosamt och positivt minst två gånger i veckan. Idag varnade jag dem båda för farorna med spel, både i kasinot/online, samt dagshandel/kryptovaluta. Faktum är att jag hittade flera historier där människor förlorade allt i krypto, mer eller mindre utan eget fel. Han var ganska stoisk … Hur som helst kommer jag att hålla mig nära det han gör och erbjöd mig att hjälpa på alla sätt jag kunde. Han verkar förstå om diversifiering, skillnaden mellan investeringar och spel osv. Han är en MYCKET smart unge, men jag har sett några mycket välutbildade, smarta människor falla offer för denna sjukdom och bestämda sig för att aldrig släppa min vakt. Både han och hans vän är 15, och lär sig bara om allt detta så … förhoppningsvis lyssnar de på min varning. Det är tufft att se återfallet här, några efter år som GF. Men vi gör alla misstag, ibland smärtsamma om och om igen. Vad denna sjukdom än är så har den ett otroligt grepp om psyket. Jag har sett termen "trance" använt mer än en gång, och jag tror det fullt ut. Oavsett vad som lurar i detta missbruk är det kraftfullt och alltförtärande. Jag kommer att vara vaksam och berätta hur det går. Välsigna dig och alla här med spelberoende …

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