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She be gone…. in the wind…
Good job on seeking support for your problem. Do you really want to quit? I ask this seriously… I came on here a few times in my early days of thinking about quitting but I wasn’t ready yet. Saying you want to quit and quitting are two different things. I also gambled for over 20 years and talked about it for a long time.
Thanks Shaun, I saw you started another pledge. Thats great. Keep up the good work. It doesn’t;t matter how you do it as long as you just don’t gamble again. When I say you I mean all of us… 🙂 Gambling generally always ending badly.
Sounds awesome 3racer! Keep up the good work!
I hear you for sure. I think it’s time to work on my next addiction.
Do whatever feels good to you. I’ve only played bingo a few times in my life. That does seem pretty harmless. 🙂
Sorry to be a thorn.
Hey Rainman,
See you on the fourth replace man! Hit me up then. See you after the next evolution.
Hi Monicau, Are you really playing slots on dry runs? I think it’s good that your honest. Just not so sure thats a great idea. But who am I to say anything. Glad you’re starting to feel better about things.
fyi – setting up a one month challenge was never a good idea. I like that you got support and that was caring but it was never going to succeed and never going to end well. Once you got the month what better way to reward yourself than to place a bet. Especially after you saved extra money from not gambling.
If you want to stop you need to be honest with loved ones about your problem. Exclude from all sites and local gambling places, you need to turn over ALL finances to someone that you can trust, and then you need to admit that you are powerless to this thing and really be ready to fight the demon. You shouldn’t;t make 1 month pledges. Make lifelong pledges and make a decision to stop something that is detrimental toy you and your loved ones.Hi Shaun,
I’ve read through your posts and I feel for you. But you don’t really want to quit do you? I understand that feeling. I hope you can change your mind soon before it potentially ruins you. Somehow it always spirals out of control with time. I wish you the best in your journey…Hi P,
Sounds like you understand exactly whats going on with you. Seems like you’ve done some real reflection and see the rush and action for what they are… A way to escape the everyday stress and all the stress of a long life in a hard world. That release coupled with compulsiveness creates a monster. Throw a little money into the mix and you’ve got a dangerous concoction.
I don’t have any great advise about how to feel better besides all the stuff everyone writes on here. Exercise, yoga, diet, TM, breathing techniques, walks, etc.
You get it. No setter what… Just don’t gamble ever again. It adds up to disaster every time.
I like reading your posts. Keep up the good work and keep on staying strong. Things always get better with time.Hows that debt going? You getting out of that slowly? You will soon. Your story and situation really resinate with me. I lost a similar amount over the years. I too was broke and in debt up to my eyeballs. I have a little saved now and have no debt which is great. I do still think about all the money that I lost. it’s hard not too. I don’t do it nearly as often as I used to but I still think about it. I wonder if that will ever go away?
Urges will get less and your strength will grow. I hardly ever feel that anymore and I had it bad when IO first started. I couldn’t;t see a way out and now I hardly ever feel any urges. And if I do it’s a very mild urge that passes rather quickly. Very proud of you sir! Congrats on fighting for your life back and winning!
How many days you got Dotty?
I agree with Monica… You need to first come clean and be honest with them. You then have to turn over finances to his mom or your family if that is an option. You need to self exclude yourself from all your websites. You then need gamble block on your devises. And the most important thing…. You need to come to terms with gambling and that you do really want to stop. If you are only stoping because he wants you too or your embarrassed that most likely won’t be enough. Gambling has a very strong hold over people… You either confront it whole heartedly or it will beat you down. Quitting gambling is a job in itself. It requires self control, work, empathy, honesty, and time. You said you are a bad person…. I don’t really know you but you don’t sound all that bad… you sound like someone who likes to gamble but is seeing the detriments of it. I will say this… If you continue to gamble it will most likely have an impact on your relationship with your kid. It will affect your husband and his mom and everyone else in your life. You will continue to live a life of lies and spending money you don’t have…
From one problem gambling addicted person to someone seeking advise…. Just stop. Forgive yourself and let it go…. You will never win any money gambling. It will only hurt you and everyone you love. Be well and take it one day at a time. baby steps…