[Jonny123987]

Fitz is a good example of this problem. He needs help. Reached out once. And is gone to gambling again. Come back to us Fitz.

[Jonny123987]

Amazing P! Heck yeah!

[Jonny123987]

Hi Monicau,

It seems like you are doing great with your gambling. Good job. You certainly have a lot of emotions and things going on right now. What really helped me was getting a life coach. They are great at helping put things into perspective and giving great advise on dealing with problems now and from the past.
You seem like a great person. Stay strong and don’t give up the good fight.

[Jonny123987]

Stop gambling. Stop thinking about day 1’s or day 175’s just freaking stop gambling. Those are just numbers….

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3racer, I just worked about 26 straight btw. Flying to another city and working for one company while I called in sick to the first company. I did basically 5 jobs at once for a couple of those weeks. I suggest that you stop thinking so hard about all this stuff and just focus on doing a good job and taking pride in your work. Work doesn’t;t hurt anyone. So work your tail off and get back into the green. You can do it. You just need to stop thinking about it and do it.

[Jonny123987]

Also – When I suggest investing some money in the market or in another way I don’t mean all of it. People should put money in the market in a safe manner. I have saved a little nest egg (that I can live on for a several months) that I don’t touch. I only now invest a certain amount of money set aside for investing.
When gambling on sports I had no end in sight. There was never enough and everything could be spared. Investing in my Roth IRA doesn’t really feel the same way.

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And btw – There are a lot of gambles out there that people take daily… These gambles don’t give you the rush of gambling at casino’s. Bet on index funds. Bet on the S&P 500. Bet on buying a house. Bet on a Roth IRA or 401K. Bet on Yourself doing something amazing (having money in the bank when that big idea presents itself). There’s lots of things to bet on in this world besides cards, machines, sports, dice…
I have money invested in Equifax. That stock took a huge hit last week. I bought it when it was at it lowest point. So I’m betting on the fact that it will go up by 10%. My goal is always 10% now on stocks. I’ve made about $250 bucks so far investing roughly $5000k. Thats in just a few months. I bought a stock 1 month ago that is exactly at the same number when I bought it. I bought some S&P500 index stock a month ago and it’s gone up like .8% which is great. Basically what I’m saying is you can still take risks with money and try to earn off of money you save. But it doesn’t have to be such a risky endeavor. You also don’t need to double your money in hours. It may take months to earn just 5% but thats really not bad. It’s actually pretty freaking amazing. Save your money and invest in yourself. I’ve been looking at BTI as well which some of you Brits may know. 🙂

[Jonny123987]

And btw – There are a lot of gambles out there that people take daily… These gambles don’t give you the rush of gambling at casino’s. Bet on index funds. Bet on the S&P 500. Bet on buying a house. Bet on a Roth IRA or 401K. Bet on Yourself doing something amazing (having money in the bank when that big idea presents itself). There’s lots of things to bet on in this world besides cards, machines, sports, dice…
I have money invested in Equifax. That stock took a huge hit last week. I bought it when it was at it lowest point. So I’m betting on the fact that it will go up by 10%. My goal is always 10% now on stocks. I’ve made about $250 bucks so far investing roughly $5000k. Thats in just a few months. I bought a stock 1 month ago that is exactly at the same number when I bought it. I bought some S&P500 index stock a month ago and it’s gone up like .8% which is great. Basically what I’m saying is you can still take risks with money and try to earn off of money you save. But it doesn’t have to be such a risky endeavor. You also don’t need to double your money in hours. It may take months to earn just 5% but thats really not bad. It’s actually pretty freaking amazing. Save your money and invest in yourself. I’ve been looking at BTI as well which some of you Brits may know. 🙂

[Jonny123987]

Hi 3racer,

Reading what your going through troubles me. I wanted to write on here something magical that will make things better. But those words don’t seem to come to mind. The truth is… and you know this… Is that you have to quit. You aren’t going to win. The money is gone. The only way back to anything is by not gambling anymore. It’s weird but somehow reading your posts actually made me feel like I want to gamble again. So odd… But I know that it’s just a feeling. It will pass. I miss the rush. The consequence of getting the rush is losing money. What we all do is chase the rush gambling gives us. The rush feels great, makes the bad feelings go away, makes the lack of confidence go away, makes all the worries and problems go away. It’s just us and the rush. WE LOVE IT. But then comes the wrath of consequences that come with the rush. No money, no friends, no family, no love, no confidence, no time for anything or anyone, no emphatic, selfishness, lies, fear, etc…
I day gambling is shit. Don;t do it anymore. I actually have a little bit of savings now and it will continue to grow. Maybe one day a great opportunity will present itself and I can use the money I have to invest in a business idea or something. In doing that maybe I can make some of that wasted money back. But I’m not going to make it back gambling, and even if I was I don’t want the wrath of other shit that comes from a life of chasing and gambling. I chose this way. Slow and steady from now on.

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Day 279 – I invest nearly 50% of every check I take in at the moment. I’m living as cheap as possible. I have some basic urges. Some days the urges seem to be stronger than other days. That’s when I’m not having things change… I noticed the other day I got a call about my job ending. This is pretty normal in my industry. I work freelance so jobs come and go. Of course it was a tough pill to swallow but the odd thing was that I felt the urge to gamble more at that moment or a few minutes later. When emotionally hurt I just want to say screw it… and when I say screw it that somehow means gambling. I know I want that rush. The rush will make it feel better. Winning some cash would make it feel better…. It’s bullcrap. Gambling and the rush are a lie. They are satan sitting on my shoulder saying look at that… it will make you feel good. He’s a lier. He’s a hater. He’s wrong. Day 279.

[Jonny123987]

Day 279 – I invest nearly 50% of every check I take in at the moment. I’m living as cheap as possible. I have some basic urges. Some days the urges seem to be stronger than other days. That’s when I’m not having things change… I noticed the other day I got a call about my job ending. This is pretty normal in my industry. I work freelance so jobs come and go. Of course it was a tough pill to swallow but the odd thing was that I felt the urge to gamble more at that moment or a few minutes later. When emotionally hurt I just want to say screw it… and when I say screw it that somehow means gambling. I know I want that rush. The rush will make it feel better. Winning some cash would make it feel better…. It’s bullcrap. Gambling and the rush are a lie. They are satan sitting on my shoulder saying look at that… it will make you feel good. He’s a lier. He’s a hater. He’s wrong. Day 279.

[Jonny123987]

Hi Monicau,

I hear you and empathize. I have been going through y own misery that is very unique. Your situation is extremely unique as well. I can’t begin to tell you how proud I am of you (for whatever that’s worth) that you’ve not gambled. Forget about the past. forget about the relapses anyhow long they were or took. Thinking that way will not help you at all or make you feel any better. Your situation is harder than mine in some ways. When I decided to quit gambling I was still making money. I was in the hole 20 grand but was still able to get a job. Yes, I had a back surgery and walking was very difficult, but I was still able to be in pain and work. I have nerve damage and that really stinks, but I was able to work. Having these jobs has definitely kept me grounded and helped me forget how bad of a situation I put myself in.
You are tough. That’s for sure. We are all worth the fight. Don’t let the naysayers get you down and I won’t lose faith that my nerve and back will get better. One day at a time. Don’t think about the rest… At least not for now.

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Hi Mark,

It’s insane how bad the urges are to feel that rush. The rush leads you to believe you can win. mIt’s all just a mental *******. Stay strong and stay away from those machines. If you add it all up it makes sense not to play them. Do something else with that time, energy, and money. You are on the path to recovery my friend. Be proud! Don’t think about yesterday ever.

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Hi Monica,
Try to stay strong and positive. one step and one thing at a time. Things will start to fall into place.
Sincerely,
Jon

[Jonny123987]

3racer – No amount of gambling is ok for us. You can’t gamble ever again. It ends in only one way. Bad every time.

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