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  • in reply to: The Last Chance #26821
    JohnNobody
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    HI ALL thanks for the messages in my absence. I do read them all!!! even though I am terrible sometimes at replying. Im back now from Denmark. The trip was too good. I relaxed like I have not been able to in months. Would wake up, drink coffee. Surf rubbish on the internet then get ready and go meet my son in the shopping center when he finished school which is between 1 and 2pm in Denmark.

    Ate too much food and drank more than 1 carlsberg lager but it was good. I somehow had the money to give my son around £160 quid xmas money. He put it towards a PS4 he bought. I then got conned ha ha into buying a PS4 Game for £50 !!!!

    But I remember as I got my debit card out thinking can i should i …. how so many times I dont think twice about depositing that amount and more in the casino. It was a great feeling. Came back almost broke but for the right reasons. My rent has hit the wall but think I can pay her next week if she dont throw me out before. I hope not. Im not good at facing people at the moment and especially not my landlady maybe becuase she has been so good to me. So patient. But there is only so much a person can do in the patience stakes. I will pen her an email tonight and let her know when she is going to get paid.

    Came to my fathers for the weekend with a view to living here for a short time. But dont think I can. I am not sure yet. He has aged these past 4 months since mum made her exit. He has health issues and is frail. I worry about him. He seems to have lost some of his will to live since loosing his wife of over 50 years. That is the hard part.

    On the flip side im ready for this year. Need to get capital built up and restart. ….. its good to see people here so determined. It gives me hope for the future. And yes Vera I have been here a few months now. Things are slowly changing in microbytes. But nevertheless still changing. Onwards ….

    in reply to: On the road to ruin #27462
    JohnNobody
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    Hi Jansdad just read through some of your recent entrys. Your last one about not being able to walk away until winner or looser and your episode in the casino before meeting your friend was painful to read as you could have written that word for word about me! A very honest post. Better the last dollar/pound been there done it so many many times. It is horrendous and totally insane making no sense. We loose even when we win. Then I read your on day 29!!! wtg here is to your future without having to chase any losses!

    in reply to: A better life right now #27084
    JohnNobody
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    And one last note what you wrote here

    “The slot machine never thought much of a $20 at all. Giving that away felt amazing!”

    sums up much!!! so much!!!

    in reply to: A better life right now #27083
    JohnNobody
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    Hi Kpat having teenagers myself I have empathy with your situation. Kids can be rotten at this age and it can make us go have nuts or fully nuts. You have done well to keep things level. My rule is when they live at home its the parents rule not the kids end off. What is really positive is despite of your daily challenges you continue to fight your own battle. This is so good. It can be easy just to give up due to external pressures not related to our addiction. And to read how you gave you 20 to those people 🙁 …. well that speaks volumes. VOLUMES of who you are.

    Passing on random acts of giving is something too rare in this world. You made a difference with your act of kindness! What a brilliant thing to read here on your thread.

    JohnNobody
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    Hi Micky I commend you for coming right back here. As sad said close as many loopholes as you can and do that now. Bar Block Exclude! This is a slip and this addiction would love more than anything to get you back in its grip. Now is the time you can define who you are. And get right back on track again. It is horrible I know. Been there a ton of times. But your new start is today!!!

    in reply to: The Last Chance #26819
    JohnNobody
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    Hi all quick update. Still IN copenhagen leaving tomorrow. Sad to leave my son but feel revitalised. The trip has not been. Without issue. My sons mum struggles with alcohol. But I’m here for my son. Ready to get back ready. To work ready to rebuild. I will not be beaten by this!! Typing from my phone Nd this site not built for mobiles so this is a short one. Keep quitting everyone!!! John

    in reply to: A better life right now #27076
    JohnNobody
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    Hi Kpat I really like your last sentences of the post you wrote

    ” I wont be able to say that 2015 was gamble free, but I will be able to say that I am healing. The noose is not strangling me. I am getting stronger.”

    very honest of you and great to read you know and feel you are getting stronger. You can really build on this for sure. And never say never with regards to the rest of 2015 being gamble free…. you may end up surprising yourself a little bit like finding those peppers in your garden. Sometimes the small things in life can make a huge difference.

    really rooting for you! John

    JohnNobody
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    Hi I think its great to read how you both doing! And the benefits of staying away from gambling such as doing “normal” things Micky. Taking it day by day is good. Without too much emphasis on how long since the last bet. Days and weeks will rack up on there own. Be happy and content with how you have done so far which is brilliant.

    Personally I dont count days anymore. I just do what I can every day not to gamble. At some point in the future all I will be able to say is I aint gambled in a long while.

    Keep going -) beat this one time for all!
    JN.

    in reply to: The Last Chance #26816
    JohnNobody
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    Ha Vera well spending the time with my son so no time or desire to check out the femmes of this fine City. Its freezing here. Rain thunder but good to wake up not in my own place for once. Am thinking lots about what I need to do on my return. Moving forwards – rebuilding. Get back into something I am passionate about somthing that consumes me and motivates me.
    Gambling comes when i get bored or really down. Its a temp fix like a shot of heroin. It works for a moment but then the fall out afterwards can be terrible. Nothing changes if I keep going back to gambling. Everything changes if I stay quit.

    Signing off from Copenhagen … hope to catch some of you in Chat soon. Stay strong!!!

    in reply to: The Last Chance #26815
    JohnNobody
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    Thanks Micky! In the airport now all checked in. Sat in T1 waiting for my plane with a cold beer. I used to do this. Journey. Week i. Week out. It seems surreal. But I’m determined again. This year I will restart and will rebuild. I have new ideas his to move forward. Make ££ and live a life. None of which involves gambling. Onwards!!!

    in reply to: A better life right now #27067
    JohnNobody
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    KPAT This is quick as im almost out the door but my heart goes out to you. I know how much you want to kick this filthy addiction to the edges. But you came back!!! You shared and you are committed. The shame is only there when we allow it to be and try to hide it from ourselves.

    So today is another day. And yes ALL casinos are the same offline or on. They will if we allow them to destroy us. As CGs we can never do recreational gambling. You have shown massive strength coming here. Rooting for you Kpat!!!!!!! Come on Fight!

    in reply to: The Last Chance #26813
    JohnNobody
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    Okay first time in months I am heading abroad to see my Son this morning. Bags packed. It is on a shoe string budget but thankfully my sons mum finally relented and is letting me stay in her apartment with him outside Copenhagen. So that saves some £££.

    It is at the expense of other things I had to pay but this is what happens when we gamble. It could have been so much easier but hey I am an CG and continually screw things up!! But for today now I am happy. Soon will be able to see my brat of a boy who is actually a young man now. 17 in March and full of himself!!!! He knows everything about everything and us lowly parents know nothing ha ha.

    Stay strong lovely people!

    in reply to: A better life right now #27064
    JohnNobody
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    Hows things Kpat ? update no matter what the situation would be good. How are you ? people here care .

    JohnNobody
    Participant

    Your doing great Micky with your pact with Sad!!! and yes I agree being on the level with relapses is so important. No matter how crapppy we feel about it. Slow steps but important ones you are taking. You can really do this and are back on track!!!

    in reply to: The Last Chance #26812
    JohnNobody
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    Hi Vera bag not packed yet but will be soon. Am working up until 12 midnight then will clock off for the next 7 days. I am excited and this journey has taken a lot of planning. And lots of NONE gambling time. But its all paid for now. Including train fares to and from airport.

    Also got some money for my son as Xmas present. Not a great deal but enough for a 16 year old know it all teenager. Its my birthday on Saturday so i have applied immense pressure to him to buy me loads of prezzies ha ha … he can hardly cope with it but he has his part time job so can spoil his dad. In truth I will be luck to get a bottle of coke from him 😉

    But yes looking forward to leaving this Isle if only for a week. I had my first telephone counseling session today. Strange we did not really touch much on my CG issues. But the areas around them. She was good and gave me some insight and some pointers as to what to expect as I start this stage of my recovery.

    We talked about suicidal feelings, isolation, loss many things. It was hard but at the same time I felt unburdened if only for a few minutes. My next is booked for the day I get back. Keep quitting everyone. Dont give up EVER!

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