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the Exuberence is great and also scary, as you just don’t know when it’ll all collapse again, The past weeks back with mine have been the same, he’s been so happy, then hit me with another mini financial crisis and a plea for help with it.
I feel for you and share the feeling of having one foot out of the door, yet you obviously live him. Mine is currently coping with me being loving but firm about not funding him anymore.
From this support site, I’ve learnt so much about why things didn’t add up.Keep going, keep being loving but firm about your boundaries too. hopefully, this will last and last for you both. and you’ll come through it. How is it with knowing you will always need to ring fence the money though?? :SS ??
“Here’s what she does to emotionally manipulate me. It sounds familiar. She gets really nasty with her words and makes me feel rotten, as she has a way of interrogating me and putting me on the defense. She just opens conversations by suggesting I’ve done something wrong or have been bad in some way or another. Obviously I don’t respond very well to this and an argument erupts.”
Is this normal behavoiur for a CG then? because I get this a lot, I’m a giving caring person, and I am constantly criticised for my appearance, I’m not fat – 5kgs over norm. but get commented on that constantly, so I always feel wrong and disadvantaged. and that he’s superior, but when I get too upset, he caves and lifts me up and says I’m wonderful. sometimes it feels abusive, but then he can be so loving and caring and I’m off again wanting that behaviour – lilke I’m the addict to it. Maybe the current ‘cash loss incident’ is because i have a birthday coming up.
COURAGE TO ALL, THIS IS A TOUGH ONE.
Thank you, as someone also not knowing whether to get the hell out now or hang in there and try to support him, this helps a lot. AAA I hope you two can work through this and be stronger for it.