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Change your focus, forgive my bluntness but all I see here is a mourning of the loss of your money. That won’t make you give up gambling as this is a very temporary feeling, less than a week in my experience and the cycle has the potential to start again. Surround yourself with good people, advice – go to GA be open and honest to your nearest and dearest so you can have some accountability with others, surrender control of money. Great that you have reached out well done for sharing on here. Your focus is very money orientated reading this…seek a vocation which you enjoy and money will become secondary – in my experience if money is the primary reason for doing something like your job for example, this has a high likelihood to result in gambling. It sounds to me like you are seeking some fulfilment perhaps or there is something deeper within you which is perhaps scary or painful to confront
I surrendered control of my finances, self excluded from everything and got a lot of help and support from family and friends after opening up and being honest about my problem
Hi readyforchange,
Well done on taking the decision to give up gambling. Your circumstances are very normal for someone with a gambling problem in that you lost a large sum of money and now wish to stop.
My challenge to you is this, what is going to stop you gambling when you have not just lost a large sum of money?
Have you thought about practical steps you can take like self exclusion or surrendering control of your finances to someone trusted?
I am a recovering gambling addict myself and I sense willpower in your post. However, willpower alone is not enough to keep me or you stopped permanently, I know from experience.
I would like to hear from you again and hope things go well.
One step at a time. One day at a time.
Hi tonybellew1
Well done on reaching out and starting this thread. It appears you are aware you have a problem and you wish to change in order to better your life, this is an important early stage so well done.
Ask yourself what you are willing to do to stop? I hear you are at somewhat of a fork in the road by this comment…”The thing that gets me is that I enjoy betting, but know I need to stop or it will get to the stage where I can’t continue anymore.”
Steev has provided some very sound advice there.
I am a recovering gambling addict aged 27 and my last bet was 03/04/18. Believe me change is possible even when you within yourself think it is not.
GA is a great place to start because you can get face to face support with people with exactly the same problem as you.
One step at a time. One day at a time.
I look forward to hearing of any updates/progress you make.
Final thought – you are young, you are able to change.
God bless
I commend you for your honesty and perseverance through your difficulties, it is courageous to see. From my perspective I see an unrealistic goal, as a compulsive gambler myself this would inentivably lead to a relapse. It is great that you have that desire and ambition to be gamble free for an extended period of time, however what will you do when you achieve your goal? And if you fail to achieve it this inevitably leads to disappointment, despair, shame etc.
The phrase ‘one day at a time’ is uttered often, but I can’t think of a more apt one in your case. Keep your focus in the present day and the time will pass without thinking of it – this is my advice speaking from my own personal experience, feel free to use it how you see fit.