[Jessiecau]

Thank you velvet. I will look into all your suggestions. I have looked at the 20 questions and he certainly ticks several of the boxes.
I have great family and friends but only one of my friends knows what is going on, and she certainly doesn’t know the extent of it. I am thinking of going to a counselour just to help sort my feelings out.
Thank you for the support.

[Jessiecau]

We sold our house to help reduce our rather large mortgage. We had a fair amount of equity in the house. We bought something cheaper. It had nothing to do with his gambling.
His gambling seems to go in waves. At times he seems to be able to go a month without gambling, other times twice in a matter of days.
He won’t get professional help, I have already suggested it. He has too much pride, and he would have to admit that there is a problem. I have no idea what else to do as I watch him slowly self destruct, but he doesn’t seem to realise? Or is it just a really good front.

[Jessiecau]

We have just sold our house and there was a fair amount of money sitting in our account. I have asked him how he would feel if I was doing the same thing. He doesn’t give much of a response to that.
I think we are both coming to the end of our tethers. We have a large family and we are both worn out and frustrated. His gambling has had a huge impact on me, which I tried to tell him but to him it’s just me overreacting. He apologised (by sending flowers and a text message) for going out the other night. He acts like that should have fixed everything. Because flowers fix everything right??

[Jessiecau]

Thank you Geordie. I have had a little browse of the site. It is a bit daunting. I am doubting myself. He is generally a good husband – helps with everything (washing, kids etc), but I feel completely baffled that he can’t see this as being a problem. He thinks that it is under control. Do CG really have to lose everything for it to be a serious problem? He says it relaxes him.
Thank you again for your insite. I really appreciate it.

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