[Jdbby85]

It actually quite alarming how many people have similar stories! At the time when you’re gambling in whatever form it is and you’re chasing losses you feel like the ONLY person who could ever do such a wicked thing! I would like to suggest whenever you feel the urge to gamble come on here and post in the forum to take your mind off that for a minute, people will reply pretty quick! They did with me! I lost mine and my partners weeks wages (£700+) in the space of 4/5 hrs just pushing spin, spin, spin like a zombie it wasn’t even registering until a message would come up “out of funds please deposit”
That makes me cringe! Thinking I did that! But people make mistakes it’s what you do to put them right! I’m now 9 days in, I’ve blocked online casino sites with gamstop (they’re really good, block all casino sites in uk for free) it’s really easy and takes 24 hrs to be effective! Also I don’t know if your wife could find it useful to use the forums on here as they have an option for friends or family members! That might be helpful to her? Good luck

[Jdbby85]

You’re describing me (although my addiction is online slots) I’ve lied and hurt my husband, my family and although I feel disgusted with my self, the fact that you’ve come clean is immense and hopefully you have the strength to beat your addiction! I have blocked gambling sites and am now being honest with myself and my loved ones! I think it’s lies that have hurt people around me! I’m sure you feel the same!
Be open and honest with your wife, talk to her even when it’s not what she wants to hear! Lies produce more lies & I’m saying that because that’s how I’ve ended up in this horrible situation! I’m sure your wife will do what she can to support you but you have to be honest with her and put her mind at ease! If that means accounting for every penny with receipts or whatever she feels she needs from you! You can beat this because you wouldn’t have posted on here! I wish you all the best in your journey!

[Jdbby85]

Hi I have recently stopped gambling I nearly lost my home, my marriage and my sanity!
I’ve not gambled for over 8 days and the urge to gamble has gone too! I’m hoping it stays that way! I’m not sure it will still early days! If you feel like you are going to want to gamble please come on here put it on the forum and I’m sure someone will answer you! They answered me and I’ve found it really positive! Try to distract yourself if you feel an urge to gamble, go for a walk make a drink anything you can! Also do you have any family or friends who can support you, maybe let them take over your finances for a bit so you do not have access to money that you can spend online? That may help you also!
Good luck on your journey to a better future! Stay strong!

[Jdbby85]

I am exactly the same as everyone who has commented on this post I could be hundreds of pounds up but I think ‘I’ll just get it up to £x then I’ll stop” I don’t even realise that I’m pushing the spin button (online slots for me) until that message pops up “funds unavailable-please deposit money” and I realise shit! I’ve just done my rent or food shopping money and then the panic starts of trying to get money to replace what I’ve lost!!! I’m no better off in fact I’m worse off! It goes round and round!! Stop it now COMPLETELY! (Being honest with yourself is massive) ‘gamstop’ is really good! I registered a week ago and it’s got an option for how long (I picked 5 years) you self exclude, using phone numbers and email addresses blocks all online gambling sites registered in the uk and it’s free! Again I think you need to be completely honest with yourself and them too and put every email address or mobile number down when completing the registration! I haven’t (thank god) tried to get around ‘gamstop’ or the self exclusion yet! Keep talking and posting and being truthful with everyone but mainly YOU! 12 years down the line you will be helping somebody else out who’s feeling low because of this awful disease! Good luck jade

[Jdbby85]

i feel good at the moment, 7 days not gambling AT ALL! It feels amazing but now I’m trying to gain my husbands trust back, this is the scariest part of my journey for me! i have been writing a personal diary and have broken down why/what/when I feel the compulsion to gamble so I can understand my triggers! I have also registered with ‘gamstop’ and that has shut down all of my online casino accounts even the 1s I’d forgotten about! It’s a really amazing charity! it also gives my husband some peace of mind that even if I wanted to I cannot gamble! I have only ever gambled on online slots, im not that savvy when it comes to getting around these things so hopefully it will help. The biggest thing I have found is that I’m being honest with myself & asked myself ‘What have I actually gained from gambling?’ NOTHING! Because I was always repaying debts I had accrued due to gambling.  Also your comment about being the child of a gambler really bought home the fact that my kids (16 & 13 yrs old) are completely old enough to understand what I’m doing, how much im lying, how stressed I am if I lose and that it’s all down to gambling!! I do not want them to say to anyone when they are older “i Was the child of a gambling addict” because it’s not how I’ve bought them up! it’s quite a new situation I’m in a year or so but it’s a year or so too long! I looking for a job too so I can get out of the house because I think boredom and not being needed so much by my kids has played a huge part in me even gambling in the first place!! I’ve put everything into my family, my home and we’ve had a few things over the last 6/7/8 years that have been 1 thingafter the other (son diagnosed with ADHD, daughter self harming, moving to a new area, trying to keep my son in main stream education, etc) I found them all traumatic and stressful because my kids are my world as is my husband! 

[Jdbby85]

Hi onenonly,
I’m coming from a compulsive gambling perspective here, somebody who has lied to my husband & family, you can only support her so much (sounds like you have completely) but if the money is there she’ll use it to gamble! You have to let her take responsibility for herself, if she’s pawned jewellery make her get it back. You’re doing everything you can to help her it has to come from her now because it’s going to cause your mental/physical/financial health to suffer! Be supportive, talk to her & let her know you’re there for her but stop the money & paying off debts etc. I do not want this to come across as rude but try not to let her walk all over you! The best thing my husband has done for me is taking away financial responsibilities so he has control over bank Acc’s and bills, I gambled to the point of nearly making my family homeless (2kids, 2dogs me & my husband) and even after the arrears were paid I still went on to gamble & not pay rent.
Gambling can turn the nicest of people into dishonest and conniving people.
I hope you work it out

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