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хей MurrS7. Не можах да устоя, освен да кажа нещо след като прочетох постовете ви. Знам, че в момента ви е много трудно и бих искал да мога да направя нещо повече от думи, но думите могат да бъдат мощни и искрено се надявам да видите какво повечето от нас ви казват. Първата стъпка, която трябва да направите в момента, е да дадете финансите си на всеки, на когото имате доверие. АКО не можете да го дадете на родителите си или да споделите за пристрастяването с тях, опитайте се да убедите своя приятел, ако е някой, на когото имате доверие с пари, и й кажете, че може да има достъп до вашите финанси. Ако наистина иска да ви помогне, може да го приеме. АКО НЕ тя, моля, помислете дали да го дадете на някой, на когото имате пълно доверие. непрекъснато споменаваш, че си мъртъв вътре, но искам да ти напомня, че все още си много жив и има надежда, докато не станеш. Не приемайте живота за даденост човек. Разбирам, че имате голям дълг, но това може да бъде изплатено с времето. Не е краят на света. Съсредоточете се върху запазването на работата си в момента. Компаниите за кредитни карти не държат пистолет, за да платите всички дългове наведнъж. Все още си спомням, че получих сметка от 20 000 долара от болница преди 6 години, когато трябваше да ме откарат с линейка посред нощ посред нощ. Тогава имах тежка астма и алергии от най -лошия вид и изобщо не можех да дишам (сърдечна честота на 160 по времето, когато пристигнаха санитари). държаха ме там 3 дни и ми дадоха тази огромна сметка. Бях загубил всякаква надежда. здравето ми се влошаваше и имах тази сметка. Бързо напред 6 години, аз съм без дългове и здравето ми е много по-добро сега (постоянно си получавах ваксините за алергия през последните 4-5 години с някои пропуски между тях) целта на историята беше да ви разкажа никога да не губите надежда, защото можете да промените живота си последователно. В момента съм само 5 дни GF, но продължавам да си напомням всеки ден и да се съсредоточа върху това, което все още имате. Имате своята работа, жив сте, имате покрив над главата си, имате храна, имате семейни и основни неща в живота. Всички имаме нужда от помощ от време на време. Няма срам да получите помощ, затова ви поздравявам, че взехте решението да посетите рехабилитационен център. просто трябва да се придържате към това сега. Придържайте се към плана и забравете за преследването на загубата. Бъдете благодарни и благодарни, че виждате всеки ден в живота си. Времето ще излекува раната ви. дайте си още един шанс и моля придържайте се към плана. Хората тук критикуваха площада, но не мисля, че той е имал някаква вреда за вас. той просто изглежда много разстроен от вас след повтарящи се грешки. Всички ние имаме различни личности със същата зависимост от хазарт (настояща или минала), така че всеки от нас ще има различни възгледи, но всички сме на една и съща страна в една и съща лодка. Надявам се, че ще приемете сериозно съвета ми. Не искам само моя напредък, но искам и вашия напредък и искам всички тук да стигнат до другата страна на тунела, където имате свободен от хазарт живот.
hallo MurrS7. Ik kon het niet laten om iets te zeggen na het lezen van je berichten. Ik weet dat het op dit moment erg moeilijk voor je is en ik wou dat ik meer kon doen dan alleen woorden, maar woorden kunnen krachtig zijn en ik hoop oprecht dat je zult zien wat de meesten van ons je vertellen. De allereerste stap die u nu moet nemen, is uw financiën aan iemand geven die u vertrouwt. ALS je het niet aan je ouders kunt geven of met hen over verslaving kunt praten, probeer dan je vriendin te overtuigen als ze iemand is die je vertrouwt met geld en laat haar weten dat ze toegang heeft tot je financiën. Als ze je echt wil helpen, kan ze dat misschien accepteren. ALS zij het niet is, overweeg dan om het aan iemand te geven die u volledig vertrouwt. je blijft maar zeggen dat je van binnen dood bent, maar ik wil je eraan herinneren dat je nog steeds springlevend bent en dat er hoop is totdat je dat bent. Neem het leven niet als vanzelfsprekend aan man. Ik begrijp dat je enorme schulden hebt, maar die kunnen mettertijd worden afbetaald. Het is niet het einde van de wereld. Focus op het behouden van je baan op dit moment. Creditcardmaatschappijen houden u niet vast om alle schulden in één keer te betalen. Ik herinner me nog dat ik 6 jaar geleden een rekening van $ 20k van het ziekenhuis ontving toen ik midden in de nacht met een ambulance naar het ziekenhuis moest worden gebracht. Ik had toen ernstige astma en allergieën van de ergste soort en ik kon helemaal niet ademen (hartslag op 160 op het moment dat ambulances arriveerden). ze hielden me daar 3 dagen en gaven me deze enorme rekening. Ik had alle hoop verloren. mijn gezondheid ging achteruit en ik kreeg deze rekening. Snel vooruit 6 jaar, ik ben schuldenvrij en mijn gezondheid is nu veel beter (ik heb de afgelopen 4-5 jaar consequent mijn allergieschoten gekregen met wat hiaten ertussen) het punt van het verhaal was om je te vertellen om nooit de hoop te verliezen, omdat je je leven consequent kunt veranderen. Ik ben op dit moment slechts 5 dagen GF, maar ik blijf mezelf er dag voor dag aan herinneren en concentreer me op wat je nog hebt. Je hebt je baan, je leeft, je hebt een dak boven je hoofd, je hebt eten, je hebt familie en basisbehoeften in het leven. We hebben allemaal wel eens hulp nodig. Het is geen schande om hulp te krijgen, dus ik prijs je voor het nemen van de beslissing om een afkickcentrum te bezoeken. je moet hier nu gewoon consequent in zijn. Houd je aan het plan en vergeet het najagen van het verlies. Wees dankbaar en dankbaar om elke dag in je leven te zien. De tijd zal je wond helen. geef jezelf nog een kans en houd je aan het plan. De mensen hier hadden kritiek op Plaza, maar ik denk niet dat hij je kwaad heeft gedaan. hij lijkt gewoon erg boos op je na herhaalde fouten. We hebben allemaal verschillende persoonlijkheden met dezelfde gokverslaving (huidig of verleden), dus ieder van ons zal verschillende opvattingen hebben, maar we staan allemaal aan dezelfde kant in hetzelfde schuitje. Ik hoop dat u mijn advies serieus neemt. Ik wil niet alleen mijn vooruitgang, maar ik wil ook jouw vooruitgang en ik wil dat iedereen hier aan de andere kant van de tunnel komt waar je een gokvrij leven hebt.
hey MurrS7. I couldn’t resist but to say some thing after reading your posts. I know it’s really hard on you at the moment and I wish I could do more than just words but words can be powerful and I sincerely hope you will get to see what most of us are telling you. The very first step you need to take right now is give your finances to any one you trust. IF you can’t give it to your parents or share about addiction with them, then try to convince your gf if she is some one who you trust with money and let her know she can have access to your finances. If she really wants to help you, she might accept it. IF not her, then please consider giving it to some one you fully trust.
you keep mentioning about being dead inside but I want to remind you that you are still very much alive and there is hope until you are. Don’t take life for granted man. I understand you are in huge debt but it can be paid off with time. It’s not the end of the world. Focus on keeping your job at the moment. Credit card companies are not holding gun on you to pay all debt at once. I still remember receiving a $20k bill from hospital 6 years ago when I had to be taken to hospital by ambulance in the middle of night. I had severe asthma and allergies of the worst kind back then and I couldn’t breathe at all ( heart rate at 160 at the time when paramedics arrived). they kept me there for 3 days and gave me this huge bill. I had lost all hope. my health was deteriorating and i had this bill. Fast forward 6 years, I’m debt free and my health is much much better now ( I’ve been consistently getting my allergy shots for the last 4-5 years with some gaps in between) the point of the story was to tell you to never ever lose hope because you can change your life with consistency. I am only 5 days GF at the moment but I keep reminding myself one day at a time and focus on what you still have. You have your job, you are alive, you have roof over your head, you have food, you have family and basic necessities in life. We all need help from time to time. There’s no shame in getting help, so I commend you for taking the decision to visit rehab center. you just have to be consistent with this now. Stick to the plan and forget about chasing the loss. Be thankful and grateful to seeing each day in your life. Time will heal your wound. give yourself another chance and please stick to the plan. People here criticized plaza but I don’t think he meant any harm for you. he just seems very upset with you after repetitive mistakes. We all have different personalities with the same gambling addiction ( current or past), so each one of us will have different views but we are all on the same side in the same boat. I hope you will take my advice seriously. I don’t want my progress only, but I want your progress too and I want every one on here to make it to the other side of the tunnel where you have gambling free life.Uskon, että se on helpompi löytää sivuston käyttäjätunnuksen kautta. En ole varma, miten löytää ihmisiä sähköpostiosoitteen avulla. Kun olet luonut tilin, voit hakea käyttäjätunnuksestani "ojay22". Olisin lisännyt sinut, jos tietäisin käyttäjänimesi.
I think it will be easier to find through user name on the site. I am not sure how to find people using email address. Once you have made the account, you can search my user name ” ojay22″. I’d have added you if i knew your username.
Luulen myös, että shakilla on jonkin verran yhteyttä uhkapeliin, mutta saatan kompastua lol. Aloitin shakin pelaamisen muutama kuukausi sitten kun katsoin kuningattaren gambitin ja olen pelannut yli 1800 peliä sen jälkeen. Pelasin shakkia pienenä, mutta nyt opin oikeastaan erilaisia avauksia ja puolustuksia. Tämä on hyvä aivotoiminta, mutta kun häviät pelin, sinusta tulee pakkomielle siitä, mitä teit väärin, ja haluat jatkaa voittoa samalla tavalla kuin peliautomaatit. voitat kerran kolikkopelissä, luulet olevasi voittamaton ja voitat kolikkopelin joka kerta, mutta sitä ei tapahdu. Sama teoria shakissa, voitat yhden henkilön, mutta seuraava henkilö pelaa paremmin kuin sinä ja häviät pelin, sitten haluat pelata toista ja kun olet voittoputkessa, tunnet itsesi mestariksi ja lopetat pelaamisen jonkin aikaa lol. Shakkia pelaan vain vapaa -aikana tai taukoaikana, kun kullekin pelaajalle annetaan määrätty aika, kuten blitz -peli tai 5 minuutin peli. Pelit lisääntyvät jatkuvasti. Meidän pitäisi järjestää jokin tapahtuma ja pelata shakkiturnaus eräänä päivänä, vain harvat meistä tältä foorumilta. Minusta shakki voi olla ratkaisu. Tarvitsemme riippuvuutta, ja shakki ei luultavasti ole haitallinen riippuvuus (kiistanalainen), mutta ole tietoinen, kun pelaat liikaa, näet unelmia shakkinappuloiden liikkumisesta ja valitset liikkeesi seinälle nukkumisen aikana ovi tai mikä tahansa litteä asia, jonka löydät lol. Kiinnostus online -shakkiin nousi 500% kuningattaren gambit -esityksen julkaisemisen jälkeen. Shakki vapauttaa jännityksen jossain määrin.
I also think chess has some relation to gambling but I might be tripping lol. I started chess few months ago after watching queen’s gambit and I have played over 1800 games since then. I used to play chess when I was little but now I am actually learning different openings and defenses. This is a good brain activity but when you lose the game, you become obsessed with what you did wrong and you want to keep on winning same like slot machines. you win once in slot machine, you think you are invincible and you will beat the slot machine every time but it doesn’t happen. Same theory in chess, you will beat one person but the next person will play better than you and you lose a game, then you want to play another one and once you are on the winning streak, you feel like a champion and you stop playing for a while lol. I only play chess during my leisure time or break time with set amount of time given to each player like a blitz game or a 5 minutes game. Games keep adding up. We should organize some event and play chess tournament one day, only few of us from this forum. I feel like chess might be the solution. We need an addiction and chess is probably not a harmful addiction ( debatable) but be mindful when you play too much, you will see dreams of chess pieces moving around and you will be pre selecting your moves on the wall, during the sleep, on the door or any flat thing you can find lol. Interest in online chess peaked by 500% after that queen’s gambit show was released. Chess releases the tension to some degree.
Hei! Huomasin juuri, että pelaat shakkia vapaa -ajallasi. Olen myös pelannut shakkia. tämä on hyvä stressin lievitys. Oletko shakissa. com -sivusto? Hyvää työtä toipumisessa
hey! I just noticed that you play chess in your leisure time. I have also been playing chess. this is a good stress reliever activity. Are you on chess. com website? Good job on the recovery
hello! I have had many relapses in the past and I just had another relapse 4 months ago. I just started this new process yesterday and I read most of your journey and I have to commend you for the honesty and effort. I just want to say that it’s not the end of the world. don’t lose hope and give up. I will be trying out new strategies to cope with this addiction in the coming days. I think the first step is to be honest with myself. I realized some thing after writing my first here. the only person being hurt financially is me myself, not any one else. I have also decided that I would reward myself with a gift after every 4 weeks from now on. We all deal with issues differently. I hope you will find some thing that will work for you. I used to go to gym, watch movies in theater, being social with friends, play snooker, play chess and so many other activities. I lost interest in most of these activities in the last 4 months. I am going to try and add some of these activities back into my routine. I think lockdowns around the world due to pandemic have greatly affected a lot of former gamblers but we need to wire our brains in a certain way that we don’t think about short-cut easy money any more. I started my new road from yesterday. let’s do it together. I will be honest with my journey and I hope you can give yourself another chance