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You’re right sad. All options are on the table 🙂
We just don’t know, most of the time, why we gamble while we gamble. Pleasure, fun, escape, hope of big win, adrenaline rush, to punish ourselves, to reward ourselves, combination of these and other things…read that book Seri
I don’t know that it is the lure of a big win that drives us back to gambling. Most of us gambled away so much over the years than nothing short of a major lottery win would win us back even a portion of what we have lost.
Seri’s betting sports, how much is he going to win even if he wins big? 10 times on his money? 20 times on his money? It’s nothing in the grand scheme of things.I often found that I wanted to gamble just to gamble. Even to lose. I’d rather lose than not gamble at all. As a matter of fact I gambled many, many times when I was so exhausted that I literally had no chance of winning at poker; I gambled to lose. And I couldn’t stop until I lost everything I had available. It was like I wanted to punish myself for something.
Even a few weeks ago, after I stopped I wanted to gamble. I was tired and I knew I could only get about $200 online, nowhere near to give me a fighting chance of winning back what I had lost previous weeks. But then I said to myself ‘it doesn’t matter that I will lose for sure, I will have some fun that’s certain, and it will be worth the $200’
It is a minor miracle that I didn’t give in that time, I was so very close.I’m trying to say we gamble for different reasons and we gamble for different reasons at different times. It’s not only the lure of winning big.
You have to see gambling from a different perspective Seri. Like those optical illusions. Once you see it for what it really is you can no longer be fooled.
I just caught up on this thread. Sorry about the money you lost geordie, but I would rather lose 40 pounds the way you did then lose 5 pounds gambling. And I truly mean it!
The more gamble-free days I got the more valuable they become to me. And I’m well aware how hard it was to get to this point and how very close I came to giving in on a number of occasions including 3am on January 1st when most cg’s make solemn vows they won’t gamble.
So, no, I don’t want to break that chain of gamble free days that is now at #43.About the book, you know I love it and you know I’ve praised it all along. But I didn’t really like the pep-talk in the beginning of the book and I didn’t really like the solemn-vow thing towards the end. I think it was very unnecessary. He did such a great job revealing gambling for what it really is and he could have spared us the pep talk and the solemn-vow BS. Didn’t we all make solemn-vows not to gamble more times than we can count?
Great post icandothis. When we gamble we lose so much and so fast, and only a fraction of that money can give us so much pleasure elsewhere.
I’m overwhelmed with guilt and anger whenever I think of what I lost and what I could have done with that money instead. But I learned to accept that that money is gone, it’s in the past, I cannot win it back – never; and I drew a line.
Hi seri and welcome. There’s no one proven way to quit gambling. You have to search and find out what works for you. The lot here swears by ‘on day at a time’ and i’m sure it worked for some, but for many it never did. If you try it make sure you find something rewarding in it. ‘cos anyone can go without gambling a day or a two, but what then, you brain will ask you? You tortured yourself for a day or two, fighting your urges and now you still crave more than ever.
Try and find a way to trick your brain, change perspective on gambling, change your mindset. I think only that will work in the long run. If you have to fight your urges you’re doing something wrong. And most people are not strong enough to fight their urges.
Read “the easy way to stop gambling” by Allen Carr. I found that book invaluable. Again, it might not be your piece of cake. You have to search for what will work for you.Nice post geordie. I really wish this discussion forum had the option to search for posts by particular user. Almost all discussion forums have that option, along with total number of posts, private messages between users and many, many other options that are a standard nowadays. Any particular reason Monique why this forum’s software is so very limited in functionality?
Way to go frozen!!!