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Just wanted to add to the others in congratulating you on a job well done!
Hi King, Just wanted to say welcome. I am glad you found this site last night, and glad you put that chart back up on your wall. Also, good for you for not gambling for 6 months. Good that you understand the nature of this illness. That you cannot gamble, even if your friends can. That was a hard one for me. You are young and by working recovery, you can have the life you deserve.
Hi Libbie, Good for you for not gambling when you went out of town. I know leaving town alone is a big trigger for me. I also think feeling low is part of the withdrawal process. I have had quite a bit of it, especially last month. I think one reason I felt even more low than usual is because of my determination not to gamble. I knew I wasn’t going to find relief by gambling. Thank you for helping me see that. Good for you in taking positive action to find relief from those blues by doing something beside gambling. I hope your walk does the trick. It does sound lovely. If you find you still have urges, find something else to do. You can do this one activity at a time!
Neva, my husband does look good in a suit, which is a good thing because he is a salesman and wears one every day to work. Don’t think of you as a preacher, Cat. I understand just what you are talking about. My MIL is not doing well. Went to visit her this afternoon. She didn’t recognize me. She did hear my husband’s voice and asked if he was in the room. She kept asking for her husband who **** when my husband was 13. She is doing things I don’t even want to talk about. I hope the good Lord takes her soon. I know this is very hard on my husband. I think he is really appreciating what I went through with my parents. Can[t really process everything at this moment. All in all, we had a good weekend and no gambling. We talked about how since we married 33 years ago, there has been so many things thrown at us. Not feeling sorry for ourselves, just feeling weary. We both could use a break, and yet we find comfort in each other every day. Who could ask for more than that?
Hi Trulyshi, Your colors sound great. I have been stripping wallpaper, and we have painted the kids’ rooms. Both the same color, which is the same color as our room. (also, boring) I don’t even like the color, but we had leftover paint, and we are on a budget. Also, not thrilled with the bedspreads, but they were also bought on a budget. I think I have to stop that and start buying things I like instead of buying them cheap. Although, I have to admit, I get a thrill out of finding bargains. I like the one bedspread. My sister-in-law doesn’t like it, so now I have my doubts. Something else I need to work on. The bathroom is next. Half-stripped and still a mess. The paper was so hard to remove. I took off the plaster along with it. Enough about my decorating woes. No matter what, it keeps me busy and change is good.
I used to live not too far across the river from your town. Before your casino, when we were very young my husband and I would take weekend trips to your town. A nice weekend get away. Good entertainment, good food, shopping…a room with a view of the river. Our city didn’t look too bad from across the river and at night! Also, safer to enjoy it from a far! lol I don’t think we could enjoy the trip now a days. All I would see and think about is the casino. What a shame!Neva, So many good things in your life to distract you from gambling. Or is it, there are so many good things in your life, and gambling would only distract you from them? Either way, I am so happy for you. I love hearing about everything. It inspires me to hold on. I know there are good things coming for my husband and I, even if I can’t see them and I have no idea what they might be. Only one good thing I know for sure will be coming today. A gamble free day!
We are not destined to make the same mistakes as our parents. You are destined for something better than your mother’s motto of "You can’t take it with me? When we leave this earth, we leave so much more than our money!Hi RG, That does sound like a wonderful time, indeed. I am impressed you know the words to those wonderful old songs. What a great memory with your dad. You must have a very special relationship. My dad’s favorite was Frank Sinatra’s "I’ve Gotta Be Me." I can relate to having a great day and still having urges. It just goes to show that once we are hooked, anything can be a trigger. Hold on tight!
Thinking of you today, Cat. I know this will be a difficult day. Prayers and hugs.
Maverick, So good to see you are still posting. I know you will start a new thread when you are ready. There may be detours, but the journey continues. Sending you, as always, my support and well wishes.
Another Facebook Food for Thought! Happy Recovery Day, everyone!!
Welcome to GT. Great advice from one of our members, Bettie…just do the next right thing! Focus on one thing at a time! You can do this!
Saw this on facebook, liked it, and wanted to share. Could refer to any one of us, but I have to admit, it really made me think of you, Debbie and the "falling apart" of your relationship. Great to see so many things falling into place for you now. If you find any more pictures of you know who while you are unpacking, I am glad you know just the right place to put them! lol
— 04/04/2013 11:46:05: post edited by harry.Thank you so much Trulyshi, Vera, and Cat for asking about my MIL She did have a stroke. Her quality of life has taken a huge nosedive. She was a little better today than yesterday. As my husband says, we will have to take it one day at a time. Hmmm…where have I heard that before? These things just keep coming at us, and maybe that is the lesson. Live for today, make the most of it because you never know what tomorrow brings. For example, I am so glad we visited her on Easter instead of waiting until her birthday. My husband wore a new suit that my MIL bought for him to show her appreciation for all the things he does for her, which is a lot. He looked very handsome, and he was looking forward to showing it to her. I am so grateful that she was able to see him in it, and understand that it was a gift from her. Even I was excited to see him in it. Lavender shirt and a purple tie. One woman who lives at assisted living asks him every time she sees him if he is a Preacher. He always tells her that he is too much of a sinner to be a Preacher. I don’t know about that but, last Sunday, I thought he really did look like a Preacher!
Cat, ***** me in. Not as determined as I was in March. But for today, April 1. I will not be a FOOL and gamble! …I know that was bad, but I couldn’t help myself. lol Wishing everyone a good, gamble-free Monday!
Cat, I had made the same request of my page and to have all my information deleted, and then yesterday I changed my mind, and took it back. I don’t know why. Maybe I am tired of the secrets. I just want to be me…good, bad, and the ugly…and not be ashamed of it any more. I think we are sharing a similar struggle right now. I think a job would help me, but I can’t seem to motivate myself to find one. I don’t think I am quilified for much of anything anymore. I like that phrase "give myself a shake" That is just what I could use.
Today is my MIL’s birthday. April fools day..97 years old. We went to visit her yesterday and gave her a nice outfit that she could wear today. She was in good spirits and doing as well as could be expected of a 97 year old. Then, something happened to her last evening, and she is not doing well today at all. Incoherrant, disoriented, seems to be in pain and can’t get out of bed. My husband is with her right now, and hopefully a doctor will come soon, so we will know more. I am glad we saw her yesterday, but i feel bad because the rest of the family were going to have lunch with her today, and she was looking forward to it, and also to wearing her new outfit and having her hair done.
I have been thinking a lot about gambling, too, Cat. I really need to refocus. To figure out how to get through this low time where change is necessary. I need to hold tight and find the motivation and desire to look for something of substance to fill this void instead of looking to gambling. I am not the first non-working mom who has struggled with having an empty nest. There are solutions to this problem, but gambling is not one of them. It is not the end of the world, and if I could motivate myself and change my attitude, it could be a fun time of self-discovery. April 1 would be a good time to start!
My husband just called. The nurse has called my MIL’s doctor and told him there is an emergency. He is not answering his phone. Seriously???