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Hi Bettie, I couldn’t get to the end of your posts. I guess it doesn’t matter. I wanted to thank you for your post about commitment. I have read it a few times. It has really made me think about the things I am committed to, and also, the things I am not committed to, but think I should be…because of what I think others think I should be committed to. It also made me think about the things I value the most and how the things I commit myself to should reflect those values.
I hope your shoulder (I think it’s your shoulder) is feeling better. Everything is so much more difficult to deal with when you are in pain.
I hope you had a nice Thanksgiving. We have lots of turkey left over. I’m going to make another batch of stuffing and a creamy corn dish I wanted to try. So, I guess the eating frenzy continues!Someone posted this on facebook and thought I would share.
I’m not where I need to be
but
thank God
I’m not where I used to beCongratulations, R2C! Well done. Keep working recovery and making those we changes. One change today can make a big difference in the future. Have a great week!
I am so happy for you and your family, Cat. What a blessing! I know the loss of your grandson touched you deeply. May you enjoy all the blessings you and your family will be sharing this holiday season and may you be touched deeply by the joy of it all!
Hi Cat, Thanks for the post on my thread. You are right about what you said. I would rather have just about anything happen to me than to watch my daughter suffer. It’s funny you talked about control. I was just thinking about that. About all the things going on in my life right now that I have no control over. Especially my daughter’s happiness. Then I thought about the things I did have control over, which really is only one thing…ME…and then I only have control over how…ME…responds to all those things that I have no control over! So I have made a simple plan each day…to feel good. It’s a simple plan, but it’s not always an easy one. This simple plan has helped me not to gamble because if it is my sincere desire to feel good today, then I couldn’t possibly choose to gamble. And I know how I will feel tomorrow if I gamble today…NOT GOOD! Have a great day, Cat!
Hi SJ, I think November is going to be a good month for you…the month you turn your life around and quit gambling for good. It looks like you are doing some very positive things and really working on your recovery. good for you! Try not to think too much about the past. Today is a new day. Focus on that and the future will be brighter! Take care
Hi P, I am so glad you have decided to keep posting. You have made so much progress. It makes me smile just thinking about it. I am hoping everyone here can have a blessed holiday season and that we won’t mess it up or add unnecessary drama by gambling.
I won’t gamble today. I am a person who loves celebrations and holidays. Last month, I kept thinking that I wanted to celebrate Halloween without the guilt and remorse of gambling tainting everything. This month, Thanksgiving, falls on the last weekend of November. I want to be able to enjoy the weekend and to give thanks for the things that really matter to me. I might feel a little sick to my stomach from eating too much turkey, but I don’t want it to be from gambling. I am looking forward to celebrating Thanksgiving and I hope I can also celebrate another gamble-free month. One Day at a Time!
If you have gambled this month, don’t gamble today, then GIVE THANKS for one gamble-free day, then GIVE THANKS again tomorrow for one more!!!Hi Luna, I just love your writing. I hope you continue to write. I relate to so much of what you say, but you can express it in a way that I can’t. You have a gift, and I am glad you are choosing to share it with us. I believe we all have something to give each other on this site.
Something you said about a jigsaw puzzle made me think of something. Last spring, at the end of a year of Bible Study, the group of women went away together for a weekend. We were asked to bring a piece of material that spoke to us or represented us in some way. My piece of material was a brightly colored jigsaw puzzle. It represented my desire to put the pieces of my life back together. Everything is part of the puzzle and it all fits in…at least eventually. I gambled on the way to the gathering and on the way back, so obviously, still some missing pieces. But, I think the important things is to keep trying to find the missing pieces, and keep trying to put the all pieces of our lives together. I don’t think we ever get it done…gambling is only one piece of the puzzle…it just doesn’t fit for us…so many other beautiful, colorful pieces, that fit right in! Eventually, we’ll find the right pieces and then we’ll put ourselves back together again. I think that is why I continue to come to GT…I need help finding my missing pieces, and I need help putting the pieces together.Another thought…If you think of GT as a Jigsaw Puzzle, we are all of its pieces. We are a colorful bunch, all shapes and sizes, smooth and rough edges but WE ALL FIT TOGETHER..ALL OF US!
So excited for you, Lizbeth. I’ll be thinking of you Monday. So exciting. I know you will fit right into your new home and your new town. Life is filled with highs and lows. We can tell ourselves that we need gambling to get through the lows, but it doesn’t help. It only makes everything worse. Then gambling dulls our highs. Enjoy this high, Lizbeth.
I don’t want to bring attention to you, P. I missed your last post, and I couldn’t let you go without saying something. I am having my cup of coffee and of course that makes me think of you. So, I raise my cup and say a prayer for you. Take care of yourself. So much love here for you. Please don’t forget that.
Hi Cat, I am getting caught up on posting today, and just wanted to thank you for your concern and kind words on my thread. My daughter is doing a bit better. She is healing, but it is a process, and it is going to take time. Kind of like recovery. As I am writing this, she is on her way home from a job interview. I am not sure what she is going to do, but I think she got the job. Seriously, she must interview very well….I have to go. She did get the job! She is calling me….
I know I talk about my daughter a lot, but her life is so much more interesting than mine!!! lol
Hi R2C, Good to see you posting! Been kind of quiet around here. I have been fighting urges today. My daughter is leaving the house shortly, which is something she hasn’t done during the day since the breakup. Her being here all day has been a huge barrier for me. My CG is screaming…freedom…go for it! I like what you said…being an ACTIVE CG is torture. We need to remember always that we are CG’s, which isn’t so bad as long as we are not active. Also, you are right, why would we want to torture ourselves? Then again, we can be active CG’s…active doing anything else but gambling.
Carole, Would just like to say hi and DITTO everything that Cat has said. I haven’t posted much lately, but I have been cheering you on from the sidelines. So many positive changes. I admire you very, very much. Recovery looks good on you!!!
Hi Trulyshi, Just wanted to give a belated thanks for posting on my thread. Sirena said something about being in the How-a-CG-Got-Her-Groove-Back Program. I really liked that. Kind of lightens up the work of recovery. Also, it made me think of you. If there was a How-a-CG-Got-Her-Groove-Back Award, you would be this year’s recipient! And, you definitely would have my vote!
It’s been a little heavy around here with my daughter’s broken heart and all. But, I have taken your suggestion and have been listening to music while I cook. Tonight, we have company coming for dinner, so I am going to crank it up!