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I just reached one full month, feeling good. Thought to mention this shortly here.

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Hi all,

I just returned home from holiday, my wife is at work and children are at day care. I am trying to find rhythm in my work at home and I actually feel good. Today is day 29th, I feel much fitter and my mind is calmer. It really takes lots of time but I am giving it a real chance this time. Of course the debt is still in my head, but I’ll be patient and try to pay off it. Once it is paid, the strength is needed to keep away from gambling. As for smoking, I didn’t smoke for 4 days and decided this is a new quitting issue after gambling.

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All I can say: you too and thanks! 🙂

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Hi, enjoy your holiday in Scandinavia. I also have a blast here up north with my lovely family and our children are enjoying the cold and lots of snow. It is much needed, I focus solely on that and you’re right, there was no counting in my head.

Today it is day 22 for me and I feel good. Debt still troubles me but I keep going on because I know that if I keep this pace, my debts will be paid off in few months and I will save well for myself and of course my family.

Take care!

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Hi,

When reading your first post (congratulations for that and welcome with us!), it was like I wrote that text or I see myself. All I can say is that I exactly know how you feel; with winning some money, losing it afterwards and trying to get it back. Self-exclusion of one site but opening a new one on another site after few days.

The past x years I have been doing the same thing and I think I have opened more than 30 accounts on several sites. At the beginning I use to control myself and aim to win money, it always works perfectly but once I lose a bet, I try to win that lost money back and with some extra. Of course, too many times I ended up in a negative spiral and lost lots of money. I am truly happy you are aware of it now and that you want to keep the money you have now. I have made lots of debts and overtime I manage to pay it off. At this moment I still have little debt but today is my 22nd day I didn’t gamble and am proud of it even though I still need to keep working on my recovery.

But you are on a good track now. We can survive this together, with all the others here online.

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Thanks, and I keep trying my best. Feeling actually great today as it is 18th day, and look forward to skiing holiday with my family starting this weekend.

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Dear Nick,

Thanks a lot for taking your time to read and respond my message, and congratulations for reaching one month. I am pretty sure I will keep your valuable advices very well in my mind if I happen to have urges or triggers.

You are right, I use to keep an eye on what I eat and do lots of sports but the past years I didn’t do well with that. There is clearly a relationships between taking care of my self (eating well/healthy, doing sport, no smoking) and gambling that takes all my time and energy. I decided myself that I will try to decrease the amount of cigarettes per day I smoke, start doing sport more often and keep an eye on what I eat. I am very tired every day, even after leaving the world of gambling. But I try to remind myself that I have done an important step: getting away from gambling after too many years. The next step is focus on my own body and take care of myself.

I also thought just to leave the house and go for a walk when I feel triggering coming up. Also writing a post here and that’s why I wrote something short in my last post; I felt the urge to write something here.

As for the chat, I guess it will be very difficult because I am here in Northern Europe and the time difference is very big between your location and mine; but thanks for the offer.

And by the way, today is day 17 and I a proud of it.

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It feels strange, like a rollercoaster in my mind and emotionally. Day 15, what a long way to reach this day but I must continue staying away from live betting though it is not simple as I am online most of the time for work and social contacts.

I am not sure where most of the people here come from but anyone fancy a chat?

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Today is 8th day I didn’t gamble and am in therapy here. The past weekend I had great fun with my lovely little children. All the time I normally spend on gambling was filled with time with my children and wife. We did cook together, baked delicious buns, watch movies together and all those. time my iPhone was far from my hands. I am grateful for those 8 days of no gambling and will remind myself that it is nicer to live without gambling.

Of course, the fear is still there to return one day. Now I have little money and every time this thought occur: what if I see that my account has money again, so I can play again. But I have to be strong and say no to myself. I made restrictions n my bank card, am informing the bank on how to make new savings so I can save money every week / month and not able to use if for specific reasons.

One week done, looking forward to one more week!

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Thanks Velvet, I also believe it now and will try to seek help anywhere. Online forum here did help me one way or another but I am also telling emotions, experiences, thoughts to my best friend who is a great listener. Thanks!

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Indeed, I accept since yesterday that I am powerless to gambling. I simply admit it, couldn’t do it for long as I was so convinced myself I could control it one day but no way, I am simply powerless and will do together with all of you prevent gambling returning in our lives.

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Hi Tommy,

I am also pretty new here, today is my 8th day I am on this online forum. I have bee gambling for many years, and the issues you described I can understand it as it happens to me. I emptied all my accounts and played to the maximum so I can win all the lost money back. It reoccur all the time and I lost control. As in my first post, I have been talking about the importance of my family and every time I see them, I say to myself that I had to stop for them but always lose control. However, someone made a good comment on my post: forgive myself for my mistakes and be selfish: stop for yourself and it will have consequences for your family. I tried to kept that in my mind, and during the past weekend I really had a blast time with my family. I am still scared to be back with gambling yes, but I am working with way of thinking in my mind. So, I truly wish you the same thing. Forgive yourself first as Ryan wrote above, and keep talking within this community. I am not an expert yet as giving good advices or informations on how to cope with it, but I hope this text shows you I share your emotions and we can go through to this difficult times together. Yes, it takes time; day by day but am convinced we can do it together. Ot nicknames contains ‘quit’, so we know want to quit.

All the best,

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Hi Velvet,

Thanks for your reaction and especially the thing about selfishness, indeed, I say to myself many times I will stop for my wife and my little children but in fact; I should stop first form myself and this will result into something good for my family. Thanks for that.

About wife handling my finances, I have to admit it is painfully hard to tell her about this issue. I know it will help, yet, I don’t think I can do it at the moment. Maybe I need some time, to prepare and tell her. More than 20 accounts has been blocked, and it seems, for the moment, I do not have any access to another site due to the country I live in now.

However today is day 5. I do not feel urges to gamble because I do not have lots of money at the moment. I admit I am a little afraid when I start saving money due to gamble break but am seeking information at the moment on how to make restrictions with bank card or NO use of the card at all, like passing it to my wife and live with cash only.

Still confusing, but it takes time and I am pretty sure it will be ok one day. I must. By the way, do you think this therapy online will be good support or should I talk with professional face to face?

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Hi everyone,

It is now my 5th day I didn’t gamble, and I hope for many more days / weeks / months / years to come. I am so grateful for some people replying on my messages here but I was wondering if professionals will comment or advice somehow? Or how does it work here?

A question: my best friend, whom I have told I am joining this online forum, asked me whether it is not risky to be on this online form as online sites is the place that troubles me i.e. gambling. I truly want to stop forever this time. I stopped many times but always came back gambling online; but now it is over and out.

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Hi,

Thanks a lot for your another good advice. I indeed have to chance my way of thinking and will try to remind myself on your advice. When gambling the past years I actually am talking to myself all the time like there is an angel me and a devil me; the angel saying don’t do it and think of your family while the devil says: one more time, it can hurt. Devil always win but now it is the angle who is at the winning hand, and I hope for a very long time.

And yes, I’ll be honest with myself. The reason why I do sports live bets are just adrenaline and especially winning lots of money very fast.

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