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Thank you Seanraj and Lizbeth for your positive posts.
Today I am five months gamble free.
It seemed so unachievable for me and yet here I am.
No more excuses, no more confessions, no more highs, no more lows – just living life on a even keel with contentment, a sense of happiness and meeting those stresses when they arise.
I have done a lot of work on me through counselling and meditation and I realise that working on me is a life long job.
I am also grateful that my family members who know have kept it’s strictly to themselves and not blabbed to a group of strangers or even their friends – this has given me the space to find recovery without feeling humiliated or trying to second guess which strangers I meet on the street or which people I meet through my work might know. I guess I feel more valued and loved as a result of their putting my dignity first.
Tomorrow I will be into my sixth month- looking ahead always helps me focus ! Thinking one day at a time made me feel I could never do it ! I guess it’s important not to rely on cliches which have let countless other down !
Find what works for you and if something isn’t working try something else – recovery is possible for all of us. If you are almost there add something new like an extra barrier or counselling. If you have been attending support groups for a long time and you keep relapsing, then realise they are not giving you what you need and find a new way.
We all deserve to wake up on a Saturday and think will I go to McDonald’s drive thro for breakfast or will I make a yummy breakfast because I have money to buy yummy ingredients ?
It’s little things like this that make recovery worthwhile – compared to the huge plans I had for the big win which left me without even the most basic things.
i-did-itParticipantHi Steev, thank you for your reply.
You understand completely how I feel.
One thing I am sure of is that the money won’t be going on gambling. I have already decided it is getting lodged directly to my husband’s account. It means I will have to come clean with him about a loan I haven’t yet told him about – but I’m sure he would be happier to learn I owe a little money than for me to try deal with it myself and lose the lot !The longer I am gamble free the more the old honest me is returning. I have a long way to go as I gradually face up to the things I have buried .
It is payday and I am going out for my dinner. I am going to book an appointment for my hair for the morning. I will hopefully get a few new clothes over the weekend – I am getting quite a passable wardrobe together now. Life is good.
Being gamble free has made my life so much happier.
i-did-itParticipantThank you Steev and Seanraj.
Not much to report except I am starting to look at kitchens and bathrooms! I can’t quite believe it.
I can’t believe that I am spending my money on things which will make my life better .
I can’t believe for so long I gifted my very happiness to the casinos.
I don’t believe my kitchen and bathroom will really happen. On some level I keep thinking other people have beautiful homes not me !
Why not me ? That I can’t answer …i-did-itParticipantHi Emma,
You are here and you are working at recovery .
Well done.
Another idea might be to close old email accounts and open new ones which have not been used for gambling.Keep strong Emma- keep your barriers high and remember relapse is not inevitable!
You can so do this !i-did-itParticipantWell done Crackle
That’s a week achieved.
The urges will become less and your brain will learn to accept no to gambling as you progress on your journey.Keep reminding yourself that relapses are not inevitable.
Onwards and upwardsi-did-itParticipantThank you Monica and Steev
I received a significant windfall yesterday (not from gambling !). In the past this would have been so welcome to cover up recent gambling and no doubt fuel further gambling. It wouldn’t have felt like real money.
Being gamble free means I now will have an emergency fund and I intend never to be without one again my whole life through.
It also means my home will get some of the work done which it so badly needs.Feeling blessed .
i-did-itParticipantForgot to say – 20 weeks gamble free today !
i-did-itParticipantToday I got up early and took a family trip to another city .
Enjoying the sightseeing and shopping – just had yummy brunch – and cannot believe I deprived myself of days like this for so long .
Onwards and upwardsi-did-itParticipantDilano Je skvělé přečíst si tvůj pozitivní příspěvek. Nikdy jsem nedokázal pochopit, proč se lidé rozhodují nazývat se závislými nebo hazardními hráči nebo CG nebo jinými značkami, které považují za negativní. Ještě horší je, když si ostatní myslí, že mají právo označovat. Jsme lidé, kteří v současné době zápasí s jednou částí našeho života – což je asi stejné jako pro každého. . Zůstaňte pozitivní – nenechte se nikým stáhnout dolů. Zasloužíte si svobodu od tohoto nutkání – především pro vás, protože jste dobrý člověk a o to jste nežádali. Pokračujte ve spolupráci se skupinou SMART – nedovolují neužitečné označování. Ps u můžete stále používat svou bankovní kartu v obchodech, pokud znáte přístupový kód!
23 January 2020 at 6:47 pm in reply to: Мне исполняется 40 лет, и он должен начать новую жизнь #124301i-did-itParticipantДилано: Как приятно читать твой положительный пост. Я никогда не мог понять, почему люди предпочитают называть себя наркоманами, игроками, компьютерными игроками или любым другим ярлыком, который они считают негативным. Еще хуже, когда другие думают, что имеют право навешивать ярлыки. Мы люди, которые в настоящее время борются с одной частью нашей жизни – что, я думаю, так же, как и почти все. . Сохраняйте позитивный настрой – не позволяйте никому утаскивать вас. Вы заслуживаете свободы от этого принуждения – в первую очередь потому, что вы хороший человек и не просили об этом. Продолжайте работать с группой SMART – они не допускают бесполезные навешивания ярлыков. Ps Вы все еще можете использовать свою банковскую карту в магазинах, если знаете пароль!
i-did-itParticipantDilano Het is zo goed om je positieve bericht te lezen. Ik zou nooit kunnen begrijpen waarom mensen ervoor kiezen zichzelf verslaafden of gokkers of CG's te noemen of een ander label dat ze als negatief beschouwen. Nog erger wanneer anderen denken dat ze het recht hebben om te labelen. Wij zijn mensen die momenteel worstelen met een deel van ons leven – en dat is denk ik hetzelfde als zowat iedereen. . Blijf positief – laat niemand je naar beneden halen. Je verdient vrijheid van deze dwang – vooral voor jou omdat je een goed mens bent en je hier niet om hebt gevraagd Blijf werken met de SMART-groep – ze staan geen nutteloze etikettering toe. Ps u kunt uw bankkaart nog steeds in winkels gebruiken zolang u de toegangscode kent!
i-did-itParticipantDilano Det er så godt å lese ditt positive innlegg. Jeg kunne aldri forstå hvorfor folk velger å kalle seg narkomane eller gamblere eller CG -er eller andre etiketter de anser som negative. Enda verre når andre tror de har rett til å merke. Vi er mennesker som for tiden sliter med en del av livet vårt – som jeg antar ikke er det samme som omtrent alle. . Vær positiv – la ingen dra deg ned. Du fortjener frihet fra denne tvungen – først og fremst for deg fordi du er en god person og du ikke ba om dette Fortsett å jobbe med SMART -gruppen – de tillater ikke upassende merking. Ps u kan fortsatt bruke bankkortet ditt i butikker så lenge du vet passordet!
i-did-itParticipantDilano Olumlu yazınızı okumak çok güzel. İnsanların neden kendilerine bağımlı, kumarbaz, CG veya olumsuz olduğunu düşündükleri başka bir etiket demeyi tercih ettiklerini asla anlayamadım. Daha da kötüsü, başkaları etiketleme hakkına sahip olduklarını düşündüklerinde. Şu anda hayatımızın bir parçasıyla mücadele eden insanlarız – sanırım bu hemen hemen herkesle aynı şey değil. . Pozitif kalın – kimsenin sizi aşağı çekmesine izin vermeyin. Bu zorlamadan kurtulmayı hak ediyorsunuz – en başta sizin için çünkü iyi bir insansınız ve bunu siz istemediniz SMART grubuyla çalışmaya devam edin – onlar yararsız etiketlemeye izin vermezler . Not: Parolayı bildiğiniz sürece banka kartınızı mağazalarda kullanmaya devam edebilirsiniz!
i-did-itParticipantDilano C'est si bon de lire votre message positif. Je n'ai jamais pu comprendre pourquoi les gens choisissent de s'appeler toxicomanes ou joueurs ou CG ou toute autre étiquette qu'ils considèrent comme négative. Pire encore quand d'autres pensent qu'ils ont le droit d'étiqueter. Nous sommes des gens qui luttent actuellement avec une partie de notre vie – ce qui, je suppose, est la même que presque tout le monde. . Restez positif – ne laissez personne vous rabaisser. Vous méritez d'être libéré de cette contrainte, avant tout pour vous parce que vous êtes une bonne personne et que vous ne l'avez pas demandé. Continuez à travailler avec le groupe SMART – ils ne permettent pas d'étiquetage inutile. Ps vous pouvez toujours utiliser votre carte bancaire dans les magasins tant que vous connaissez le code d'accès !
i-did-itParticipantДилано Много е хубаво да прочетеш положителния си пост. Никога не бих могъл да разбера защо хората избират да се наричат зависими или комарджии или CGs или друг етикет, който смятат за отрицателен. Още по -лошо, когато другите смятат, че имат право да етикетират. Ние сме хора, които в момента се борят с една част от живота си – което предполагам не е същото като почти всички. . Останете позитивни – нека никой не ви дърпа надолу. Вие заслужавате свобода от тази принуда – най -вече за вас, защото сте добър човек и не сте поискали това Продължете да работите с групата SMART – те не позволяват безполезно етикетиране. Ps все още можете да използвате банковата си карта в магазините, стига да знаете паролата!
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