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Hi I won . i think that book sounds like a great idea but make sure u have a gambling blocker on ur computer !
With my own recovery I found that the things I wanted to do least were the things that helped me most – eg hubby finding out !Put every barrier in place and really go for it this time ! You are winning a new life minute by minute !
Hi Dote,
I can give u advice ,the same as I received for years but really unless u are ready to call stop on this problem it won’t matter .
First thing is how do you gamble ? If it is online invest in a gambling blocker for your computer/ laptop/phone etc. Gamblock and bet filter are two good ones.Get yourself banned from all places you gamble .
Next ring all your debtors and set up a sensible repayment plan which leaves you enough to live comfortably. You will be amazed how quickly your credit score will rise and also how much money you have for debts when gambling isn’t using most of it .
You could maybe confide in one do your parents and tell them how things got out of hand and ask for their help. They could look after your account until you are ready to do so yourself. They will know something is up already and may be worrying it is drugs so they might be relieved .
Try coming to the groups on here – check times – they are good and most helpful.
There is no easy way out . But when u have a good wage things get better really quickly
Also whe u stop gambling your mind clears (all that counting and adding takes a lot of mind space) and you are able to focus on really dealing with the debt not just the immediate hurdle .Please stay with this site. Consider joining GA.
Hope this helps
HI Bee, yes the urges decrease the longer we are gamble free and even if the odd one comes we are better able to rationalise and dismiss them. You are doing amazingly well. I bet you feel better already despite the urges . Our brains kinda clear of a lot of the low feeling gambling brings .
Your grandchildren sound delightful. Enjoy ur tv show !Hi Bee – just wondering where u have gone. As they say in weightwatchers- if u have had a good week your meeting needs you – if you have had a bad week you need your meeting. Hope to hear an update soon
HI Axis ,
There are probably not many of us on here who not hit it big at least once . There are not many of us who didn’t think our we are on a winning streak, we have so much money we are invincible , we are special or more clever than others. There’s also not many of us who have not lost all our winnings . Sometimes we hang on for a day – sometimes a week . Sometimes we lose it slowly – sometimes much faster.
Unless you take action now to completely block all kinds of gambling I think we know the end of this story .Tell someone and get them to manage the password for this account. Give them control of the account u are lodging it to . If we could control it we wouldn’t lose so much. Admit defeat and leave with a nice nest egg. Or continue and ???
Hi Wisefox, it’s horrible when we suddenly realise the damage we have done . However there are many positives in your post .1 someone thinks enough of you to let u sleep on their sofa
2. Your sister obviously adores you
3. You are not on the street tonight.
4 you have not gambled todayWisefox I guess if you have been at Gordon Moody you know many of the things you can do to keep you safe. Not so long ago I thought I could never stop and yet I have .
I am not surprised u feel irritable but just ride it out . You can do this Wisefox . It’s not easy – it’s cold turkey – but u can do it !
Hi Steven , I just read through your thread and I could have written it. Especially the times I withdrew and thought my control was returning . Also how I still felt bad afterwards even thought I had won. I guess deep down we know we are indulging in something which will destroy us .
Well done on your gamble free time . It’s not easy but so worth it . I love how you are feeling “normal”. I don’t know what gambling does to the brain chemistry but it is great to feel ok again.
I have never picked up the courage to go to GA so I admire you for doing so. You have done really well and I know u wil continue to go from strength to strength .Hi Bee, thank u for ur post on my thread . You are around a week gamble free! That is amazing Bee.! Trust me all of us here know how difficult it is to get past day one never mind a week. You are really doing well. I think it is really important to treat yourself (feel the guilt and do it anyway) to something you normally would never buy. Just think if u had gambled u wud be hundreds down anyway . The list is endless – eyebrow makeover , nails , lipstick – now I wanna go shop.!
Something just for u that u will notice all the time!!I think (and I can only talk from my own experience -I have no expertise ) that this helps retrain the brain in the following ways
1. You do start to believe you are worth it if you start behaving in a way that shows u value yourself
2. Money starts to have a different focus – a “me me” focus cos so many of the gambling fantasies we have are about what we will do for others with our big win.- again this comes back to valuing ourselves
3. U build new brain connections which with practice will Take over from the gambling ones
4 you will feel secretly pleased /happy each time you look at your nails/ mirror etc cos u will look great and also u will know u are beating this thing.There that my personal psychobabble for today ! Keep working it Bee! I am so impressed!!!
Maverick well done on resisting those urges. Keep working at Mav. At last i understand why we need other interests to fill our time! It’s our mind that needs filled. We need to have other things to distract us when the urges come.
There are some sites which advertise meet ups for all kinds of things . One of these might interest you and it would give you a new distraction . Just an idea to think about .
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