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Ο Τσαρλς σκέφτηκε ότι πρέπει να περάσω για να πω πόσο υπέροχα βρίσκω αυτές τις ομάδες θεμάτων – ακόμα και όταν έχω τον δικό μου τρόπο να βλέπω τα πράγματα. Πραγματικά με κάνουν να σκέφτομαι και μου αρέσει το πόσο θετικοί είναι – νομίζω ότι θα ήταν ωραίο να ζητήσω θέματα από τα μέλη του ιστότοπου – είμαι βέβαιος ότι θα υπήρχε ένα υπέροχο μείγμα ιδεών.
チャールズは、私がこれらのトピックグループをどれほど素晴らしいと思うかを言うために立ち寄るべきだと考えました-私が物事を見る独自の方法を持っているときでさえ。彼らは本当に私に考えさせてくれますし、彼らがどれほど前向きであるかが大好きです-サイトのメンバーにトピックを尋ねるのはクールだと思います-アイデアの素晴らしい組み合わせがあると確信しています。
Charles berpikir saya harus mampir untuk mengatakan betapa hebatnya saya menemukan kelompok topik ini – bahkan ketika saya memiliki cara saya sendiri dalam memandang sesuatu. Mereka benar-benar membuat saya berpikir dan saya menyukai betapa positifnya mereka – saya pikir akan keren untuk menanyakan topik kepada anggota situs – saya yakin akan ada campuran ide yang hebat .
Hi Kpat, thank you for you post on my thread . It’s so good to hear all is going well for you.
U gambled on vacation and stopped and It no longer calls to you. That is amazing .
I believe GOd is working powerfully in your life Kpat- I wish we were friends in a Christian group.
My bible is my first source of advice- I find people often are in their own agenda but God’s wisdom and advice is agenda-less!Keep us updated now and again .
Hi Kpat , I was wondering how you were doing all last week. I always enjoyed your thread.
I too am gamble free now and am so grateful to God . I too find great guidance and encouragement in the bible which I read daily .So glad all is going well for you .
Hi Micky
How are things ? Kinda miss reading your updates !Aw that’s great Caden. Delighted for u! U have done so well so keep strong !
Hi Bishal, as Charles says – you can stop gambling .
For me the only way was to close all doors to gambling – no cards, no access to gambling online and no money – until I broke the cycle .
It’s hard but you can do it as thousands of other have
Hi caden, I hope u get your money back. I thought when I read paddy power- that is an Irish site u will be ok , but when I read the small print it clearly isn’t . My advice is pester them til u get it .
Well done on self banning and as someone who has been through hell and came out the other side of this addiction – the best feeling in the world is when u are not waiting desperately on refunds cause you have enough to tide you over – and it happens very quickly once we stop gambling .
Keep working at it – and maybe invest your next bit of money into a blocker like betfilter for your computer
Hi Iwon,
A huge well done to you.
Your approach to recovery is inspiring and you deserve every minute of gamble free time .
As time passes you will feel better and better and I am delighted you have chosen to share your journey with us .
Your post has really lifted me .Hi Imran.
First thing is to stop gambling . When u do your brain will clear and you will be able to see a real way through your problems. If u are in the uk thee are charities that can help u sort out your debts so the repayment s are manageable .Where do u gamble ? Can u get a blocker for your computer and phone.? Canu self ban from the casino or bookies . You really need to do whatever u need to stop you gambling . Put barriers in place – you need to stop money , time or access.
Could u cut up your cards and ask your wife to take a set amount out and give u an allowance . Then u can’t spend money on gambling .Whatever u decide – u need to speak to someone about debt . Step change is one charity which can help .
You can stop u know . People do all the time . U will too.
Well done on reaching out for help! And no don’t do anything silly – it’s a bit of debt – u have a lifetime to sort it
Great poem I won!
Great poem I won!
Hi Brian, just to clarify- I wasn’t talking About removing triggers – that would be impossible as you rightly explained . I was talking about removing access to gambling. Think MAT- money access time . If u remove your access to money for example then regardless of the triggers it will be impossible to gamble because you won’t have money . Is this difficult? -yes hellishly so- is it worth it ?- amazingly so.
Brian- I hated when my husband handed me money like a child getting Pocket money. In fact my child got more.
However I am enjoying a lovely life right now fairly free from the urges of this horrible compulsion. I am aware and keep up with accountability -but my money is spent on me and my family now – not gambling .
I struggled with this for years and always left a door open just in case -that was my downfall. When all doors are closed (barriers set high) it is next to impossible to gamble .Brian I hope this helps and well done on not gambling today!
HI Brian- reading your post I’m not sure if you want to stop gambling or continue to place small bets.
Unfortunately when we cross the line from recreational gambler to it becoming a compulsion we need to stop completely . It gives our minds a chance to settle and the obsession with gambling will lessen.Your wife knows anyway so to be honest the best thing you could do is tell her about the small bets .
Get a gambling blocker for your phone like gamblock and decide right now that you are stopping completely.
Your success will motivate you- it is the best feeling in the world when you begin to feel normal- when you can have conversations with your wife that are not masked by your hidden compulsion.
Decide your bet free life starts today nov 1st and then prepare for battle with this horrible addiction.It doesn’t matter if you have already bet today – you can Rem first nov was ur last bet .
Sort the phone out . It’s too easy when the urges come . Get a brick if u need to – I had one for months and I survived .Keep posting your progress here – hour by hot if u need to .
You will beat it a u just have to commit fully and that means getting rid of those slightly ajar doors we all leave when we are fighting addiction .