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Hi there AGJ,
I popped over and read your last submission on your blog – it reads great but to echo what Charles has said – I think you should write it here – people will reply here because of the anonomous nature of this site .
Yes you can come back from where you are at – I had completely forgotten about the debt letters and phone calls and I am not gamble free all that long . Life gets better very fast . Throw your all at it – use gambling blocking software like betfilter or gamcare on all your devices – next Christmas could be so different .
If you can just let go of what’s gone – u will soon find yourself back to where you were- keep writing – u can beat this- many of us already have .HI Buzzie , I may have known you on this site years ago . I am delighted to read you have been five years free – a massive congratulations to you and it is helpful to read that you are still on high alert as to the dangers of succumbing to one bet .
I hope life is everything you deserve it to be and thank you for posting your story- great timing – I think many of us get urges around this time of year – and your story lets us believe that we too can achieve five years free.Aw MIcky, hope you had a great CHristmas too.
Happy Christmas Jonny -I am delighted to read you are remaining gamble free. It amazes me how quickly our minds recover and we start to feel normal. Like you I often won vast amounts and then lost the lot and tortured myself about what could have been for months .
It’s Christmas – you are gamble free and getting back on your feet and feeling much happier – gambling brought us none of those things and never will- what’s to miss?Another great post Vera .
I don’t blame anyone for my addiction except a trauma that most people will never experience (please God) and a family in free fall- my spouse couldn’t stop me or help me – he was lost in his own devastation . . But we came through it all and we have survived all the stronger and happier for it .
We are good people and for whatever reason,we got lured into this addiction.
I’m not sure I know which post you are referring to but to announce to people that someone is a “cg” (u know how much I hate labels ) at Christmas smacks of vengefulness . It sounds like maybe a “loved one ” isn’t feeling the love this Christmas . If my spouse ever treated me like an object they could treat how they please in that way it would have a twin effect 1. I would be still lost in gambling unless someone else was able to give me the support and love I needed . 2. I would not be with that spouse .
If you cannot respect the people in your life – even if they Have an addiction , then perhaps you should do both of you a favour and move on and leave them be .I understand what you say about being connected . I love my happy little family – each of us with our own imperfectations and each loving each other regardless.
I find the idea of someone setting out to disrupt someone else’s Christmas disgusting but I also have learned not to try to read others motives – we are not mind readers here at GT (although some seem to have elevated themselves to that position) and we can never tell what another is thinking , feeling or what their intentions are .
To me it sounds like someone is venting their bitterness because their loved one has removed himself / herself from their control Over Christmas –
-and for the record – I too always went out of my way to provide not only a fantastic Chrismas for my family – but also a fantastic life . I did my best always – even when that best did not measure up to the standards others feel they have the right to impose on me .
I too was the person who suffered most by gambling – how do I know ? – cos I asked my family and they don’t care about money – they care about me and my happiness . My family didn’t go without – I did .
So yes Vera – we are not demons – we are people who maybe others find easy to put down , especially from behind a computer screen. I know I’m a great mum – I know I have a great family – and if others want to think otherwise I do not have the arrogance to think that I can read their thoughts or motives – which rreally are none of my business anyway .
Happy Christmas everyone. You are just fantastic as you are – we all just need to control this small part of our life – and we all can do that !! Have a great festive season !I can certainly identify with this four Micky ! Being free helps us have all of the above
Great to see u back Micky !
Hi Robert
I would strongly advise that u immediately put gambling blockers on all your devices – trust me it will examined well spent . Also get someone else to manage that money – we all think we won’t gamble it – we all end up doing it -hope this helpsHi Bettie , sorry to hear u have been unwell but it’s so nice to see you back on here – a new baby is such a blessing – and it seems you have many blessings in your life right now .
Wishing you a speedy recovery !
happy birthday Friend !
Hope it’s a really great day and welcome to the forties .
XxHi Jonny,
If you have enough money left it would be really positive to buy a gambling blocker for all your devices . Gamblock or betfilter are good. This will at least restrict access.
It is also a good idea to cut off your Access to money by perhaps getting someone else to manage it for now .I hope this helps and I hope this is your last day 1. It is a horrible addiction and one we all deserve to be free of
Hi Mav,
you are in a horrible place today , but as you know things quickly improve once we once again stop gambling .It is so hard to stop – and so many people are afflicted with this addiction.
You will find your way again- even if it doesn’t seem like it today .
We all waste time one way or another, but you have achieved a lot – especially your beautiful children who will love you regardless of any mistakes you may make .
Gambling is so horrible – it entices us like crazy and then when we give in our minds become distorted with worry .
Mav enjoy your 40th birthday – start a new decade of your life with a new determination . Make the next decade the best one ever – one which you will look back on with a sense of pride .The pain will ease – we have been here before – things will get better .
The great thing about life is that we can have a new beginning whenever we chose – hope you feel lots better soon .Hi Worriedmama,
I read on Vera’s thread about how well your son is doing . I think it is very kind of you to post on the other forum and give hope to people who struggle with this . I can tell by your tone and how you describe your son that you are very much a loving mother and I hope you continue to enjoy your son’s recovery.
You deserve it -parenting can be very difficult and when our kids are in pain it impacts on every part of our being. Your son will be in my prayers .I have been where u were . I felt cursed . Ordinary things made me want to gamble . I played on line slots and there were so many types -everything in life reminded me of a different machine – like a beautiful sunset reminded me of the one u needed two Suns to get the bonus- fruit pastiles reminded me a a colourful fruity sweet one .
I did feel cursed and I cannot say whether this was coincidental but my life changed dramatically after a member of the clergy prayed with me and blessed me .
I didn’t realise until a week or two later .Cold turkey is what it took me. I still have thoughts now and again but I can handle them.
Keep strong – try forcing yourself to do other things . U will get there and u will think less about gambling .
HI Kin,
It was lovely chatting with you in group . I love your ideas and your way of looking at things is very fresh .
I don’t do the steps but I can see that they are working for you .
Keep posting