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I love that song too Micky – in fact I love lots of Christian music. Today I am feeling that we are blessed !
Thank you Stade- for me I could carry a thousand pounds in my pocket and never think of gambling it – yet a card and unfiltered internet access are lethal for me !
Find where your weakness are and cut off their oxygen supply.
Keep posting !Hi Stade,
Well done on recognising that this is a problem and well done on seeking help.
I can only tell you what worked for me and that is cutting off all access to gambling – well in reality that is impossible – but I have a blocker on all my online devices like my phone etc -I use betfilter but there are other blockers.
I know of others who go and get themselves banned in their locals bookies.
After a while when ur brain realises you cannot gamble – you actually stop thinking about it so much .
For other people getting someone else to control their money has helped .
Addiction to gambling is a progressive disease so the debts will only get bigger – most of us have had amazing wins – the problem is that on the rare occasion we actually withdraw it only feeds the addiction.Cut off access however you can-£5000 isn’t so much and you can pay it off- you are still young- stop now and watch yourself build up a bit of wealth and happiness
Hi Micky,
I’m sorry – I’m not sure I completely agree with Geordie – looking back my parents weren’t perfect but as an adult I have to decide whether to remember the negative things or how much my parents tried . A close friend of mine has become
Estranged from her son and his family because when she was baby sitting for the thousandth time , she told one of the children off. This woman worked hard all her life , remortgaged her own home to get her children on the property ladder and was generally a good mum. Did she make mistake ? I am sure she did – but her biggest mistake was to raise a self centred idiot!I can’t give you any advice as to what you should do . I can imagine how painful it must be – I have written recently on my own thread about how our children are so closely link d to our own happiness.
I guess you can just keep praying for a resolution. You weren’t a perfect parent – so that makes you the same as every other parent in the world – I guess you were unlucky if you weren’t around to stop any brain washing !Keep working at your recovery Micky- life has a way of surprising us when we expect it least – and what better use for your kitty than to save it for the reunion. Think how nice it would be to meet fora meal and say “I’ll get this “!
Tak fordi du svarede Harry – jeg er enig i, at otte timer nok er for meget – men de er så sent nu – ti og tolv timer normalt (og ja du har ret, det er lettere at huske færre grupper), som du kan komme til de betyder at gå glip af søvn. Jeg tror også, at et par timer i træk ville være godt, så hvis du slutter dig til lidt senere, er der tid til at chatte- det er selvfølgelig bare min mening- andre kan variere. Jeg bruger dog de åbne grupper ret meget (men er ofte meget træt om morgenen!) Jeg synes, at et spørgeskema er en glimrende idé, og jeg læste Janeys kommentarer, da grupperne først blev ændret. Jeg syntes, det var en dårlig og ret fjollet idé da at sætte grupper på så sent, og det gør jeg stadig. Mødestedet virker simpelthen ikke! Jeg er glad for, at GT konsulterer deres "kunder" nu. Det er godt at prøve nye ting, men derefter lytte til feedback og anmeldelse. Jeg føler ikke, at jeg har brug for at diskutere dette i en gruppe – det er dette forum er til – men tak alligevel for invitationen.
Thank you for replying Harry – I agree that eight hours is probably too much – however they are on so late now – ten o clock and twelve o clock usually ( and yes you are right it is easier to remember less groups ) that to get to them means missing out on sleep. I also think maybe a few consecutive hours would be good so if u join a little later there is time to chat-that’s just my opinion of course- others may differ . I do however use the open groups quite a lot ( but am often very tired in the morning !)
I think a questionnaire is an excellent idea and I did read Janey’s comments when the groups were first changed. I thought it was a bad and rather silly idea then to put groups on so late and I still do. The meeting place simply does not work!
I am glad GT are consulting their “clients” now . It is good to trial new things but then listen to feedback and review.
I don’t feel I need to discuss this in a group – this is what this forum is for – but thank you anyway for the invite .Undskyld Harry – det ser ud til, at du har læst forkert igen. Jeg sagde, at åbne grupper er blevet rejst, men sagde det ikke af mig. Jeg har læst det i andre tråde. Hvorfor føler jeg mig personligt angrebet for at kommentere? Kan GT ikke lide konstruktiv kritik? Ps tak fordi du tog dig tid til at udpege min tråd med så flid og lægge et link til den.
Sorry Harry – it seems you have misread Again. I said open groups have been raised but did not say by me . I have read it in other threads . Why am I feeling personally attacked for commenting ? Does GT not like constructive criticism ?
Ps thank u for taking the time to single out my thread with such diligence and post a link to it .
To be honest Geordie , I sometimes think that the feedback and suggestions forum is to just tick a box as often it seems to be ignored , answered with a promise to look into things (with no evidence this ever happens ) and now it seems deleted . I think most people have given up posting on there because there is little point but that is just how it appears to me . An example is the times of the open groups have been raised a few times with no change . I guess I will be deleted too !
For at være ærlig Geordie, tror jeg nogle gange, at forummet for feedback og forslag bare er at markere en boks, da det ofte ser ud til at blive ignoreret, besvaret med et løfte om at se nærmere på tingene (uden beviser for, at dette nogensinde sker), og nu virker det slettet. Jeg tror, at de fleste mennesker har opgivet at poste der, fordi der ikke er meget pointe, men sådan ser det ud for mig. Et eksempel er, at tiderne for de åbne grupper er blevet hævet et par gange uden ændringer. Jeg tror også, at jeg også bliver slettet!
Micky – do tell – what are u going to buy with the kitty? – I don’t have ur will power – a lovely suny day like today and I would be straight out for a yummy pub lunch !
It is building up really fast . U are doing Great and it is so good to read about it .Laura , I have raised this issue in the past- also a lot of the open groups are at bed time . The old format was good I thought
Laura, já levantei essa questão no passado – muitos dos grupos abertos também estão na hora de dormir. O formato antigo era bom, pensei
Hi Lelbow .
It’s such a great feeling to watch those gamble free days build up and to actually not be counting the minutes until pay day . Life can be great if we let it be . Charles often says something in group like if u have suffered with this addiction and then are in recovery the joy we get from things like holidays is so huge – the contrast between before and now means we get amazing enjoyment from things we have earned or saved for. Well done on your barriers and your gamble free time .Wow Micky, that is really brilliant – I read somewhere it takes thirty days to make or break a habit – I guess that’s similar to your left hand theory – if u have any more little nuggets of knowledge like this please share -they really help .