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You are doing really well 3raser.
I actually thought for ages your Name was Eraser ! Lol!Just keep remembering that you are powerless over gambling once you put that first bet on.
Until then u hold the power of choice.
It is really hard but Geordie pointed out on my thread that relapses are not inevitable. If you think they’re is the slightest chance you might relapse on Thursday – if you have left the slightest door- open close it now .
Put your cards in the post and let them arrive back with you a few days later ? I used it find in the absolute relief and joy of payday finally arriving I soon forgot all my pledges .
You are doing so well- keep taking own day at a time but glance forward a little and visualise the Christmas you will have with a little money behind you .
Remember our brains are built differently than others – we have as much power over our minds when we gamble as someone with a nut allergy has over their body …ONCE THEY TAKE THAT FIRST BITE!
Don’t take that first bite – it’s hard but you can do it – you are doing it right now .
Relapses are not inevitable – just accept that powerlessness and the fact that your body is different from someone who can bank a win or accept a loss and walk away .
So glad to read you are doing so well and sounding so determined !Well done Shaun
In the past you may have had day ones but you didn’t have the knowledge you have now …that you are powerless over gambling .
Once you take that first bet you become completely powerless and at the mercy of this addiction.
You have learned this now and today will be your last ever day one –because relapses are not inevitable .
You can stop just as many on here have stopped.
If you need really high barriers . Put them in place today.
You know what you need – is it an online gambling blocker, or a bookies self ban i.e. someone else to manage your money …or all of the above . Do you attend GA -do you need to?Don’t let anyone tell you relapses are inevitable – relapses mean you have left a door open to gamble.
Close them all tight and by Christmas you will be in such a different place .
Well done on your decision to brush yourself down and start again. This is your time.Wow brilliant progress Johnny !
I guess a job with money coming in is better than no work and it means you don’t dig into your savings.
It’s been a long time since I had any savings to fall back on so congratulations on yours!
You are doing so well and I have copied your “thing” of counting the days off.I mean we are not manipulative people – we had an addiction which needed its fix . That is about the addiction not us .
I read the biggest load of s*** on these forums about how “cgs” are manipulative . I’m sorry – separate the addiction form the person . – I know people with a smoking addiction who would “borrow” a cigarette from someone else’s packet without permission. ( i.e. Steal) but I don’t often hear them being accused of being thieves . I’m sure some people do steal to pay for cigarettes but we don’t hear all people who smoke being called liars or manipulative or thieves.
It is the same with gambling addiction – sure some people do steal but a lot don’t. So it’s absolute codswallop to tar us all with the same brush .
Yeah – I don’t think GA is meant to call people manipulative or liars etc but over the years many groups have put their own take on it possibly without ever looking at the original literature .Hi P. ,
Sorry to hear you are not feeling so good today .
Well done on pushing yourself to achieve so much.
Sorry I missed you in chat again.Yes life is so much better when we are gamble free.
Hi Monica ,
Thank you for your lovely post on my thread.
Of course your life is not over- you are an extremely intelligent , resourceful person who has unfortunately developed an addiction which you were powerless to prevent happening.
If you were armed with the knowledge beforehand it simply would not have happened.I feel accepting powerlessness is much more than accepting we cannot have the next gamble . It is accepting that we were victims of this disease just as much as a person who is scammed out of their money by an unscrupulous person is a victim. We need to get away from the mindset we did this to ourselves . Who would choose to leave themselves with no money.
That book I found in the charity shop has been brilliant in helping me see this – it is a guide to go with the AA big book.Don’t allow anyone to point the finger at you , including yourself . Dot. Read all the codswallop about how manipulative we are. We have an addiction which we were powerless to prevent.
Once we truly realise this Monica we lose the desire to gamble – every day is no longer a battle with urges. Yes sure , thoughts will come , but like One has to avoid nuts because of a nut allergy , We have to avoid gambling. – simple
Don’t ever write yourself off- but give yourself a little break to get back into good health. Triple therapy is heavy on your system – the food bank might not be such a bad idea – because if you can get some edible stuff there you will have money over to buy a few nice items to help rebuild your health . Think about it ! Canned tomatoes for example are the base for many good meals . Dried pasta is pretty much the same wherever you get it . Rice is rice ! Go and get what you can for free and then add your better stuff .
I am delighted you are thinking of ways to earn money.
Who knows once you get a little together you may well diversify .
Didn’t Simon Cowell go bankrupt? Didn’t he have to move back in with his mum? Did it do him all that much harm.Google famous people who went bankrupt (I just did lol).
Do what you have to do – whatever that is you will be a success at it !Hi Laura ,
Thank you for sharing those fabulous links on my thread – I can’t wait to get home and check them out properly .
I am so glad you are in less pain and even more glad to hear you are taking advantage of your improved health.You will not fall back into that trap because you see it coming and you know once we step into the trap we are powerless to escape . Who wants to spend any part of their lives in the painful teeth of a trap , trying desperately to escape and being unable to .
Not you Laura – you are too busy enjoying your improved health and time with family and friends and encouraging others to succeed where you have .
Well done .Hey Monica – Great chat .
U know I think I read somewhere that Kate Middleton’s mum started out by selling party bags to her friends at her kitchen table – and they felt obliged to buy them. Not sure how that would have worked with the tax man – but if it’s good enough for an English -queen -to be ‘s mum …?