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Hi P ,
Great post – I like how you describe how we change just like the seasons and how it’s unstoppable- I guess it’s kinda like getting old – we can disguise it with fillers and Botox but we cannot stop the process.
I don’t feel like posting at the moment – it’s strange the way it goes in phases .
Well done on managing those whispers .Hi Jaques, it good to hear you sounding more positive – there is always a way forward – and your family value you so much.
There is online GA and they have a meeting on Friday night and 24 hour chat .
There is also a site called gamtalk which has meetings.
And of course there. Are groups here .
Just keep taking one day at a time – you will find things will get better and better .Yeah Micky , you are in our thoughts – keep strong
Hi Monica ,
Thank you for posting on my thread – those replies mean such a lot to me – yours are always positive and encouraging .
I am here feeling sorry for myself , and feeling quite crippled by anxiety when I read you have zero for Christmas – it gave me perspective . There is a reason for my anxiety (which I will talk about in group ) and I know it will pass- just sometimes it’s hard when we are going through stuff.Monica , if my understanding seems very simplistic forgive me – but it seems to me that you need to rent before going bankrupt . I spoke to stepchange some years ago – actually spoke to them a few times over the years – and each time they told me there was no way out except an IVA or bankruptcy- I did neither .
Even though I had previously set up repayment plans , I rang the companies again , told them I was on the verge of going bankrupt and they gave me another chance -some of them even decided to put my account on hold because I couldn’t afford to pay but i insisted on paying a little – ring them – be honest – see what they can do for you . I also prayed first so it seems to be that God pointed me towards the right people – in the past I had spoken to rude unhelpful people in the same companies . Once I had one company on board it gave me leverage with the others.
Anything is worth a try – when u can pay u will.
I had thought they would not listen because I had been there so many times but I think if you are genuine they will listen .
Worth a try and would lift a huge worry .
Stepchange follow a formula – it would have been a huge mistake for me to have followed their advice-I sill have debt – it’s being paid a little a month – but I don’t have calls or worries about debts – I have a little peace of mind .
Don’t give up – there are other solutions .Another gamble free day Shaun.
Hi P,
You are a remarkable person- even when you feel really low you continue to provide support for everyone else on here .
I have needed a lot of support recently as I find myself in early Recovery – sometimes I feel angry , sometimes sad, always anxious but you see through that without judgement and recognise that we are all just working through the strong emotions we have hidden from for so long .It is great to read you are seeing rays of light. -I hope today is a wonderful bright day for you .
Great post 3racer.
I love that description of when you could hear a pin drop – people are noticing – and maybe you could be showing other people with gambling addiction that it can be done.Would you recommend counselling? Perhaps it is too soon to say . I find emotions are so strong now that I have stopped gambling .
You are so right – it is incredible how people never give up the fight to get this horrible addiction under control- It also amazing to see how many people manage to get control and get their lives back .
Keep going Racer- one day at a time .Hi Johnny
Well done on your gamble free time –
Your post makes so much sense and I like the idea of setting goals and seeing them through .
Have you started your new job? If so how is it going ?
Keep strong – your progress is amazing .I like this post- after the craziness of gambling it’s nice to be able to have “normal” days .
The open groups are very late for us at his side of the Atlantic – but they are being reviewed for what seems like months .somwtimes I nod off during them .
Happy to read you are enjoying life and hope your hair looks great.I remember you John.
Well done on returning.
Day 1s are very familiar to many of us .
You have done it before and you can again.Hi Monica ,
I think your hopes for ur future sound perfect –
There is no reason you can’t have those things –
You could maybe rent somewhere when you get back on your feet .
I think maybe I will go to my thread and write about my dream. It seems ver y motivating to see it written in black and white .Hope you are feeling back to yourself after the procedure.
Hey Monica , sounds like a most horrible experience – but you survived it .
That was nice of Pete to think of your health like that – how caring to think of the dust affecting your lungs . My f&f would have been too busy criticising .
You have a lot if people who care – don’t be afraid to reach out to them .Jacque,
Your daughter rang you because she needs you – she needs her daddy. She does not need his money , his winnings, a high life – she simply need you her dad.It’s a fact that most of us on here have gambled and lost crazy amounts – some of us have felt suicidal- but many of us are living gamble free lives and Our kids would choose a skint parent , a parent up their eye balls in debt everytime over a parent who has taken their own life .
I’m saying you are important – you made this child and now it’s time man up and be there for her – not with your money – but with your time .
Get help with your gambling – go to GA, sign up for Gordon moody house residential – ring gamcare and get free counselling – buy a gambling blocker for your laptop ( I stuck
My iPad in a sink of water because I couldn’t trust myself )We have all hit really low times – your daughter ringing was a Divine intervention.
You are here for a reason – it may not be to be wealthy ( although it still can be ) – imagine in the future if your daughter feels like you do now – would you not want to be there to help she how important she is?
At the end of he day it’s only money – u only need enough to eat – a job and a savings plan and you can have a great life .
Debts can be repaid , money can be Saved – but your daughter cannot have the life she should have had without you.
Stay strong – Google gamcare and start getting your life back –Great post Laura-
Yes sometimes we need a break from posting, especially if it’s getting in the way of other things we need to deal with. I am still at the “i need loads of support ” stage but I know I will taper off this support in time.
Procrastination is one of my major weaknesses so well done in deciding to tackle all that paper work. It’s such a good feeling to get things completedI like that analogy of stopping the bleed and wonder why I haven’t heard it before . Not much point in fixing other stuff if we continue to bleed .
Hope you weekend is going great – sorry I didn’t read your post before messaging you about group .Hi Monica,
How are you – hope the procedure went well .