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Hallo Darkenergy,

Am Anfang meiner Genesung wusste ich, dass ich das Spielen nicht aufgeben konnte.

Also sagte ich mir immer wieder, dass ich vorerst aufhöre – ich glaube, ich habe mich zuerst für einen Monat entschieden.

Nun, dies scheint gegen die Denkweise „einen Tag nach dem anderen“ zu verstoßen, aber für mich bedeutete es, dass ich meine Verluste noch nicht aufgab – ich habe nur den Gewinn zurückgestellt, bis mein Leben überschaubarer wurde .

In den ersten Monaten wuchsen meine Finanzen und mir wurde klar, dass ich mir jetzt alles leisten konnte, wofür ich den großen Gewinn zu brauchen glaubte.

Ich merkte, dass ich genug hatte!

Ich möchte jetzt nicht „genug“ aufgeben für eine Verfolgungsjagd, die zu Elend und „nichts“ führt.

Ich bin mir nicht sicher, ob das Sinn macht, aber vielleicht könntest du, anstatt deine Verluste aufzugeben, sie einfach um ein paar Monate verschieben?

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Ahoj Darkenergy,

Na začátku svého uzdravování jsem věděl, že hazardu se nemůžu vzdát.

A tak jsem si pořád říkal, že zatím končím – myslím, že jsem se rozhodl nejdřív na měsíc.

Zdá se, že to jde proti myšlence „jeden den za druhým“, ale pro mě to znamenalo, že jsem se svých ztrát stále nevzdával – jen jsem jejich vítězství odkládal, dokud se můj život nestal zvládnutelnějším. .

Během prvních měsíců tohoto roku se moje finance vybudovaly a já jsem si začal uvědomovat, že nyní poskytuji vše, o čem jsem si myslel, že potřebuji velké vítězství.

Uvědomil jsem si, že mám dost!

Nyní se nechci „dostatečně“ vzdát honičky, která vede k neštěstí a „k ničemu“.

Nejsem si jistý, jestli to má smysl, ale možná místo toho, abyste se vzdali svých ztrát, mohli byste jejich pronásledování na několik měsíců odložit?

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Hi Charles

I mixed up the group times again and gutted I missed them all. About greenhouses I think I have two options

1. Buy a small zip up one for now and see how I get on.

2 Buy one which has a base u stake into the soft ground.

This might be good because I can fit a potting table inside which would be better for my back.

All advice gratefully received .

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Hi Steev,
I was just thinking earlier that those groups are becoming a bit of a floccinaucinihilipilification?
Would you agree ?
Lol!

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Bedankt LSA, ik stel je antwoord zeer op prijs. Goed gedaan van je bijna twee maanden – die eerste maanden zijn uitdagend, dus elke dag is een prestatie. Deze week heb ik besloten om het rustiger aan te doen en zelfzorg te gaan kijken. Ik moet prioriteit geven aan slapen, sporten en gezond eten. Ik ga ook wat ontspannen tijd besteden aan het opruimen van rommel – er is geen enorme haast – 'het staat daar al jaren – ik kan er langzaam mee omgaan. Niet veel te melden – ik bereik donderdag 8 maanden gokvrij. Ik ben op een goede plek. Het leven is goed!

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Obrigado LSA, realmente aprecio sua resposta. Parabéns em seus quase dois meses – os primeiros meses são desafiadores, então cada dia é uma conquista. Esta semana decidi desacelerar e procurar praticar o autocuidado. Preciso priorizar o sono, exercícios e alimentação saudável. Também vou passar algum tempo relaxado limpando a desordem – não há muita pressa – ele fica parado há anos – posso lidar com isso lentamente. Não há muito a relatar – chego aos 8 meses de jogo grátis na quinta-feira. Estou em um bom lugar. A vida é boa!

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Hvala LSA, jako cijenim vaš odgovor. Bravo za vaša skoro dva mjeseca – ti su rani mjeseci izazovni pa je svaki dan postignuće. Ovaj sam tjedan odlučio usporiti i izgledati vježbati brigu o sebi. Moram dati prioritet spavanju, tjelovježbi i zdravoj prehrani. Također ću provesti neko opušteno vrijeme rješavajući nered – nema velike žurbe – tu je sjedio godinama – mogu se s tim nositi polako. Nema puno za prijaviti – u četvrtak dostižem osam mjeseci igre na sreću. Na dobrom sam mjestu. Život je dobar!

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Thank you LSA,
I really appreciate your reply.
Well done on your almost two months – those early months are challenging so every day is an achievement.

This week I have decided to slow down and look practice self-care. I need to prioritise sleep, exercise and healthy eating.
I also am going to spend some relaxed time clearing clutter – there is no huge rush -‘it has sat there for years – I can deal with it slowly.

Not much to report – I reach 8 months gamble free on Thursday. I’m in a good place. Life is good!

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Hi Kin, I love the honesty in your posts.

Recovery is a constant effort Kin- we can never forget that we have an addiction no matter how long it has been sleeping.

I think you are like an escalator going up- always searching for areas to improve and working constantly on all parts of your life .

Many people on here have written about how your thread inspires them.

I hope you are feeling good about life and about yourself now Kin.

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Hi Lizbeth
Your garden sounds amazing – I am always impressed by your energy and your ability to get things done no matter what life throws at you. Your granddaughter is so lucky to have you guiding her through her early years.

I hope the issue you are worrying about gets sorted out. Keep strong Lizbeth x

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Hi Twentynine!

Nice to meet you too .
Change is indeed possible .
There’s lots of support here for you .
Those pockets don’t have to be empty .
Perhaps you would like to share a little more about yourself ?

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Hi Nick
Lockdown is interesting because it can cut off the “supply” for many people with addictions. For me the addiction of a gambling blocker on my phone and I more or less completely safe.
Steev makes a good point Nick – is this a good time to maybe find a replacement activity ? I found Netflix but I’m sure there are much healthier options out there.

Congratulations on your gamble free time
Onwards and upwards Nick !

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Obrigado pela sua resposta Monica. Hoje estou com uma ressaca de vinho tinto – encontro online com amigos. Foi bom na época – não tão bom agora. Fiz uma regra que só bebo uma vez por semana durante o bloqueio porque é muito fácil tornar-se um hábito diário, especialmente quando não sou obrigado a dirigir na manhã seguinte. Eu poderia revisar isso e reduzir ainda mais. Sempre preciso lembrar que tenho uma natureza viciante e preciso monitorar muitas áreas da minha vida onde o vício pode se tornar um problema. Estou me sentindo muito feliz por dentro – é difícil de explicar, mas joguei fora os velhos pensamentos e comportamentos que costumavam me arrastar para baixo. Parece que sou capaz de processar “perturbações” muito rapidamente agora e seguir em frente. Estou percebendo comportamentos e como me apresento. Eu parei de tentar resgatar o mundo (que de alguma forma eu senti que era o meu trabalho, quer eles sentissem que precisavam ser resgatados ou não! Lol). Estou me expondo com a confiança de quem gosta de si mesma e acredita que é simpática. Eu estou indo bem!

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Hvala na odgovoru Monica. Danas imam mamurluk od crnog vina – online druženje s prijateljima. Tada je bilo dobro – sada nije tako dobro. Učinio sam pravilo da pijem samo jednom tjedno tijekom izolacije jer je previše lako da to postane svakodnevna navika, pogotovo kad sljedeće jutro ne moram voziti. Mogao bih ovo pregledati i dodatno smanjiti. Uvijek se moram sjetiti da imam ovisničku prirodu i da moram pratiti mnoga područja svog života u kojima bi ovisnost mogla postati problem. Osjećam se jako sretno u sebi – teško je to objasniti, ali odbacio sam stare misli i ponašanja koja su me vukla prema dolje. Čini se da sada vrlo brzo mogu obraditi "uznemirenosti" i krenuti dalje. Primjećujem ponašanje i način na koji se predstavljam. Prestao sam pokušavati spasiti svijet (što sam nekako osjećao kao svoj posao bez obzira jesu li smatrali da ih treba spasiti ili ne! Lol). Iznosim se s povjerenjem nekoga tko se voli i vjeruje da je simpatična. Dobro mi ide!

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Thanks for your reply Monica.

Today I have a red wine hangover – online get-together with friends. It was good at the time – not so good now. I have made a rule that I only drink once a week during lockdown because it is too easy for it to become a daily habit, especially when I am not obliged to drive next morning. I might review this and cut down further. I always need to remember I have an addictive nature and need to monitor many areas of my life where addiction could become a problem.

I am feeling very happy inside myself – it’s hard to explain but I have thrown off the old thoughts and behaviours which used to drag me down. I seem to be able to process “upsets” very quickly now and move on.
I am noticing behaviours and how I present myself . I have stopped trying to rescue the world (which I somehow felt was my job whether they felt they needed rescuing or not! Lol). I am putting myself out there with the confidence of someone who likes herself and believes that she is likeable.
I am doing ok!

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