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Lisbeth je prvi državni praznik na kojem živite? Možda bi to mogao iskoristiti kao izgovor. Možete li dobiti prekoračenje da to pokrijete na jedan dan? Čini se štetom što će vam jednog dana nanijeti toliko tuge. Možda biste sada mogli platiti mali iznos – možda simbol? Kakva užasna tvrtka – još jedan razlog da ostanemo bez kockanja – stavlja nas na milost i nemilost ovakvih tvrtki.

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Lisbeth is the first a bank holiday where you live ?
Perhaps you could use that as an excuse .
Could u get an overdraft to cover that for a day ?
It seems a shame that one day will cause you so much grief .
Maybe you could pay a small amount now – a token perhaps ?
What a horrible company – another reason for us to stay gamble free – it’s puts us at the mercy of companies like this .

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Thank you Laura ,
Laura, this year Christmas isn’t so tough for you financially and you are grateful because you can give to others – how lovely the way you think !
It is so much better to be facing Christmas with enough money .
This year I have bought my son a gift he would love (but never ask for ), I have all the presents bought for family – I am going out now to get Christmas dinner – I have a few rooms painted – hubby finishing one today .
Life is looking good – it’s exactly as you say – progress not perfection .
Today I am happy I am not perfect – I can admit when I am wrong and put things right . I make mistakes all the time -I am not a perfect mother , certainly not a perfect wife but recognising this means I can say a simple sorry I got it wrong -and harmony is quickly restored. I never let things fester. Yes I’m glad to be imperfect . I shall continue to strive for imperfection .

This year for the first time ever I will not be up all Christmas Eve baking desserts -I cannot quite believe I am so organised and still all of today and tomorrow to go .

Money is freedom – money is organisation- money gives us choices.
I read recently about a famous couple who don’t allow their children to use screens (technology ).
I thought how easy for you to be exemplary parents with your nannies, housekeepers , foreign holidays, fashion designers at your beck and call and the absolute world at your feet – try that as a single mum working to scrape by with two small kids in a tiny inner city apartment and a choice between putting money in the electricity meter or dinner . The world is ill divided.

Yes money is very important – it changes all of us and how we perceive life .

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Merry Christmas and happy new year to you also laura .
It is a great achievement to be able to help your son out with college fees etc . I hope we get to chat before CHristmas- I just left a group there with Monica.
I have been a little extravagant this Christmas – my sister has four kids so she buys a big gift between them and it doesn’t seem So extravagant. Sometimes it’s nice for my only child to get some up to date technology but when u buy it for one kid it seems extravagant – it is what it is – I would prefer if he had siblings to argue with over whose turn it is .

Enjoy your time with family .

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Hi Tina ,
Please don’t avoid anyone on here because of a slip (not sure that even was one) . Every single person on here has the same addiction- and everyone on here ha sbeen through or is going through the same struggles – many “see the light” quite quickly but for some (like me ) it seems to take many years .

Laura wrote on my thread “progress not perfection ”

Tina you have made fantastic progress , so rather than feeling shame fell proud of your very valid achievements!

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Monica,
I don’t know what to say.
People who say money doesn’t matter have obviously never been without some kind of access to it
Last Christmas you bought lovely presents – keep in mind that the only thing that stands between you and being able to buy presents again is a job. You are not without hope- you have all your experience , qualifications and personal qualities. When I have delays in life I often think God has had a hand in it – maybe he is delaying the bankruptcy etc.

Monica , you are only a job away from being back to where u were . Keep that in mind – you can repay debts , have a good life and even save .
I know life seems desolate now but January is a good time for job hunting – I am not being dismissive of how deeply horrible life is right now – I guess I am just on the outside looking in- I think you are like me in that you need routine and purpose in your life .
Get over Christmas as best you can and then turn your back forever on this Annus horribilis ! New year – new beginnings .

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Today I may choose to gamble or not gamble- my choice

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Hi p
Hope all is ok
Missing u on here

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Thank you Laura.
I am finished work for Christmas .
Today I chose not to gamble .
My choice .
Today I felt tempted but reminded myself this was a choice I could make . I reminded myself that whatever choice I made I was not going to beat myself up over it .
It would be my choice .
And then I was in the right head space to make the right choice for me for today . Today I didn’t gamble .
I am So glad I decided to continue with this support .
I guess I could have hid away when things got tough.
I think that was another positive choice – to face things, carry on and let no one stand in my way.
My determination has brought me to where I am today- looking forward to a good Christmas –
With a great gift for my son already hidden in the attic.
It hasn’t been a perfect year in terms of gambling – but it has been one where i have made a lot of progress .
I’m happy with my progress.
Im happy with my life .
I’m happy ‘!

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Hi Laura ,
Thank you for your lovely supportive post on my thread .
I hadn’t thought of doing somethjng for myself to be honest. (Maybe I will squeeze in a hair appointment ).
But it is so nice that you have recognised my progress – it is discouraging when people only see progress as a number of days .

I too remember the having a totally confused concept of money . I have a rule now that if I lapse , I must treat myself to something – not as a reward , but as a reminder of how my life can be without gambling.

I remember gambling and then going to Lidl (cheap supermarket) and buying loads of cheap meats and fruit to tide me over til payday – in truth we probably ate better then than now when I can afford treats .
Life sounds good for you Laura and you certainly deserve a Good life !

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Hi Monica ,hope today has been good !
That’s me finished work for Christmas which means no excuse for not doing housework – which I absolutely detest lol.
Hope to catch you in group later

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O, to je sjajna vijest Lisbeth – pričekajte i vidite da će i drugi vjerovnik raditi s vama. Shvaćam što mislite o tome da ne vrednujete novac – mislim da ako mu stavimo veću vrijednost možda nećemo ući u trunke koje činimo. Iz nekog razloga, ja (a siguran sam da i drugi s ovom ovisnošću) mnogo više cijenim novac kada nemam dovoljno. Kad imam dovoljno, bacim ga. Dobra ste osoba – zaslužujete miran Božić – obilje kupljene hrane i darova znači da ćete moći uživati. Uživajte u odmoru i odmorite se od briga – dajte si Božić da uživate koliko ste daleko stigli i. koliko ste napredovali – a posebno oni divni unuci.

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Aw that’s great news Lisbeth – wait and see the other creditor will work with you too. I get what you mean about not valuing money – I think maybe if we put more value on it we might not get into the scrapes we do . For some reason , I (and I’m sure others with this addiction) value money far more when I don t have enough. When I have plenty I throw it away.

You are a good person – you deserve a peaceful Christmas – plenty of food and gifts bought means you will be able to enjoy it .
Enjoy your rest and take a break from worrying – give yourself Christmas off to enjoy how far you have come and. how much progress you have made – and especially those wonderful grandchildren.

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Hi Laura ,
It sounds like you have your priorities right – do you remember the days when you wouldn’t spend £20 on a plant for yourself or am I the only person who thinks like that ?.
I feel good today because I was able to do a little for those less fortunate – it is so true – it is in giving that we receive . I also feel devastated and on the verge of tears because I missed something- someone I could and should have helped – I still might be able to but I am confined by boundaries and rules . At least if I can I will be in a position to help this year – as money isn’t so tight , thanks to the progress I have made with my gambling addiction .
I hope you operation is brogubt forwArd Laura – it is a shame to miss out on somany things – and yet you are always upbeat and positive – you make the most of life – even when pain limits your ability to do things . You also are very supportive to just about everyone on here and I really appreciate your friendship and support.

Your home sounds lovely – I hope those good neighbours call to see it !!
Hopefully I will catch you tonight in chat !

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Today I may choose to gamble or not gamble – my choice !

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