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Hi Monica,
I hope you are having a good day.
Yours sons have your back – that’s for sure .
I know how good it is to have some money tucked away .
It gives us a feeling of security and I am so glad you have a little .

It would be so good to have your son live with you – it would feel like home rather than a room.
Monica I feel things are really looking up for you- I feel the new year will be one of the most positive ever- some much too hard lessons have been learned – but you are still you with all the earning power you had in the past.

Something popped into my mind- is there any work you could do for you wealthy ex on a consultant basis ? Could your son say mum is looking a little work to get her out of the house ? Is there anyone in your contact list you could offer your services to? I am thinking you could offer a reduced rate as a kind of favour – it still a little money and if it rests in your sons account …that 250 would soon become a 1000.

Just an idea – I’m sure you have thought of before yourself .

Wishing you all the best for the new year Monica!

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Monica,
Come to the next group in thirty mins.
You have raised great sons .
I know you won’t gamble it.
Xx

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Monica,
Its great to hear from you – you write in such an interesting way – I feel I was there with you

I have people in my family who pass comments similar to that of your brother in law -it takes a lot of strength not to punch them!

It sounds like you had a restful time despite all.
It is good to spend time with your mum especially as she has had poor health in the past year.

Gordon moody house will be a great help to you Monica – it will help you get back in your feet .

I look forward to chatting to you in group

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Hi Tom,
This is a very familiar story but you have done the right thing in seeking help – this post belongs in the “my journal” section – perhaps you could copy and paste it to over there

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A great positive post Lisbeth- I guess we all have that power – it’s just maybe it takes us time to recognise it.
It made me feel happy to read your anger towards your mum is gone – perhaps you said what you needed to say – but more likely her apology has removed a lot of the pain .
People underestimate how much a simple apology can mend – sometimes it just needs to be said – a recognition that we understand we have hurt someone else .
Keep strong Lisbeth – you have those wonderful grandchildren and Sping to look forward to .

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Hi Laura.
I think in truth there are few of us who can live our lives and not worry about what others think – I guess that’s why we get hurt sometimes. I don’t think it is altogether a bad thing as it makes us more sensitive to others and their feelings, as we understand what it’s like to feel crushed .

I have to say as I’ve gotten older I worry less or maybe I accept less cr*p from others . Either way I hope you never lose your sensitivity – It is what makes you you ! It is why so many people love to get posts from you – your posts are always kind and encouraging – even when we are letting off steam you seem to be able to pick something positive from what we have written rather than criticise .

I guess the thing I have learned in life is that others are the way they are and no matter how much we worry about what they think, those opinions are little to do with us , but are the result of years of conditioning and experiences – their negativity is not about us (although it still hurts us) !
Never change Laura – your sensitivity is key to your wonderfulness!

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Hi Kin ,
“Take the body and the mind will follow”
It’s great to look after your health and no better way than jogging .
You have made great progress in all areas of your life
It reminds me of that bible verse
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me “

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Well done d12- keep up the momentum and enjoy spending that money on you!

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Well done DCH- not gambling isa great achievement. You are doing great!

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Hi Monica – was going to drop by the 2am group if u about ?

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I don’t know either Johnny – but I know I want to gamble right now – I think my brain is fried !

Thanks for chatting earlier .
Onwards and upwards .

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Hi Jonnhy , was nice speaking to you in group .
That’s a great positive post Jonnhy – it’s amazing how we don’t really value those small amounts when we are gambling but when we are skint they don’t seem like such small amounts .
Here’s to a positive new year for all of us .

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Laura that sounds like a pretty perfect Christmas .
It is good to live close to family especially supportive family.
It is also kinda sad to think that life is moving on and kids may be moving out – but we have all had to take that step I guess. They really do seem to grow up so fast .

It was nice to chat to you in group last night – it was a busy group which is great to see
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Onwards and upwards Laura !

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Hi Monica ,
I hope you are having a good day.
I hope you slept well and are feeling positive about the future .
Did u explain things to family you spent Christmas with?
Did they understand ?

Looking forward to reading and update from you .

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Hi Jaerd,

I agree with what Charles has said.
Gambling takes us away from our family so much – time spent gambling as we lose track of time .
…then are we really present for our families when our minds are going over wins and losses, adding and subtracting , mentally moving money about to cover our tracks? Do we retreat from family into our own headspace?

Lots of people must leave their family for a month to earn a better life for them?
That’s what you you too would be doing …leaving for a month to earn a better life for your family.
It’s a great opportunity!

However as Charles says there is lots of other support available . I think for us with this addiction the hardest thing is to close every door tight …leave none slightly ajar for example a card no one knows about.

Keep working at it Gaerd – one day at a time .

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