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Hi Jacquespaul,
It was so uplifting to see you posting on other people ‘s threads and offering support. You have come a long way and it is great to see the change in you and your life . Keep strong .

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Hi M8,
It was lovely to meet you in chat, and I’m really pleased you decided to start a thread – can I echo Kathryn’s wise words – you have done really well for someone so young – however as you have learned you could lose the lot to this disease. Gambling addiction takes us to our very knees.

Looking for a local GA is a great idea – also it is a good idea to put whatever barriers you can in place to prevent gambling. – they are the only things that have prevented me from ruination .
You will learn more about the tools that can help you in the groups – there is one for new members on a Monday and Thursday night – U.K. Time .
I hope this is the start of a wonderful recovery .

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Hi DCH,
Thank you for dropping by and posting on my thread – it is much appreciated .
Good luck with work tomorrow !
Just think how great it will be to have that January pay cheque all to spend on you and none on gambling. All those £300 will add up to quite a bit by the summer! Looks like is is going to be a great year !

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Hi Monica,
I hope the tummy aches have improved and you are feeling much better.
What a testament to you as a mother that your son can discuss these difficult issues — I find myself thinking that yes Monica you have made mistakes (gambling ) but oh my , you have got so many of the really important things right.
I hope when my son is older he feels he can discuss issues with me as openly as your son does with you.

I am going to look up Prem Rawat- I should be in bed now- but my dog is refusing to come into the house – she wants to play and I want to ring the dog pound (that is a joke – she is another blessing in my life ). It’s like she senses I am back to work tomorrow, and is playing up deliberately. The truth is I was often up much later gambling and had to go to work anyway , so I will wait up for doggie! Coincidently it seems we are both having dog problems . Lol!

I am sure you are looking forward to GT- I always had a feeling I would not be accepted because I wasn’t bad enough/ good enough – how delusional am I?

I haven’t forgotten about your site – I am waiting on certain things in my account and then I will be on there !

Take care my friend – let me know before you go !

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Hi Johnny ,
That’s a great post – you are right we get so much support from each other on here – even when people feel lost and desperate they are somehow able to reach out and support others.
You are a person who makes an effort to support many others on here – I know it is often hard to get around to posting or even find find the words, but a simple word of encouragement can mean so much so thank you for that.
Hope to see you in chat soon.

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Hi Laura ,
I read your post on Monica’s thread – what a lovely kind gesture to send money for fuel to that person who needed it.
I have similar desires to do good but somehow I always seem to gamble and then feel I can’t give .
I hope you are ok after your fall.
It was good chatting to you last night – it kinda helps me to get my thoughts straight .
It occurs to me that after your generosity you got a windfall.
That’s really great !
Keep strong Laura

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You have to totally accept that the money is gone . Thinking about it leads to relapses because we think we can win it back. Would a parttime job be something you would consider? You could earn back that money you lost .
Is there A gamblers anonymous meeting near to you? You will get to meet others who have created huge messes but have now turned their lives around.

Well done on your gamble free time . You can do this

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Hi DCH,
I’m back to work tomorrow but the way you put it makes it seem not so bad. I too will be putting my hard earned money to better use .
You are doing really well . Keep strong as 2018 promises to be a great year.

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Monica I posted you earlier and pressed send – but I doesn’t seem to have posted – this site can be so frustrating .

I love your resolutions – they show that far from giving up – that strong, determined woman is still there, unbroken by the harsh year which has just passed. I can see that your biggest stumbling block at the moment is your health and I hope you get all those issues resolved soon.

Do people ever attend an assessment and end up with more money ? Could that happen to you?

What do you think is making you feel isolated ?
Lack of work?
Lack of company?
Lack of funds ?
Lack of health ?

A five figure sum in the bank is security , and a great aim.

Hope to meet you in group later
Xx

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Hi Georgio,
This is a horrible illness and it can make us so low .
I hope you ge tlot did support on here .
Georgio if you could talk to your parents about this I am sure they would help – we all want our children to be happy and would do anything to ensure their happiness .

Once gambling becomes addictive for us we never win because we are never able to hold onto the cash. We all on here recognise having a big win but still being unable to stop.

You could maybe put a gambling blocker in your computer – that would help . I have betfilter on my phone .

Stay with this site and you will get lots of help .

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Well said Maverick .
Despite several slips I know I have been in recovery for about two years – I get it ! How do I know ? I know because I have changed and evolved . I know because regardless of slips I immediately force myself back into being gamble free and close the latest “doors”. I too have always provided for my son – I have always worked and for many years was the main breadwinner . I know also because I value myself more !

Recovery is not distance since your last bet – it’s not even distance to your next bet – it’s how we view life , how we work on our faults – e.g. You could have written more but you used wisdom not to- a sign of true recovery – many with far more days added up have not got his far into recovery and need to be always right !

Well done.
You have an addiction like us all.
Sometimes it rears its ugly head – but you still meet your responsibilities .
Recovery is not about a number of days – or a know all attitude . It is not about pointing out others mistakes or even comparing every post to our own journey. ( I might have just done that !!)
It’s about every day being the best person we can be and Mav- you are one of the best ! Your posts are kind and supportive – never harsh . This addiction is harsh enough- we don’t need harshness in any guise from our support.

I think you are doing great – keep strong and happy new year !

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Hi Mav,
Just dropping by to check in with you.
Hope things are ok

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Well done DCH – the days are building up and I hope you are feeling positive and motivated .
Onwards and upwards DCH

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Sorry to hear you are unwell Monica.
Stress and lack of good food is taking its toll, and doesn’t help any underlying medical condition. It sounds like you had a really painful day .
A visit to the doctor might resolve some health issues.
You doctor seems good .
Living with Pete doesn’t seem to be helping you emotionally or your health – It is good you have made decisions about that .

I hope you have a much better day today Monica .

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Hi Laura ,sorry to hear about your fall.
That’s the last thing you needed.
New year and big changes – why not ?
I like what Eraser wrote – invest in yourself
Whatever that means in your life go for it .
Life is for living and it’s short .

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