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Move to Ireland Monica!! – we cud be bff’s- oooh we cud do coffee and join book clubs and go for makeovers and drink baileys ( I would trick you with the best ever substitute from Lidl lol) – but I guess you will move to a sunnier place – I would.

You are looking forward and developing a vision for how you want your life to be and that is progress Monica .

I am not a person who sees the importance of reliving the pain and examining the reasons – I just want to move on and never look back – maybe that’s where I’m going wrong – I don’t know – but life is hard enough without dwelling on horrible times and events .

The news in on here and they are going on and in about a big lottery winner – and guess what I want to do now … but I won’t !

Hope to chat to you later !
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Hi Mav,
Hope the scan went ok.
I read on another thread that you are struggling.
Is the anything we can do to help ?
Even maybe meet in a group and chat ?
I sincerely hope all is ok.

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Thank you Alliesmum for the lovely message on my thread.
I tried GA- I had mixed feelings about it but it has helped many – like you I don’t think I need it – hope I don’t eat my words. With young kids it is easier to access online support and having family support is so important .

Although I have no longer access to my wages , ( well access that I can gamble with ) I haven’t really discussed everything with my husband – very little in fact but I guess every relationship differs .

Keep going strong -it’s a great feeling to have stopped and ten days is brill
Well done !

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Yes you are both right Laura and Monica.
I need to learn not to react – I think I’m learning .
It is not nice for anyone when the site is hijacked by drama and I hope no one feels the need to take sides. We are all here to support each other.

Laura , even though it is for medical purposes I hope you enjoy the trip. You seem so organised with your arrangements and I hope to all goes well for you . I envy you getting away to the heat – we are in standby for snow , although I know our winters are quite mild in comparison to yours.
I hope you really enjoy it and the sun does wonders for your health .

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Hi Sherrie ,
Well done – you stopped !
Maybe you will join some of the support groups tonight ?
It would be nice to chat .

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Thank you Kathryn and LAura ,
My husband and I have always communicated lots about money – mostly the lack of it lol!
We both earn good salaries, but I have wasted so much of mine .
We checked the bank yesterday and we got a shock- a good one! It was extremely healthy for January ! Just shows you when you watch every penny what you can do !
I have got a few new kitchen gadgets which have pleased me no end – I am remembering that I liked to cook.
I am Looking forward to trying out new recipes .
And I think I might make a chocolate cake tonight – yum!

Today I feel a little like Cinderella !!

Life can change and will continue to change- Hopefully always for the better !
I feel so blessed and my negative post this morning
Is so unlike me – but I guess I’m allowed to have a grumpy Monday morning !

onwards and upwards !

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Day 15
Life is good
A lot to be grateful for but
I don’t want to go to work.

Feel so tired – considering whether this is the right support .
Yesterday was draining .
So many important things left undone as my focus was where it shouldn’t have been.

This is what happens when issues are swept under the carpet .
When things are not resolved
When the people who should act take easy way out .

Doesn’t feel like support right now – feels like a very stressful part of my life (sorry to my supportive friends on here )

I am fed up defending my posts , dealing with paranoia , with egos , with manipulation, with those who never miss an opportunity to jump on the band wagon …

Have to ask myself it is worth it ?

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Sherrie – are you the Sherrie who was here before ?
If so I am probably telling you stuff you already know .
There will be a group at 12- I can drop by for a little while if that helps

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Sherrie – don’t try to win back .
Once we cross the line into compulsive gambling we never win back as I’m sure you have realised by now – because we usually cant cash out or else redeposit fairly quickly .

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He might have just blocked to wifi .
Is it on phone or laptop ?
Check out betfilter or gamblock .
It will help you stop.
Once you are stopped you can address the other issues .
Also tomorrow evening in the support groups there is one for new members – you will get good advice in there

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Are u gambling online ? Have you any money left?
Sherrie if you have buy a gambling blocker straight away- it will give u a little bit of space .

You just need to break the cycle so you can think clearly -it sos hard to think when wins , losses and counting and moving money here and there is swirling around our heads .

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We care Sherrie .
Are u stuck in the horrible cycle right now ?
I have been there so often and it is so hard to stop but it can be done .
Could you tell us a little more about your situation so we can perhaps help you ?

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A digital detox will be so refreshing Monica .
It will be good to sit and talk without the constant distraction .
I feel those other women are so lucky that you will be in their group and I know you will continue to support their recovery afterwards.
I can’t wait to hear about it – it is something I really would consider myself .

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Hi Nick
Welcome to the site and well done for taking action .
I recognise that cycle so well.
I find that I need a gambling blocker to stop me accessing sites – I currently have betfilter . Perhaps that is something you would consider .

You will get lots of support on here and there are also groups where you can chat .
I think it’s a great idea to post every day .

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Doesn’t meet my standards either Laura !
Lol
Like Mav it incredibly exceeds them .
Well done .
Thank. You for your lovely posts – kinda too distracted today to reply adequately – apologies !
Hope to catch you in group later .

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