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Truly great post Lizbeth .
You are always an optimistic person and your optimism has paid off .
I love when I don’t have to buy work clothes ( seems such a waste !)
I think the job sounds fabulous and as well as earning you will get to meet new people
And it’s extra good you are not having urges ‘
Well done Lisbeth – this didn’t just happen – you made it happen !

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Hi Raix
When I contacted my creditors they were unhelpful also . Then one day I rang them and said “I am going to go bankrupt – you will get nothing- are u interested in trying a repayment plan first?” And Guess what? Every single one of them agreed.

Monica is right – what can they do? You have no money right now . Just focus on not gambling Raix – the other stuff can be sorted out once you have a bit of gamble free time behind you .
Also Laura’s advice was very good – is there a an agency or organisation which could help you sort out your debts?

It would take a lot of worry away

Keep strong

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Hi Paul ,
How considerate of you to come and share the remarkable progress you have been making . It will certainly
Inspire others who have similar issues . I am so happy the post on your thread have changed so much . You are a good person and deserve to be free from his horrible illness
Xx

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Hi Sherrie ,
That’s exactly what happened to me .
I am Irish but when they banned all the uk people I could not get logged in . I knew I remembered you – my name was Sad back then, but like your old thread title , everyone thought it was too negative so I changed it .

I guess you know all the stuff about barriers etc so I won’t bore you to death .
I know you can do it and you know you can do it- you have done it before .
I lost a great qualification due to gambling. I exited a masters course with a pg. dip. I will always be annoyed with myself but it is too late to go back . It’s not too late for you .you can get back on track with your course and do really well.

I am so pleased you are reaching out for help . The health problems sound serious and the chemo sounds really difficult and painful . I hope you find another way to mange it .

I am sorry to read about your husband losing his job – it does put incredible pressure on you. Making a financial
Plan is sensible and will give you hope for a good financial future .

Well done on coming back here Sherrie – I hope you continue to share your recovery on here. Xx

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Hi Monica .
I didn’t know that stomach pain is related to anger – for some reason I always associated the stomach with stress. I’m not surprised you has suppressed anger – you have have had many reasons to be angry and certainly did not deserve to have a gambling addiction at this stage of your life .
Life has dealt you a lot of bad cards – but some amazing ones also – look at your fabulous family !
You have put on weight ? I cannot stop eating. I am
Huge and hungry all the time .
I didn’t realise that GMA paid the train fare – I have to admit I always thought this site was funded by gambling sites and felt I had supported them enough – I will reconsider my position on this . I do hope you manage to make that interview – imagine leaving GMA knowing you had a job to go to. – how perfect .

4.30 is an early start – you will possibly be there by the time I get out of bed . I really hope it’s an incredibly positive experience for you.

Hopefully we both make it to the 10pm group xx

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HI Kpat,
You have been in my mind recently so I thought I would look up your thread.
I hope all so good in your life and I am not even Sure if you will read this .
I have fallen in with a super group on here – some newish members and some on even longer than me and I keep thinking you would love these girls !
Post an update if you are in GT soon!

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Hi Monica,
Thank you for your post on my thread .
I agree – I could not do controlled gambling. The only chance I have is to stop all types of gambling .
I am so sorry you reached such a rock bottom and I am listening to what you say about circumstances changing .
If my salary went I would reach rock bottom at record speed. Your advice is helping to strengthen my resolve as indeed your kind encouragement always does.

I hope you make it to group later. I think Alliesmum will be there but Laura will be in- flight .
Any news about the job or is it too soon?
Are you feeling any better health wise ?
Wont be long til you go for your trip?
Give us an update? Xx

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Hi Erekle ,
It would be so nice to read another post from you .
You can beat this .

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I have been reading over the threads and reflecting .
I have tried to ***** back and think I joined GT eight years ago. Many times I have tried to stop gambling – I have changed names , threads , ac*****s, had fresh starts, new beginnings .

After eight years on this site I have almost completed week 3.
After eight years I am not even a month gamble free.
It’s hardly a great record – but despite all I am here chipping away at it and trying .

Today I feel very discouraged and deflated.
I have often felt like this in recent years , but I am developing a thicker skin (I’m not sure it will ever be thick enough !)

But I am what I am and I am good enough .
Thank you to those who are encouraging me, supporting me and helping me .
I do believe it will be “this time “.
Xx

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Hi Nick,

GA would advise no type of gambling of any kind but if you have been following my thread I didn’t really find GA useful and hate all talk that about hearing the things we need to hear but don’t want to – yawn – I think most of us know those things by now …
…and you also know yourself . You know if the scratch cards will make you want to gamble bigger and bigger amounts .

For me when I stop I find the addiction changes and I want to replace slot machines with bingo or lottery – the whole fantasy about winning, changing everyone’s life and helping everyone starts up just as it does with slot machines .
Even when I am trying to help a friend who has hit on hard times because of gambling, I find my thoughts ramble to “if I get a big win I can pay off his / her debt” . How crazy is that? I am encouraging them to give up gambling and put barriers in place while at the same time thinking I could get a win and save them.

That’s just me – I have given up all types of gambling- you know yourself best . You know if you buy the scratch card because you hope for a big win – you know if it is keeping the gambling fantasy alive -you know if it just harmless fun which you can take or leave – you know yourself !

Hope you have a great day tooxx

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Aw Alliesmum

It is in helping others that we help ourselves.
I have been finding it pretty tough on the threads for a number of months – can’t do right for doing wrong kinda thing -so your last post has also meant a lot to me .
Very well timed and very much appreciated.
Thank you
Xx

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Hi Alliesmum,

Most of us have been there , and I know for me it always takes me a while I am face writing about it on the threads .

The best advice I can give is that which Harry (GT) gave me – he said a slip doesn’t have to be a full relapse .

I get that feeling really bad afterwards – but I so admire how you have immediately taken steps to get those barriers set up again – your honesty with your husband is so admirable .
You will beat this you know.
I understand the urges become less frequent and less intense .

Don’t be too hard on yourself – now of us are perfect – you are working hard on recovery .

My last slip was when my husband forgot an unblocked laptop- I have since set my barriers higher and now have no card (following your example).

I hope you feel better soon – I know how low it can bring us .

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Enjoy your trip Laura .

I am so not a morning person- but it’s the only time of day I move with speed .
I think today I start my healthy eating plan but even as I write I realise that “think” is not terribly promising .
Best get out of bed and face today –
No urges yet but strictly speaking it’s not three weeks until midnight tonight -determined there will be no 3 week crash for me !
Not that I’m really counting hehe.

Onwards and upwards everyone

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Day 20
I’m a day away from 3 weeks – when I gambled a bonus and thankfully not my own money .

I got the bank statement today – and something has bothered me.
Some deposits seem to have went through days later .
Now I don’t think I have been robbed or anything , but I do find myself wondering if there is money in my account. We are talking about maybe £75 .

I did ask for the account to be closed but I keep getting emails – so I think my request has been ignored .
I am tempted to go on there and check but I know if I do I will play the money and then I will be back to square one.
And getting access seems like too much trouble .

So horrible dodgy site – have £75 on me – but don’t try for more- the card is cancelled!

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Well done on seeking support Ereckle.
This is a horrible illness but so many people have overcome it and live happy prosperous lives.
You can have a great life too.
Don’t give up

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