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Yes just keep your eye on August / September when you will be able to relax and enjoy money – it’s not so far away – remember your money is for you – not some casino or bookies owner who already has too much .

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Hi Monica ,
Sorry I slept all evening so missed chat.
Sorry to hear you are feeling so desolate – not sure I can say anything useful or helpful.
Annoyed at my last message now – think exhaustion played a part – seems very shallow when you are in such pain.
I hope you get your health issues resolved soon.
It’s hard to feel upbeat when you have been unwell for so long.
Thinking of you xx

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Hi Jags,
It is the most horrible feeling when we gamble and lose – but if you read the threads here , many people stop gambling and go on to have really great lives.

For me I find that gambling is quite impulsive – I seem to gamble without thinking – so what helps me is having barriers .
Here are some of the things I use :
I no longer have a card for a bank or credit account to I cannot gamble on line
I no longer have access to my bank account – I have someone else manage it
I have a gambling blocker set on the house wifi
I have gambling blocker installed on my phone

While these can’t totally stop me from gambling , they do give me a bit of of thinking time to play the whole gambling scene in my head until the end – he end is me being in despair with no money .

I hope these suggestions help – you can stop gambling and there is lots of support on here

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Jaykay- this should be a safe place to express ourselves – and if you feel that works for you then you are completely right to say so. As a person who has written a lot of stuff that was judged I feel it is a very positive and strong post .
I also agree there is no barrier stong enough to prevent me from gambling – but the barriers I have do give me thinking time . In truth I need plenty of it .

I feel there is no right or wrong way , no better or worse way . I personally hated all that straight talking which was repeating things we already knew over and over until it became frustrating . There is no one size fits all- and we all need to accept that we all have our own way.
Great post – thanks for sharing.

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Thank you Jappy and Charles

So I foolishly spent time last night trying to get around my blocker and my cancelled cards – how completely stupid – to gamble .
Best thing I ever did was get rid of my own debit card – just got my husband’s now and he will get a text to approve any transaction. I cannot gamble online no matter how much I want to.
When the flesh is weak it’s good to have a back up plan. I still have urges pretty much every day, but usually they are controllable .

There used to be a lot of discussion on here about “real recovery “. I’m not sure t really matters whether it is “real” or “fake” – so long as I am not gambling and cannot gamble .
I wish of course that the urges would go away and never come back –
Today I don’t feel so good – the aftermath of an over indulgent weekend – the stress of feeling over-whelmed by life, so many things I feel responsible for – so many wrong decisions.

Tonight my pay goes in – got a long weekend abroad to look forward to – I guess it is good – pay day used to fill me with excitement- the relief of having money after gambling the month before. Telling myself this month will be different when it never was.

I have been gamble free for 2018- not always due to will power. I’m
Not sure if it is possible but I am going to set my barriers even higher -I am going to continue to beat this horrible addiction. I am having my life back .
Onward and upwards

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Hi lunalex,
Yes I got hooked by a big win too- gave it all back and thousands with it – and many years of my life.

You would have been happy enough without the money if you had never won it – once you start spending those amounts you have to accept that this had crossed the line into addiction.
Every win from now on will go the same way as the last one .

I hope you can stop yourself – read the stories on here – this will only end in destruction
.i hope this helps .

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Well done all round Sherrie – on the studies , being gamble free and focusing on the things that will help you – yeah I love alcohol too and it is much cheaper and u actually can have a lot of fun! Much better than gambling.
So glad to see you posting !

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Hey I wrote you a post last night and it’s not here-quite annoyed by that .
I hope the surgery gives u relief from the pain you have been suffering . Perhaps you will be in chat later ?

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Aw Micky ,
Pets are not just animals – the are part of our families. When he die they leave a huge void in our homes and in our hearts.

My little dog had cancer – I used to pretend I was staying up all night with her and I would gamble all night on my laptop.

I look back am consumed with guilt that after so many years I didn’t give her that time in her last weeks . I was here , I was near but I wasn’t with her –
I think that is one of my worse memories .

Keep strong , keep free , and I hope you have lovely memories of Lucky

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Great – I hope to make it .
I was out ALL weekend long – will tell u in chat .
Talk soon

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Hi Monica ,
Will you be in any of the chats later ?

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Thanks Micky
I feel strong in recovery but I also feel like posting an chatting less- in fairness I had an incredibly busy weekend , but in the past this has signalled the return of gambling. It happens slowly but it has always happened .
So I guess I am going to have to force myself to post.
I am incredibly tired after my crazy weekend, but it did give me a taste of what life could be like. Why should I not go into town to shop and have a glass of fizzy ? Life doesn’t have to be all about not gambling – it can be fun!
If I can stay awake see u nice folks in group later .

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Lizbeth , you are right – life is too short to be miserable !
So it will take u a little longer to get back on track- but you will.
Happiness is priceless

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Day 30
Don’t want to get up – want to stay in bed- but work calls.

At least I am working for me now, not some casino.
I am grateful I have health to work and the ability to earn a salary.

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Well done Micky.
Life is good and will only get better!

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