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Er det bare mig, eller fungerer mange funktioner ikke siden det nye websted? Jeg kan i øjeblikket ikke starte et nyt emne, bruge knappen Slet eller redigere på min telefon? Er det bare mig?

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Sou só eu ou muitas funções não estão funcionando desde o novo site? No momento, não consigo iniciar um novo tópico, usar o botão excluir ou editar no meu telefone? Sou apenas eu ?

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Hi Slot-Junkie
Hope you are feeling much better – it is so nice to talk to you in chat.
It sometimes feels like the addiction is so persistent it is easier to give in- but of course we have learned that this is never the easy option .

Keep strong and see u in group soon.

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Hi Monica
I was messaging Lizbeth at the same as you and when I posted I saw your reply.
It seems our posts were kinda on the same theme – telepathically linked as usual .

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Hi Monica and Lizbeth
We seem to be all posting together .
Could u go to “explore the groups ”
Then”view as list”
Then we could chat on the top / first open group ( any language ) ?

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Hi Lizbeth,
Gambling aside, you talk about lots of positive things in your life – especially your grandchildren .
It makes me wonder about that feeling of being stuck .
It is something I feel often – I feel I should be making some kind of huge progress – but in truth perhaps I should settle and enjoy what I now have .
I always seem to be chasing something – whether it’s further qualifications, a better home, more money -and all the time I’m chasing I am thinking the solution is a big win.
Your post today had really struck a chord with me and made me question if this is a trait of gambling addiction – the theme of being stuck comes up often –
Do you think maybe his is what is meant by acceptance ? Being content with where we are ?
Perhaps it’s good to constantly want to improve ?

Please don’t think I’m judging – I’m just really interested in your thoughts on this – as I feel permanently stuck in so many areas of my life . I’m wondering if the secret might be to change how we perceive where we are at ?
It certainly would make my mind more peaceful ?

I would be interested in your opinion .

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Thank you Lori and Monica .
I would love to share a virtual coffee with you both !

I am trying to force myself to post – in the past I have found stopping posting results in a relapse .
I find myself becoming fearful about site security again- although I know this time I have left no trail . I wish I could switch off those emails which I keep getting for every post but despite following all instructions several times they keep arriving- who needs an email to tell them there is a post when we can just check the site ?
In the past I ended up deleting my whole email account to stop them.

Life is fairly good – I can now afford things like an impulsive meal out or new clothes but I find I am more frugal than in the past- I really am determined to get that money behind me – my emergency fund .

I am noticing little things – over time I have come to value myself so much less- and I am starting to notice a pattern .

For example this morning hubby decided to pick up breakfast and I thought I would like a nice coffee – he started the usual discussion about how I could make one in the house etc – and I said yeah you are right . I realised afterwards this is what he always does – anything for me is less important and less valuable – so I am going To insist on my coffee – he had a huge breakfast while I only wanted a few items and a coffee and yet I didn’t even get the coffee . He is now out spending money with his friends which is a lot more than my coffee !! A pattern has developed over years and just to drive the point home
I might go and buy myself something nice – (in the past I would have gambled ).
I am realising that this person has gradually sucked the life out of me , I have got nothing I wanted in life and I deserve better!

I have a life I never signed up for but that is going to change !
Onwards and upwArds !

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Hi Johnny
Well done on your gamble free time – you have really turned your life around , and have helped so many others on the way .

I have had a free 2018 but to be honest my barriers have saved me more than my will power – that’s just me I guess !

I cannot wait until I can write a post like yours

Great to hear from you !

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Hi John ,
I’m so sorry to read that things are going badly for you .
Bankruptcy sounds terrifying , but also it might give you a fresh start. Some people I have met in group described it as something which they dreaded but which are removed a lot of worry in the end .
I have always been brought up to understand that at the end of our lives we will able to ***** our true friends on one hand – when times are good “friends” are plentiful – this changes quickly! I guess most of us in here have learned that the hard way .

You have your son , your own ability to build a business no matter what the circumstance , the debt will soon be removed and even if the authorities see you have a gambling addiction they cannot really do anything about it – It is the very authorities who have made gambling so legal and so accessible .

let it all roll out John and you will be able to start again debt free.
You have your son to show for your life , many hard learned lessons and you are still young enough to do anything.

Keep strong !

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Thank you Micky and Monica for your posts.

Happy St Patrick’s day to everyone .
It has been a great day – Went out for brunch, watched the rugby which Ireland won ( sorry my English friends lol) and now making a really late supper.

Turned down several invites to go out and chose instead to spent the time with family!
I have realised that I have two main types of friends – those who drink and those who gamble.
It is strange but somehow I have got to a place in my life where I have no one to go out for a simple cup of coffee with !

That is something I need to work on ! I have a few old friends I can reconnect with! It’s time to take control of my life !

Onwards and upwards !

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Well done Alliesmum.
Two weeks is brilliant .
I think eventually something just clicks in our heads and we want a better life .
Keep focused on your holiday.
It is a great feeling when you know you are putting money towards the right things.

Keep strong xx

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Hi Monica I see I missed you in group . I’m happy to hear your sons are doing well and unsurprised to read that they are so willing to help you – you have raised good kids ! New jobs bring new challenges – it’s not easy, but if you can persevere things might feel easier in a few weeks. I guess by our age we should have found healthier ways to manage stress – me -I eat my way through it , occasionally supplementing my eating with alcohol. I guess it’s better than gambling my way through it . Life doesn’t get easier – work seems harder , life seems harder. I just keep reminding myself that I am fortunate to have a well paid job. If I had lived my life differently, I would have more choices now – so I guess that’s just the way it is . I keep reminding myself, but myself doesn’t hear ! Lol. I am so glad you are in work Monica – a few pay cheques and you will have more options also – if you are unsure about the job keep looking for other work- it is horrible when work invades our weekends – we need them ! You get paid soon – what are you lost looking forward to buying? Let me guess – gorgeous food ? Hope to catch you in a group over the weekend . You can still go to groups the old way “view as list ” and access extra groups so maybe we could arrange to meet . Keep posting !!

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Thank you Johnny ,
I always lose track of the days and then I don’t hunk it really matters .
What matters in life is what you have in your pocket to pay for all the things we consider important. Money does indeed matter.
4 months is brilliant – well done.
I m well into month 3 now – it does indeed feel good.

I had a letter today – when I started my repayment plans my biggest visa was over 13,000- today I received a letter and it is now just under 6000. I have been slowly paying it off for years.

I intend adding up all my debts later today. – they must be so much smaller now and it will be good to see the progress . Some are completely wiped out .
I am learning that we can do anything we put our minds to !

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Hi Monica
As usual I am filled with admiration for you.
You never gave up and you never undervalued yourself and this has paid off.
You are now in work and your whole world is changing .
You have had this horrible experience but you have also experienced the generosity of your children, made a decision about your partner – you have learned some very hard lessons about our welfare system and how difficult it is to overcome poverty.
Despite all you are back in work and have a great future .
You have inspired me and instead of giving up on career and drifting into retirement feeling unfulfilled , I now know it is altogether possible to take on the world at any age !
You are truly inspirational !

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Hi Micky
I needed to read this today !
I am feeling resentful that I have to work – when I should be grateful to be able to .
Maybe your will get a sleep before your shift starts .
Great post about not gambling – it brings us nothing but pain.

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