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Hi RJ,
Well done on accepting that you have a problem and reaching out for help.
You are young , but certainly not dumb- you have a gambling addiction.
Try to put barriers in place so cannot gamble – I use betfilter on my phone to block gambling activities .
Can you get someone else to manage your money for now ?

It is a really hard addiction to overcome but you have youth on your side and the world at your feet .
Keep posting – you will get lot of helpful advice on here !

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Daniel
I have been on this site for the best part of a decade and I am following your thread .
I really don’t understand trading and I feel the fact you have ever made money trading shows that you are every clever .

I would like to tell you if something I have learned – the hardest way – it is almost universal that when we become addicted to gambling we will never be able to gamble normally again. It is a horrible truth to accept especially as we all love gambling so much .
I think it may be the same for trading – you may never be able to trade “normally” again – sure we manage for a little while but then the “beast ” take over.

I understand that you didn’t gain your previous wealth through trading – so perhaps this would be a better way to regain your wealth.

I appreciate I May be totally off the mark here – and I hope you find my comments constructive as they are intended to be. I often found it annoying when people kept repeating what I already knew so take what works for you and ignore the rest .
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You can have a great life Daniel – you are working hard at this – posting diligently. Onwards and upwards !

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Hi Monica ,
It was so nice to catch up in chat .
I love how positive you and Laura are – you are both so kind and non – judgemental – my heart lifts when I see you both your names pop up – and you both have common sense in bucketloads !
It has been a good night after all – I chatted to two friends I really value !
Xx

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Hi Laura – was so nice to catch up with you and Monica in group .
I wish GT would go back to the groups which were open all day like you described .
I used to find the longer really useful too and it actually gave the meeting place a purpose !!
It has been so long since I have managed to find anyone in chat .

It is good to see how your life is moving forward and you sound really happy despite your pain .
And it was sooooo nice to chat !

Xx

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Hi Johnny
Great thread – we cannot control it – I have been gamble free for a while now but still struggle with urges . It is so hard sometimes and I find I mindlessly eat instead which brings its own problems .

I think if I had lots of money I would also think I could afford to gamble a little – and we know how that always ends – although perhaps if it was enough I could find other things to fill my time .

So glad to read you are still gamble free

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Hi Micky
It’s been a while since you posted .
Hope everything is ok with you and that recovery is treating you well.
Looking forward to an update !

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LAura it is so nice to hear from you . We all understand that you are recovering from a major operation and you should feel guilty about absolutely nothing – except maybe not putting yourself completely first at this time – you need extreme self care !
I really appreciated your post and it would be great if you could make it to a ten o clock group !
I hope the new car is a success and you are enjoying this symbol of the better life you have fought hard to achieve for yourself .

Really rest lots and we will still be here in nine months or so when you feel better xx

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Thank you Monica .
I really appreciate your reply .
Today I noticed I did not react , or even want to when someone was nasty to me and tried to blame a decision they took on me
We are all responsible for our own destiny , and it is easy to blame others for our actions , decisions and choices .
We are all adult – if you make a decision – own it !

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Hi Daniel ,
Please don’t hate yourself .
To err is to human .
Try to focus on putting barriers in place so you cannot trade (you will get lots of advice in the group ) and on earning that money back .
Let this shock inspire you to move forward positively with your life .

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Aw got cut off – and couldn’t get back in

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Great post Monica- yes your life is certainly interesting . I am not surprised so many fell in love with you – you are a great person!
It must have been a great feeling to pay for lunch and reassuring for your family.
Your post has me smiling – sometimes we get lost in life – and it takes us a while to find where we are meant to be.

Reading Your post once again reminds me that money is so essential for happiness in this life !
We need to do all we can to financially secure our futures .

I am so glad you had a great day!

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Well done Alliesmum- hang in there.
The holiday must be close now – I hope you are really feeling the rewards of not gambling .
Urges come and go – it is great that you are resisting them.
Keeps strong xx

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Daniel
For me I think the big secret to stopping is letting the money go.
It is lost and gone and with your abilities in business you can make it back again . Just because you have gained a gambling addiction doesn’t mean you have lost your other talents .

It is really hard to stop and even though I have been trying for years it is only now I am having real success and I have to be honest and say that is mostly due to the barriers I have put in place like gambling blockers on my phone and internet devices- I still want to gamble a lot of the time but I can’t. Willpower is not my strongest point !

People who have been gamble free a long time say the urges lessen and they definitely have for me – but they are still there.

I really don’t know if you can block trading sites but if you Google gambling blockers you will get throw information. I use betfilter .

Like you Daniel, gambling is generational in my family – I guess we are lacking something in our brains – I had some success with a supplement called NAC but in the end it made me feel ill a lot of the time – you could Google that also perhaps .

You can recover from this and have a great life – if you want to win back you can still do it tomroro , next week or next month- try stopping for now !

I hope this helps Daniel- by the time we realise that we are stuck in the cycle of compulsive gambling we have already done so much damage – but it is very positive that you have realised this and it is very admirable that you are reaching out straight away to get help .

You can beat this Daniel and you can build up your funds again.

Can I recommend that you attend some of the support groups tomorrow night (Monday ) with Charles – you will get good advice there .

Well done for joining GT

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Yes Lizbeth ,
I am never too specific about things in my real life except in groups .
That was what caused the difficulties I had before.
Things I had said in group were rehashed on here .
I found it an absolute breach of confidentiality and was absolutely devasted by it . It wasn’t even truth – but another’s perception of what was true in my life – and they seemed unable to le t it go.

I also felt my anonymity was under threat.
I learned the hardest way to share even less.
I still worry about those people exposing me –

But I try to remember that whatever transpired between us they are essentially good people. I do sometimes wake up panicked about it and often dream about it – I feel less safe in life as a result but my fear is lessening as time passes. I still have to check my phone in the middle of the night if I wake up to make sure there is nothing in my emails or posted on here to expose me. It’s not nice .

Some people have picked up on parts of threads and parts of Issues (in my panic I deleted most )and made up their own minds – but I think people who followed the complete events were horrified that one of us could be “outed” by someone we have grown to trust .

It is what it is -I have had the worse 18 months – huge child worries – I would have liked to share and get support but I couldn’t . The events on here added to my distress . Trusting people too much on an online site could completely destroy your life and that of your family . Don’t do it !

I think we all need to remember that everyone goes through bad times – and even if they are writing about gambling or not gambling we have no way of knowing how they are feeling in life or what they are going through .

I felt kicked and battered on here at a time I was holding on by a string . The awful thing is I had shared this with these people in group .

I feel a lot better now – I think things are improving – I hope they are .
I don’t have to tell you Lizbeth that parenting is the hardest job in the world and when things go wrong it rips you to your very core .
I think I’m a good parent – I can let go – I don’t feel the need to control but mostly my kid can come to me when he needs support – my kid says I’m his best friend — of course kids have no idea what it costs us as parents – they don’t understand that while they sleep we get up several times to check that they haven’t done anything silly and the relief to see the red colour in their cheeks and their chests rising and falling .

Life is sometimes too hard as a parent – u try to keep your own stuff together- ur job which is essential, your home which is essential , your finances which are essential and you panic all the time that you are not there to stop anything horrible happening – and feel guilty that u never do enough.

So I’m not sure why I am writing all this but it kind feels better out than in .

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Another day when I slept for too long – I forgot to put the clock forward . I feel so disappointed with myself because I missed something I was meant to do.
I have completely lost track of the number of days I have been gamble free but it is getting near to three months – I am going to stop thinking about the time as it keeps gambling too focused in my mind .
I wanted to do great things today but already the day is half over . It’s a bit like my life – half over with little achieved .
What a positive post I am writing today .

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