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Obrigada Vera e Steev, Sim Vera, cheguei a um ponto em que sabia que nunca iria parar e essa seria minha vida para sempre. Isso exigia uma ação drástica – eu fiz a coisa mais corajosa da minha vida – fui para um tratamento residencial – eu que tenho medo de ficar sozinha em um hotel! Isso mudou minha vida. Steev sua motivação para aprender e ver coisas novas é incrível. Eu sou mais do tipo do Netflix – parece que perdi minha motivação para todo o resto. Hoje começo meu nono mês sem apostar – é uma sensação boa. Hoje vou me mexer e começar a trabalhar no “meu” espaço – é um escritório em casa / espaço relaxante. Ele foi pintado recentemente – uma caixa branca – estou animado agora – quando faço minhas compras essenciais hoje, mal pego algumas almofadas e coisas para ele. Pequenos passos. Progresso, não perfeição!

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Nick you deserve a great recovery.
Really focus on that.
It is so easy to get distracted by all that is wrong with the world – it is maybe at times easier than focusing on ourselves and where we are at.

I know that whether or not they write on this forum, no one celebrates more than the GT staff when we start to make it in recovery.
Let’s be honest – there are things I should be doing right now which I am not doing.
There are things which I let slip in my own job because I was gambling.

You have every right to be angry at the hand life has dealt you- gambling addiction is a horrible blow and I don’t know why we were chosen to have it.
Please direct that anger at the addiction.
Something that helped me was to give the addiction a name and write a really honest letter to her.
I couldn’t print it here because the language I used was choice.
I told her what I thought of her, how I was leaving her toxic friendship behind and where to go if she ever wanted to call on me again.
Could you write a similar letter and really focus your anger on the addiction ?

We’re all rooting for you Nick .

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Hi Vera
That’s a very honest post.
The addicted part of our brain has told me a million times that I could play a little and withdraw my winnings- if I did manage to get my balance up a bit then it told me I am on a winning streak and I continued.
On the rare occasion (not in recent years even once) when I have managed to withdraw, the addiction in my brain has told me I can do it again.
We all know where this ends – with me in dire straights obsessing about getting enough money to survive – and even when I do I’m tempted to win back.

You know the drill Vera – you have been through the cycle too often.
Come to the groups tonight and let’s talk all this through.

Could you do me a small favour?
Could you outline how your finances might be for the next month or even year if you don’t gamble.
This could be the basis of a new plan for you.

You need to get a PLAN into place! A Plan works for you – it gives you structure and a goal.

By the way no one ever grows weary of you.
You have been on this site for a long time and many rush to answer you when you post and if good wishes and goodwill made a recovery, you would never be out of it.

Keep strong – make the wise decision-send a message to that hateful addiction that you have seen through it and time of destroying your life is over – gambling addiction is the most toxic friend you will ever have – always coaxing you to do things – pretending it will help you . We all know how deceptive it is!

Keep strong and well done on your six weeks Vera xx

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Hvala na objavi Nick, pričekaj – bit će vrijedno toga. Danas sam dosegao još jednu prekretnicu. 8 mjeseci besplatno kockanje. Nisam mogla početi objašnjavati kako su se stvari promijenile za mene. Ne trošim vrijeme u panici zbog novca- mojih posljednjih gubitaka, pokušaja prikrivanja, brojanja i brojanja u glavi, opsesivno planiranja jeftinih večera, traženja kredita, pazeći da dobijem bankovni izvod- kad bolje razmislim najmanje 90% moje mentalne energije otišlo je na kockanje i njegove posljedice. Sad se budim osvježen nakon dobrog sna. Svaki dan se podsjećam da imam dovoljno. "DOVOLJNO" je postala moja mantra. Dosta mi daje miran život. Moj je um na istoj razini- nema više ekstremnih uspona i padova. I moje raspoloženje je ujednačeno. Vrijeme je da počnem raditi stvari koje zaista želim raditi – poboljšanja doma – možda će danas biti taj dan?

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Thanks your post Nick,
Hang in there – it will be so worth it.

Today I have reached another milestone.
8 months gamble free.
I couldn’t start to explain how things have changed for me.

I don’t spend my time panic stricken about money – my latest losses, trying to cover-up, counting and counting in my head, obsessively planning cheap dinners, searching for loans , making sure I get bank statement- when I think about it at least 90% of my mental energy went into gambling and it’s consequences.

I now wake up refreshed after a good night’s sleep. I remind myself every day that I have enough. “ENOUGH” has become my mantra. Enough gives me a peaceful life.

My mind is on an even keel- no more extreme highs and lows.
My moods are on an even keel also.

It’s time I started to do the things I really want to do -my home improvements – perhaps today will be the day?

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Bedankt voor je bericht Nick, hou vol – het zal het zo waard zijn. Vandaag heb ik weer een mijlpaal bereikt. 8 maanden kansloos. Ik kon niet beginnen uit te leggen hoe de dingen voor mij zijn veranderd. Ik besteed mijn tijd niet in paniek over geld – mijn laatste verliezen, proberen te verdoezelen, tellen en tellen in mijn hoofd, obsessief goedkope diners plannen, leningen zoeken, ervoor zorgen dat ik een bankafschrift krijg – als ik erover nadenk ten minste 90% van mijn mentale energie ging in gokken en de gevolgen daarvan. Ik word nu uitgerust wakker na een goede nachtrust. Ik herinner mezelf er elke dag aan dat ik genoeg heb. "GENOEG" is mijn mantra geworden. Genoeg geeft me een vredig leven. Mijn geest is op een gelijkmatige kiel – geen extreme hoogte- en dieptepunten meer. Mijn stemmingen zijn ook op een gelijkmatige kiel. Het wordt tijd dat ik de dingen ga doen die ik echt wil doen – mijn huisverbeteringen – misschien is vandaag de dag?

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Obrigado pela sua postagem Nick, Aguente firme – vai valer a pena. Hoje eu alcancei outro marco. 8 meses de jogo grátis. Eu não poderia começar a explicar como as coisas mudaram para mim. Eu não gasto meu tempo em pânico sobre dinheiro – minhas últimas perdas, tentando encobrir, contando e contando na minha cabeça, obsessivamente planejando jantares baratos, procurando por empréstimos, garantindo que eu receba o extrato bancário – quando eu penso sobre isso pelo menos 90% da minha energia mental foi para o jogo e suas consequências. Agora acordo revigorado depois de uma boa noite de sono. Eu me lembro todos os dias que tenho o suficiente. “SUFICIENTE” se tornou meu mantra. Suficiente me dá uma vida pacífica. Minha mente está equilibrada – chega de altos e baixos extremos. Meu humor também está equilibrado. É hora de começar a fazer as coisas que realmente quero fazer – melhorias na minha casa – talvez hoje seja o dia?

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This happened me too!

Theu have upgraded it so it cant be switched off !

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Hi WWIS I remember you being on here before and am full of admiration that you have come back to give it another go.

I can tell you about things which help me stay gamble free when my will power fails. I have a gambling blocker on my internet devices (currently I just have a phone). It’s called Gamban and I started with a free trial – I put off getting it for years because it costs – but it has saved me thousands.

I cancelled my bank cards and got someone else to open the new ones and scratch the last three numbers on the back. This means I cannot use them online at all but can still use in shops.

That’s just two things which I find particularly helpful.

I am no different to you WWIS- just in the end I couldn’t take  it anymore and knew I had to cut it out of my life completely with no small doors left open- just in case !

I hope this helps – you can stop and stay stopped.

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Thank Charles
I think that’s good idea- right now I think I will “live” in my green house but then when I am back in work full-time I’m not so sure I will feel the same – so I will test the water with the Argos one.
Much appreciated.

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