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Hi Stephen ,
This is my third time attempting this post – it keeps disappearing. .
Firstly I am Irish too so I know how impossible it is to self ban there ! I know that gambling is really poorly regulated .I understand that you and your brother are grieving your mum but I think you could work together to achieve her dying wish – to see you stop gambling .
Open up to your brother , ask him to take full control of your money . He might be able to help you get a loan so you can press reset on your debts. There are many way around this – you will be helping your brother with his grief also.
Also I think you should consider residential at the following
You can pay off the fees over a long time if you need to – this is a non- profit organisation.
You can beat this Stephen- and the time to do it is now .
I know how close Irish families are (even when we fall out). We would move mountains for each other- talk to your brother .
Hi Monica ,
Perhaps you have been living your life purpose all along –
Helping the many people in your life who you are always there for .Perhaps our life purpose is to go where life leads us and make the most of the journey.
I have a job which is so fulfilling – yet I think my life purpose is my family .
It’s great that you have hot water at last ! You are so patient to go without it for so long . Also patient in waiting to buy the things you want – patience is a great quality – one I don’t have – I want everything now which is probably why I have so many gambling urges .
There have been quite a few people at rock bottom on here recently and yes it is a very sharp reminder to us all.
Hope to catch u in group soon .
Hi K,
Well done for coming on here an looking for help. I have gambled for many years and but now have been stopped for about six months .
I did it by putting gambling blockers on my internet devices and I joined gamstop (which actually I think is pretty useless )- at one point I destroyed an iPad to stop me gambling.I did find it really hard to stop but I feel so much better now .
We all can stop you know – we just need the right support – joining this site is a great first step!
Hi TT
Welcome to the site – the problem
With a win is we want to do it again and the problem with a loss is we want to chase it – our minds can think of little else and we don’t really even enjoy the money – It is just fuel to keep our addiction alive .Well done on recognising that this has become a problem for you – you will get lots of support on here !
Hi Laura
Just wanted to say I really appreciate the consistent support you give to me and actually to everyone .
I hope whatever issues you had are resolved and that life is going great for u
XxHi Monica
It sounds like you had some fun despite all the set backs – holidays can be so stressful if things go wrong -the lost passport would have had me in panicking mode .
It’s great to have u back here !Did you fly first class in the past -?
I would like the extra leg room! It seems they have squashed more seats in than they used to in the good old days and u get no leg room at all now .You could perhaps write a trip adviser review so that others don’t end up in a hotel with disinterested staff!
Just think six months ago this trip would have seemed impossible so well done on all the action you have taken
XxAw Laura – sorry I missed u in chat – I am there alone a lot also!
I am away with family at the moment and having a blissful time – I have been able to treat us all a few times and pay my way without worry – like you I will be having a leaner time over the next few weeks ! I love this feeling though !Onwards and upwards Laura – we are living the dream !!
Wow Kathryn ,
I am away with family for a few days and itching to get back to my clutter haha .
Well done – I have still a lot to do to finish my room – it the bathroom but everyone visits there and it was he worse room in the house! LolYou are doing so well – keep her lit !
Great advice Kathryn ,
Gp ‘s rarely have time to give to their patients anymore as it seems they have filled their books to maximum to ensure maximum profit !Go see someone else or even try get free counselling through gamcare . You have been through such a lot – you must prioritise your own health so that you are well enough to deal with everything else .
You are a good person Mav -you deserve all the support you can get !
Gino I agree with Laura –
The gambling and suicidal feelings are intertwined .
Every relapse I felt the same .Please answer this question- what have u to lose by seeking help? Everybody needs help sometime.
Your family need you – you may find it difficult to see that right now .
Please reach out – ring the samaritians or befrienders.Don’t let pride stand in the way of seeking help .
Who is in your family ?
I have looked up some links for you
There is also a helpline on this site .
No harm in giving it a go .
What do you think ?
Hi Kathryn
I think it must be you who is motivating me but I also bought some accessories – pictures thingies – and I can hardly believe but I am dumping the old ones that have hung for two decades – u know the “I might paint the frames ” type stuff – it is so nice to get new stuff – and it also helps us lose that poverty mind- set that gambling gave us .I wish I could sit in your room and share a coffee with you .
It is so good that u are spending time with old friends . Great to catch up and remember the good old times .
Keep doing everything that you are doing
XxHow Gino
Just popped by to see if things are looking any better ?
You can do this – you know u can !Hi Johnny
My recovery is still very much in it’s infancy but I recognise that those thoughts control me a lot .
I have barriers built upon barriers and still I know without them I would be back to square one .
I do notice however as time passes my mid is starting to focus on other things – and therefore less on gambling so I guess that’s some kind of progress.
Most night I battle with myself about bingo , a few nights a week I battle about the lottery and yet this is so much less than where I was six months ago.Recovery is strange – for some it’s a once off decision and hey never look back ,- for others it’s a long drawn out battle with hazards around every corner – yet for all it is achceivable and a better life is achievable .
Your post has been particularly helpful in reminding me that iwe can all beat this .
Hi Stephen
Well done on seeking help.
Have you considered getting residential help – if you check this site there is a residential at Gordon Moody which could’ve just what you need to press reset .
It is difficult for you right now while grieving your mother but gambling only makes things worse.It there anyone who could handle your remaining cash -no money means no gambling.
Keep posting -you can recover from this.
Gene. Read the post Harry wrote earlier
just popped back to day the post is gone.
he described living in a tent and being hungry
he just paid his last debt.
life can turn around -life can be great again.
ur looks do not disappear that quickly .
u need to make some right choices to get you back on track
u can do this .