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Hi lizbeth
While we don’t do thanksgiving we always have the same drama with Christmas. Still I guess if it wasn’t for these occasions many of us would never bother to see half our families.
I hope you are feeling peaceful – ( something which evades me right now ). A “lighter” supplement which might be worth researching is 5htp but u cannnot take to if you are on other meds
Sorry it’s been so long since I’ve posted
Xx

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Hi Kin
Thank you for your post on my thread.
You have really grown as a person , andyour thinking of other people comes across really strongly in how you hve been posting in so many other threads .
Life is a process where we all mature and grow in our own way, at our own speed.
I hope your new job goes well and you continue to be able to contribute to your family.

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Hi konj,
I think betfilter starts at around 26.99 stg for three months- it’s not a lot if you compare it to how much we could gamble in that period. I don’t believe any blocker is fool-proof – it depends on how tech- savvy you are but if this one is set up right I have found it better than most (and I have tried a lot). I have tried most of the free ones and they were too easy to bypass as indeed were some of the paid ones !

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Hi Laura
Congratulations on being close to a clutter free home. I am taking your post as a signpost – every time I pray I feel God is screaming trying to reach and motivate me to work on my messy home.
It must feel so good- I think perhaps we Hold on to clutter for fear of needing to sell junk to get us out of a mess or perhaps gambling is so consuming we didn’t have time to keep on top of things?
It must be the best feeling – and you must have such confidence about inviting People to visit .

Sorry to hear about the meds affecting your mood-good luck with work xx

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Monica
I am kinda at a loss for words but I will try .
That was such a powerful post – I wonder why I didn’t see it earlier.

I am thinking when you described this man we all know someone like him- in my case it’s a woman who cannnot stand that I manage her ! I wonder what makes these people so damaged -but yes I believe you were there for him to learn . He has leavened that women are strong , decisive and deserving of respect – and will settle for nothing less than respect . That is a good lesson .

Never a lender or a borrower be ! Money is the root of all evil – so many relationships are destroyed by money so well done on handling the situation with your sister so openly .

I felt that GA is for men also . I have tried to explain that I felt frightened with so many men there – I have tried to explain that I felt scared walking to my car alone afterwards but would be more scared if one of the men accompanied me. It is just how I am and you have just explained perfectly that Others feel the same – i keep being offered the same advice like “get back to GA”, and “follow the steps “ which to be honest I cant identify with. I also find most of the GA cliches annoying, totally unhelpful and completely outdated , but respect those who find it helpful .

So Monica , you post feels so inspired on so many levels .
Was lovely to see u in chat
Xx

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Hi Monica I notice I have just missed you and others in few groups recently – they are definitely so much quieter but they are very late for those of us who have work next day .

It’s good that your sister has stopped drinking – better for her health and better for her wallet ! Is this the sister who borrows from you ? This might help with that also .

I hope your mum gets her legs sorted whatever the cause – it sounds like she is maybe a little resistant to visiting the doctor.

Magnesium is good – the old adage “we can get everything we need from our food “ is now being recognised as no longer true thanks to Morden farming methods stripping soils of nutrients . Like in the old sci fi movies , we will eventually be taking small tablets instead of food !

I hope work is bearable despite the culture . I’m not sure why but I waken with anxiety every day now – I would love to retire but of course have made that impossible for many years .

It’s so nice to read your post – I have somehow my mojo with posting . Take care xx

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Thank you Konj

I found it cimpletely ineffective too- the only one I have had real success with is Betfilter- although it was really complicated to get set up – it worked !

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Hi Monica
How annoying about your new scarf and yes those lanyards are not very strong at all. My one snapped quite quickly.

You poor mum- I know you are planning a trip for her to her homeland so I hope her health recovers soon. I can see where you get your drive from!

I admire your sister for cutting down her alcohol-it must be scary to realise that the decision to have those extra few drinks could potentially shorten your life . I have cut out alcohol – and it hasn’t impacted in any negative way.

Have you any nice plans for your days off ? I have said yes to a lot of social which is unlike me -but I guess that’s a good sign.

I hope your work is going well . In mine I have learned at last to stand up for myself and value myself even when others don’t – I like this new assertiveness , because even if I don’t get what I want I can feel satisfied with the efforts I made!

Hope to meet you in chat soon. Xx

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Hi Laura
Sorry to hear you are feeling low – the loss of a pet is so huge and the house has such an emptiness – when we lost our beloved first dog it was so unbearable – the house felt so cold and empty. Our new little dog (we have her five years now) could never replace the old dog but we soon loved her just as much .

I miss our chats with Monica too. I too have been trying got get to bed earlier – I think looking after our health is so important in recovery .

We have asked for earlier groups but it seems GT staff don’t listen, and I guess the fact that we stay up later than we should sometimes makes it look like the group times are successful.

Keep strong – be extra kind to yourself – and treat yourself often . You are a little fragile right now so you deserve pampering xx

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Hi Monica
Just been catching up on your thread !
I think u should try a different dating agency ! Go for it – life’s to short . There are many very handsome men out there !
Hope your stomach is better and your cough .
It is so hard to work when unwell so Fair play to you for persevering .

If you declare bankruptcy will you be able to work.

With the burden of debt gone and a half decent partitme job you could have a very nice life without too much stress.

Life is short Monica – offload as much burden as you can and say yes to every fun thing you can !

Ps so funny about your son sorting the bags at the dump .

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Well done Craig on all the positive action you can take .
Can you actually block gambling transactions with your bank?
I didn’t know this .

This could save so many of us from a moment of weakness .

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Great post Tango
Many’s the time I thought nothing of spending £30 on gambling but could not afford to go out and spend it on a nice meal or something to wear.

It may be thirty quid over but when we gamble we have nothing to show for it except guilt , pain and self-loathing .

Keep making those right decisions – those thirty pounds soon add up to a happier life !

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Aw Laura
Saying goodbye to a dear pet is one of the hardest things we ever have to do – I think because often the final decision is left to us -they are a huge part of our families and being such love and devotion .
I am so sorry – I know this pain and please be kind to yourself .xx

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Hi Craig and welcome to the site .
Well done on taking this positive action to overcome this horrible addiction.
You have proven that you have strong willpower by already quitting one addiction and you can do the same with this one!

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Hi jack
Whatever our weakness we can be sure that alcohol will not help our resolve to quit or be moderate . For me alcohol doesn’t really make me want to gamble but I put huge mountains of food away when I drink- the result – I look like that same mountain lol!

It is so difficult to stop gambling Jack but i think we learn a little along the way each time we abstain and even each time we have a slip.

You have identied alcohol as a trigger so you could focus on having incredibly high barriers before you drink- like no cash in your pocket , a pre-paid taxi, or whatever it is you need for your circumstances .

You do have a lot to offer someone – you have you !
Although if you could get this horrible addiction under control just think how’s good life would be.

Have you been to Counseling – I think it might be helpful as it could well be that there are real things to blame for you developing this addiction and counselling might be a better way to explore them than on a date ?

Well done for all the days you managed to stay gamble free – this so a process not a miracle cure and you are really working at it !

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