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Hi Kathryn, I will have to check out those dances on You Tube. I know you are going through a nervous time right now, but you will get through it. Think of all the positives. Have a great day. God bless…….NancyLife isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass … it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.
Kathryn, What you are feeling is betrayal. That’s hard to swallow. In 10 more days the waiting will be over. Damien loves you. Fester is nothing! You two have had a good marriage and this has brought you both closer. Not all bad is coming out of this situation. I don’t understand why Fester waited all these years to contact you both. What is expected of your husband if he is the father. Have you asked him this. Are you to be a part of Sasha’s life? You can’t blame the daughter for the sins of the parents. Please remember that. She is innocent. I pray it all works out for your family…………….NancyLife isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass … it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.
I am glad you are keeping strong through all this. I think all men would rather keep their head in the sand and let the wives do all the mental work. My husband is like that. Today I have to call his high school where he graduated 31 years ago to get a copy of his diploma. He needs it for his new job. But I really don’t mind. Kathryn, when all this is done that is the time you will have to keep your guard up. When there is a break and everything is going good, that is when that urge will hit big time. So beware. Have a good day………….NancyLife isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass … it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.
Hi… I wasn’t posting after my slip last weekend, but I have been reading. Glad things are doing so well with you. You sound good. Ready to take on the world. Have a great day. NancyLife isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass … it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.
Kathryn, Have a great time this weekend. Just stay gamble free one day at a time. Don’t worry about tomorrow, it is too overwhelming. You will be fine….. NancyLife isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass … it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.
Kathryn, I’m glad you are feeling happy today. And 40 days wow. My counsellor asked me did I ever think I could stop gambling that long? It feels good doesn’t it? Remember to keep your barriers up. Yes the warm wash rag is a good idea. It will help open the eye faster. Have a happy day……….NancyLife isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass … it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.
Hi Kathryn, I’m glad you are looking at this situation through all the angles. By the time the DNA test come back, you will be able to handle whatever the results are. Know one knows what they would do in your situation. You just have to follow your heart. If God took you to this, He will walk you through this. That is my motto. I will be thinking about you tomorrow. Maybe you should find something to do that will take your mind off that meeting tomorrow. Please stay strong. Remember your husband is going through all this also. You are not alone…………NancyLife isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass … it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.
Each day will get easier Kathryn. As you accept what may be, then you will realize it is just another part of life. I too believe in what Rays says. There is a reason why God does what he does. Be still and hear the voice of God. Keep strong………NancyLife isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass … it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.
You are probably feeling betrayed by your husband. Even though you were separated, it still hurts to get this kind of news. Why that woman waited 15 years is beyond me. I know this is not your case but thought I would share. I met my now husband when his daughter was 13. She has never spent the night with us. I think she has come to visit us 3 times, and that was just for money. She is now 23 and expecting her first child. We see her and her husband only at Christmas. What I am saying is Sasha has her own life. She is naturally coureous about her real father, but I can’t see much of a change in your life. Gee, I think I would have to go with my husband when he meets the child. I don’t like the idea of him meeting with that woman. Are you planning to go with him. Maybe meet at a restaurant or something like that. The DNA test is a good idea. And I am glad you shared the information with Brea. You have raised her right, to be so acceptant of the situation. You are in our thoughts and prayers Kathrn as you are going through this. Just think how much worse it would be if you were still gambling? Stay strong………NancyEveryday we makes choices…..Make your choice today a good one………..
Hi Kathryn, Reading your posts, it’s good to realize there is a life out there where there is no gambling. It seems you are keeping busy with the family. We do need to fill the void of gambling with productive things. Things we have forgotten all about when we were gambling and loosing our money and time. My daughter is on a cruise. Her and her family left yesterday. At 9:30 this morning I got a phone call from her. I was afraid to answer it. She was on the boat in St. Thomas. Her cell phone works there, so she called me to tell me all about the boat. I am so relieved and surprised to get that call. While I was gambling, we were not close. I was always to "busy" to spend time with her. I am much happier now that ever before when gambling………..Have a good day Kathryn… NancyEveryday we makes choices…..Make your choice today a good one………..
Kathryn, If you read my thread a couple of days ago, you will see I was venting on it about my husband. I think that as the fog clears from our minds, we realize that must of our time with our husbands were gambling. Now that is gone we have to find something to replace it. My gambling therapist asks me everytime I see him how are my husband and myself. I thought that was kind of odd, but after my posts, I realize that this was going to happen. It seems all we had in common was going to the bar or casino to gamble. Now that that life is over, what now? I refuse to give up on us. So I have decided not to take everything he says and does personally. Maybe he is having gambling withdrawals too. It does no good to sweat the small stuff and could actually send us back to the casino. I choose not to do that. Hope things work out okay with the husband………NancyEveryday we makes choices…..Make your choice today a good one………..
Good for you. The urges do get easier. You did recognize a trigger and next time you will be more aware. Remember we must never let our guard down. I did after 40 days and slipped. This time I too am aware and on guard… NancyEveryday we makes choices…..Make your choice today a good one………..
Kath, When the urge comes, and it will come, remember how you felt when you left the casino. Remember how much you hated yourself and how you felt you let your children down. Remember it is impossible to win and you can’t afford to loose anymore money. Then take the kids out for a little treat. By the time you ALL get back, the urges will be gone. Do not go out by yourself though. Remember, one day at a time…………NancyEveryday we makes choices…..Make your choice today a good one………..
Good for you…………..NancyEveryday we makes choices…..Make your choice today a good one………..
Hi Kathryn…. I know you will be just fine. Let us know how it goes. You are doing great! ………..nANCYEveryday we makes choices…..Make your choice today a good one………..